My co-worker stole my prescription drugs(vicodin) out of my purse. When i noticed they were missing i watched the video and clearly saw her doing it. She apologized "sincerely", but the same night her and her friend were laughing and joking around like nothing happend. However, after her behavior, i made up my mind to press charges. I know if that was me taking something from somebody there they would not think twice and put me in jail in a heartbeat, not only fire me right away. After that happened everybody started acting like it was my fault all this happened. The girl was finally fired, arrested, spent some time in jail and was bonded out. Then she wrote me a letter, apologizing again even more sincerly and telling how horrible it was, and asking not to press charges because she is going to school for phlebology and such record will influence her whole future.
What do you believe should be done in this situation? Proceed with charges or drop them, if it possible?
2007-10-01 17:56:49 · 10 answers · asked by natasha p 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Others have said that she may simply go back to her old ways if you 'drop' the charges, and this is true. However, the experience she has had of being charged and in the hands of the police may also have scared her straight. It has been known to happen.
If so, she could become a useful member of society by staying on the straight and narrow.
I myself personally know someone this happened to. They were very wild, but being arrested one night brought them down to reality with a bang.
They have now been trouble free for over 20 years, and have a great career and lovely family.
Sometimes people need a chance.
BUT, a lot depends on her attitude.
The fact she knew what Vicodin is suggests she has a wild past ~ will she be able to put that past behind her? Will her family help her to 'go straight'? Is she a person with a brain? Did the letter sound sincere ~ can she be 'scared straight'?
As for your workmates, their attitude is foolish. If you had not put a stop to her activities, would they feel better to hear about her overdosing on drugs one day?
Whatever you decide, you are NOT responsible for what happens with this girl. She has her future in her own hands.
Best wishes and good luck :-)
2007-10-01 19:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a firm believer in "Do the crime, pay the time" She had no business being in your purse let alone taking anything out. If she was arrested, those charges are already on her record and your dropping the charges won't make the arrest go away. Personally I would not drop charges.
2007-10-01 23:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are in the U.S. or not, but usually after someone is arrested they are arraigned and then it is too late to drop charges. i assume you could (if you wanted to) speak to the D.A. and they may reduce the charge or at least not prosecute further.
Personally what I would do is talk to the D.A.s office and let them know what was requested of you. They should be able to tell you if she has other charges against her or any other convictions for the same type of crime. Whether she has any other charges or convictions may help you decide better what to do in this case.
2007-10-01 19:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your coworkers comments probably come from a false sense of trying to help. They may think they're offering good advice for your health but going about it the wrong way. Some people are just skinny. Unless a doctor tells you that you need to gain weight than you shouldn't worry. These comments are inappropriate but shrouded in good intentions perhaps so if you can communicate that it offends you in a graceful way then that would be best.
2016-05-18 22:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t carry narcotics in your purse, or only enough for the dose you need. Carry the narcotic in a baggie so noone knows what it is.. That reduces the danger of theft. Not to mention she could have stolen other things, ( credit cards, wallet).. But I would press charges.
2007-10-02 02:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again she is trying to put the blame on you for her future..
I am not sure what I would do. I might leave it at not pressing charges since she has been fired ..
2007-10-01 18:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if you dropped charges the state would pick it up..
Leave it like it is ...she deserves it. If she had been any kind of person she would of just asked you for a few.
2007-10-01 18:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mustbe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The video is clear evidence that her stealing was premeditated.
Your co-workers or what have you, need to get real because this co-worker stole from you. Stealing is a crime and she needs to do her time.
You did nothing wrong.
2007-10-01 18:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. She needs to learn her lesson, proceed with the charges
2007-10-01 20:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by njyecats 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the crime, do the time. Let her rot in jail, that way ,you are contributing on making her sober and drug free.
2007-10-01 18:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by M2Fast 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋