I know my man once flirted with this younger girl before behind my back a few yrs ago. And I also know that before we hooked up, he cheated on almost all his other gfs. But we've been living 2gether for 4 years now...could he have changed? He was in his teens when he cheated on all those other girls, now he's 24.
Can I trust him?
2007-10-01 17:40:15 · 28 answers · asked by Gwen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we're young, we do stupid things & don't even give it second tho't. Then we grow up & our values change, our relationships change, lots of things change. We realize the REAL meaning of love & what someone means to us. IF you've had NO reasons to believe he's cheated on you, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. He's no doubt just grown up. I don't believe otherwise UNLESS I have GOOD REASON to do so. I certainly by far am NOT the same person I was when I was younger, & would want NO ONE to judge me on how I was in the past. I'm just not that same person, never w/be again. So I'm a living example of people changing for the better. IF you're satisfied & happy, I'd just leave well enuf along & be thankful you have the person you have today. Like the old saying," don't trouble trouble unless trouble troubles you"...Good luck & I'd honestly say you're going to be fine. Just enjoy the person & the love you have w/him...
2007-10-01 17:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. There are some cheaters out there that have cheated once, and can actually change and end up being faithful. However, it is very unlikely for a cheater that has cheated more then once to change. They could change, but I wouldn't trust them.
2007-10-02 02:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a difference between teenage behavior and the behavior of a guy in his mid 20s.
He may just have been immature before as opposed to a cheater.
So he may have grown out of his wilder days, and settled down a bit. Or he may still be a cheating kind. I don't think an expression about cheaters can really encompass every situation and person.
2007-10-02 00:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to ask you why you are writing using words that are not in the English language. This makes your question very hard to understand. What does "Do U believe" mean? Is that like "Do V believe", or "Do W believe"? None of that makes any sense.
What us 2gether. Is that less than 3gether, and more than 1gether? What is gfs? That is not in the English language either. It seems you know English, because the rest of your sentences seem to be in good shape.
If you could rephrase your question, we can probably help you.
2007-10-02 00:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my belief that women's definition of cheating is more board than that of men. Most men, I believe, have a narrower view on what cheating is--they do not believe it is cheating until the vows are made.
Also, I believe that many men do not consider fondling, oral sex, flirting, or porn to be cheating--all of these, I believe, most women would consider cheating.
I disagree that once a cheater, always a cheater. Men like women sexual desires and need to be trustworthy change when they have responsiblites of adults and desire for a lasting relationship.
2007-10-02 00:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - How'd you learn all this information? If it's him who's sharing it with you that's a extremely admirable quality, the fact that he's stepping up and telling you that!
It worries me that you're having doubts now.. 4 years into the relationship.. what brought those doubts up?
Finally, me personally, I believe in second chances. But only second, no third of fourth. And the second chance doesn't come without consequences, like loss of trust, etc.
Trust your instincts on this one would be my best advice. It;s akways great to ask others for their perspectives but honestly, the 'cheating' issue is such a touchy one.
We all make mistakes right?
2007-10-02 00:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you've ever trust him. You starting back into the relationship feeling like that already. You know when we're in our teens we think a lot different then in our 20's so I say forget all that stuff and give the guy a chance. What is your heart telling you? Only you know all the circumstances. Does he make you feel loved?
2007-10-02 00:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe so 95 percent of the time. how many times have you heard from guys that say, "but baby, i can change, i promise, i love you", but only to get your heart broken by them. a cheater will be a cheater unless he loses the "one". example, my cousin used to cheat on girls all the time. his last girlfriend was the "one", but at the time he didnt know. he cheated on her thinking she wouldnt let go of him, just like his other gfs, but this one was different. she let him go and found a new bf. now because of that he never cheats.
2007-10-02 00:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that once you cheat on someone the first time you might do it again with that being said I dont think you would cheat on every relationship you are in. In your case i would say it was probably just immaturity and he probably has grown up from that.
2007-10-02 00:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much you know about him now. He could nave changed for good, or he could have been the stubborn same man he was years ago. Trust depends on how you perceive him now and not by his past, but what he will do in the future. It all relies on you. I personally wouldn't trust him because there's very few people I trust in this world, and trust is very deep.
2007-10-02 00:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by reader 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋