how important is talkin on the phone in a relationship??

Question

hes extremely busy thats why he only calls me once or twince during the week....but we meet every weekend and I know hes not cheating on me....
when we talk about the phone issue he says hes not a phone person and his conversations with friends r usually 3 mins long
but in ALL my past relationships talking on the phone has been VITAL...so this bothers me alot...
how IMPORTANT is talking on the phone in relationships????
(we've been together 8months and he talks about marriage , we r both 25.)

Answer 1

I agree talkin on the phone is very important to keep that communication (spark) going. But like uve said hes really not a phone guy. Just let him know that you would love it if he called you more often, hopefully he'll get the hint that is important to you. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

That really depends. I mean if you guys see each other on the weekend as it is and you already know he isn't a phone person why push the issue? Not many people are phone people. Not only that but there are so many different modes of communication today that even talking on the phone is obsolete. So I say try firing up a few text messages his way or an email or just leave a voice message or something. Because in my view talking on the phone like alot of the time in a relationship is not all that necessary if you aren't seeing that person at all. And another thing why do you have to talk on the phone so much in the first place? I mean is something new and exciting happening in your life so much that talking on the phone is that important? I mean come on, unless you are one of those people that seriously has a cell phone glued to the side of their had 24/7, then I don't see any purpose of being on the phone that much. I say just be thankful he even calls twice a week and makes time to see you on the weekend. Some guys won't even call at all or make time for their girl.

P.S. Just because you date someone for 8 months and regardless of your age, if that person is just not into talking on the phone, no matter what you do, you will not be able to make them talk on that phone anymore than they already are. And besides that 8 months is not eve like a full year beind with the dude. So don't try and make demands on a guy that no doubt is stressed enough from working so much. I mean seriously its only be 8 months, if you aren't officially bf and gf, you could just be annoying him with wanting to talk so much. And I have a strong feeling you might be one of those types of girls that says she wants to talk but then talk about things he is not even close to interested in and then there is all that long pause when you are expecting him to say something but he couldn't careless. So I say find something to do with your time, he will call when he is ready. I don't mean to be cruel about any of this but I have friends just like you, and they always end up pissing the guy off for demanding "phone" time and they don't even say anything new or important to the guy. So he just gets ticked off and doesn't call at all. Don't push a possibly good guy away just because you can't always be with him. Good luck and learn to put the phone down sometimes.

Answer 3

You've only been together 8 months & he's talking marraige? I'd put that idea on hold until the two of you have been living together for a while, since living together & weekend dating are two entirely different experiences.

While it's normal for some couples to not spend a lot of time on the phone, the two of you do need some time to actually talk to each other & really get to know each other beyond the weekends since (let's be honest) you haven't seen each other for 5 days, you are more than likely going to be spending that time having sex. If he doesn't like talking on the phone, why not surprise him with a visit to his home & talk to him one night (even if the two of you are somewhat far away from each other)? This is good because it'll be something spontaneous & you'll get a chance to see your guy in his natural state (not to mention to really check & make sure that there's nobody else in his apartment).

If he doesn't want you coming by his place & if you can't see him more than just the weekend or move in together soon I'd be pretty cautious about this guy. Talking about serious stuff like marraige & kids without actually having the experience of living together can be a big mistake, especially if you rarely talk beyond your weekends.

Answer 4

Try calling him... even if your conversation is only 3 minutes. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's not a phone person either. We still talk to each other daily and see each other on the weekends. It's a real treat when we get to see each other during the week. :)

Don't worry about conversations only lasting a short while... a phone call a day is to simply tell the other person that you're thinking about him/her.

Answer 5

He seems to be a very serious guy. 8 months with you and he is talking about marriage. Telephone conversations are very important, it helps a lot in relationships, like keeping you close all the time. For a couple in love, once or twice a week of phonecalls is a bit too few. Try calling him more often as your relationship goes along.

Answer 6

Talking on the phone is not important at all. In fact in a relationship you should avoid all talking on the phone and talk face to face.

Tons of guys..at least half of them, like myself, are not phone people...so they don't talk on the phone more then a couple minutes

Answer 7

it doesnt matter how u talk whether its the phone, text, or email. as long as there is good communication between both of you it shouldnt matter. trust and communication is key to every relationship. if you dont have one of them. ur just wasting ur time

Answer 8

I hate talking on the phone. I'd rather text or speak in person.

Answer 9

just communicate with him with him so long in the phone... though he appreciates that you call him..

just tell him how much you miss him...
and love him... that would be fine...