ok am just kinda frustrated right now so please read and tell me if am just wasting my time on this guy..PLEASE.Ok so this guy and I used to talk and we both liked eachother and even went out and hung out at my house a few times but we never did anything..not even kiss. I have never been in a serious relationship and am 20(he's 20 too). Anyway so one day I finally asked this guy where "we" were going with "us" and he said he had something to figure out with his ex..that got me kinda confused so I didnt call him until he called me one random day(2/3 weeks later) and I really was TRYING to get over him so I was being sorta mean..so that convo ended pretty fast. So anyway, about 2 weeks went by again and we hadnt spoken until I called him to thank him for the B/day gift he sent me which then got me thinkiing 'why would he send me a gift if he didnt want anything to do with me?' ..that convo was better than our last but I cut it short cause I honestly didnt know the right words to say...
2007-10-01 17:08:47 · 7 answers · asked by Cilantro 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
anyway so then, again, 2/3 weeks went by and he called me to ask if I was going to some function..I said no and he was like.."seriously though, why arent you coming?" and although I like this guy..I keep saying the wrong fn things when I do talk to him...I ended up not going and he was actually supposed to call me abck later that night but didnt...now am wondering if he's just completely over it..or was he just being nice(cause he IS really nice) to start with...what is wrong with me? Now I sit around waiting to see if he'll call again...and I try to get over him but I cant for too long..is it normal to have strong feelings like this toward someone you havent even kissed? or am I just infuated because I miss him? Please help..am such a mess over this guy now..
2007-10-01 17:13:35 · update #1
...I thought guys didnt even care about b/day gifts?
2007-10-01 17:18:28 · update #2
Thanks guys..maybe am being a little naive and choosing not to see the truth..its time to move on..although I wont lie..it wont be that easy..or automatic
2007-10-01 17:31:26 · update #3
Sounds like he's one unsure person. Do you really want to get involved w/a person like that? Someone who doesn't know what to do about his g/f, but still is "tugging" on your heart strings, kinda like keeping you in the back ground. Of COURSE if you give him the "go ahead" he'll keep you on the side lines just in case it doesn't work out w/his g/f. He's as transparent as a pain of glass & you can see rite thru him. I don't know, but I wouldn't want to get involved w/someone who down the line w/be wa lking out out of your life too one day doing the same thing to you. You're getting far along fine w/o him in your life, so just LEVE HIM there. Who needs that, you sure don't! Good luck, & stay strong for YOU...
2007-10-01 17:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sue C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not critize yourself ? You are your own best freind / best guide / judge of what is right / wrong for you. Value you yourself . trust yourself.
he is the party with the issue .. you have interpreted all signals / followed all proper usual and customary excpetations.
honestly , until he makes , a decision and is ready , he maybe has showed you respect as well. why lead you on / enter into second relationship if he still has issues with first. ?
i would wait it out / and would also entertain new options.
I would rather to know his is not available than to have him lie / conceal he is married / has serious relationship after you had intevested more time / love / energy into this ? yes, you do hurt right now .. but you will will recover faster than if this first relationship for you had progresssed / advanced. harder to heal / to have recovered from.
i think you really are the winner in this although you probably do not see it that way clearly now ? it is hard to sort though things .
release your frustration and know you are beautiful , young woman with many new men to meet .
2007-10-02 00:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mildred S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy doesn't care about you that much if he waits 2 or 3 weeks to call you, and tells you that he has to "figure things out with his ex." There are just too many variables that make this equation wrong. He wants you to sit around by the phone while he goes out and has his fun...move on, you don't need a guy that's going to be wishy-washy and fickle.
2007-10-02 00:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by lovefool1050 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. Put it all out on the table and see how he feels. If he's not on the same page with you, you'll know it's not meant to be, at least not right now.
2007-10-02 00:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by god_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this guy likes you all that much. If he did he would make a move.
The b/day gift is meaningless...to a guy that is just something you do because your told...there is no feeling to it at all.
2007-10-02 00:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl hes not in o you cause if he was he would have showed by nown you already said something before so theres no need for you to do it again move on sweet heart
2007-10-02 00:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by fattyb1980 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow u got problems
2007-10-02 00:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋