need words of wisdom for grandmother with cancer....?

Question

she found out a few weeks ago that she has cancer in both lungs, liver & throat, and today found out that it is stage 4.
she will be starting chemo shortly. however, since she found out about this, she has pretty much given up on things, but she does have other probs other than the cancer that causes alot of pain for her.
i would like to fix a plaque with words of wisdom with expressed words that she can fight this no matter what. she believes in GOD, so i would also like something in it about having faith & believing, letting her know that she can't give up & must fight this battle. anything poem/rhyme related would be great....

also, would you by chance know if cancer (lung) would make her chest REALLY sore/hurt??

Answer 1

In my experiences with this, your Grandmother probably needs to feel loved and supported. Be aware that she may be feeling all sorts of things inside, and sometimes those mixed up feelings come out wrong.

My suggestion is to get a book called "What Cancer Cannot Do". This book has inspirational words in it that have done a lot to help a great many people in your Grandmother's situation. I know. I have read the book, and given it to a few different people with late stages of cancer.

More important than the book, though, is giving yourself.

I did not look to see how old you are, or whether you are male of female for that matter. Even so, you seem articulate enough to understand that the greatest gift of all is Love. Love can be shown all different ways, but it is very difficult to do if you stay away.

God gives each and every one of us confidence to do what we must do. Satan, of course, tries to make us think that we just "can't do it".

Right now, it seems to me that your Grandmother needs to be surrounded by Love.

She may be fearful. Most of us are when we must face the unknown. Love can help her stand up to her fears and let her lean on God for support.

She has spent a lot of time on the Earth, considering that she is a grandmother, after all. I imagine that she may already be missing things that she has grown fond of. Love, however, will let her look beyond what she will be missing to what she will gain by moving on to live with God.

She may be realizing that there are still things on her "to do" list that will never really get done. Love will let her realize that God's "To Do" list must come first.

She may have regrets over things from her past. A cross word here, and bad judgement there. Love will remind her that God has already forgiven her of any wrongdoing. She can relax and accept the Grace of God.

But, there have been good things. A favorite song. A poem. Love will continue to bring these things to the front of her mind.

Perhaps if you opened the door for your Grandmother to talk about things important to her, she would be able to rally her strength and carry on.

Maybe if you found out her favorite song, and then found a copy of it on a CD to play for her, she would enjoy that.

Stage 4 cancer is serious business. God has the power to take it away, but you must be ready to accept whether God chooses to remove it or not.

Use the confidence from God to be able to stand up and show your Grandmother the Love she needs, regardless of what anybody says, and regardless of whatever fears you may have.

Not only will your Grandmother be blessed, but so will you. It may not become obvious exactly what your blessing is right away, but you will see it when the time is right.


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I read some of the other answers. Yes, cancer can (and does) cause pain, but not in all cases. The one thing I see regularly as people move through the stages of cancer is being tired. VERY VERY tired. I have walked this path most recently with my brother, who passed away in August, and with my dear friend Elaine, who passed in February.
There have been several others, too.

Answer 2

Yes, sadly Cancer hurts. Lung Cancer will make her Chest hurt quite a lot. My own Grandmother fought this horrible disease and unfortunately succumbed to it in 2004. Depending on how old she is and the fact that it is spread to so many places .... i really wish the best for you and her. Be there for her. Tell her you love her. When i say be there for her, i mean that most likely as she fights this and is in Chemo, she will become quite ill from the Chemo. She might be Bedridden and on a lot of Pain killers, she will need someone to help clean her up and make her comfortable. If she is in an acute amount of Pain please do not make her feel like she has to stay with you and your Family. Let her know that its ok to go. The Human Mind is an amazing thing and you can force yourself to live through a lot of needless pain. That being said i really really hope that she heals from this and that you have her for a long time to come. Im sorry i dont know any secret words of wisedom.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. I can't think of any poems or sayings right now but as for fighting the cancer.The ones that have recovered from Cancer have used meditation, creative visualization ie imagining the cancer shrinking and leaving the body. Thinking positive they can beat it (yes I know this is hard) and telling themselves they can beat this. Also diet is important as in avoiding cancer causing foods.

There is sites online that give lots of tips about the stuff I mentioned from cancer survivers. I suggest you look at some and maybe print some stuff out for her, if she sees examples of other people that have overcome cancer it will give her encouragement and hope. Maybe you can buy her a audio tape of a book by a cancer survior, so she can hear their story.

Answer 4

Cancer Poems For Grandma

Answer 5

The words of wisdom are these,"...he that believes in me(JESUS CHRIST) though he were dead yet shall he live. If she has never been born-again (Jo.3:3) she must be. I'm sorry just believing in God is not enough,the devils believe and tremble.If your gramma will leave this earth with a smile on her face and peace and comfort in her soul let her receive Christs salvation and be covered by the blood of the lamb.It is the gospel that will set her free, not human setiment.If she will give God whatever days she has left,He will give her eternal life in His paradise. That is the cure,He is the cure! Find a protestant pastor and he'll show her the way.I'll pray for your loved one.

Answer 6

Read Isaiah 43:2. Also, Psalm 56:3. There is a website called, NetHugs.com. They have a lot of inspirational poems. You can click on their link to receive their newsletter sent to your E-mail address. Their newsletter contains at least four links within the body of the letter that you can click. These will take you to what they call, E-cards, special cards designed by users of the site. Often there is soothing music that is played along with the card.

Also, remember to tell your grandmother that Jesus promised us that He would be with us always, even until the end.

Answer 7

My mother died of lung cancer in 2004. Such words will be little comfort to her during this pain and suffering. I know. My mother was a Christian. She was in stage 4 when she found out, too.

Yes, her chest is going to hurt. She is going to cough alot and pound her chest because there's something inside making it hard for her to breath. She's going to cry and get weak. She's going to beg for relief. She'll burst into tears sometimes and eventually its going to be hard for her mind to function properly. The cancer is going to eat up all the energy in her body and the chemo is going to make it difficult for her to keep her food down.

I wish I knew what to say to comfort you but there really is very little that actually will. Even for all your claims of believing in god, it will be no comfort when someone you love is dying a slow painful death.

Just a few words of advice. Tell her you love her. Hug her and be there for her. Listen to her talk about the good times, look at pictures with her. It will tear you up inside, but she NEEDS this. And so do you.

I wish I had had a last chance to say goodbye to my mother before she died. I had been going to go to the hospital after work that day but she died before I got off for the day. I hadn't seen her in three days so I didn't get the chance to tell her I love her a last time and to say goodbye.

Don't make the mistake I did. And don't preach to her. She has enough problems.

Answer 8

Psalms 23...very comforting...well, depends on how you look at it...

Don't make a plaque...it would be good if you wrote up a little speech and memorized it and was able to say it without the paper infront of you and have a bunch of inspirational quotes...and make her a card telling her you're in her prayers and stuff....

I did that with for my teacher and she liked it very much(of course I gave the speech during a group prayer and not to her) but it would still be the same...

Answer 9

No, even when people yawn I don't. I like to play a game with my friends where someone will yawn and we saw who yawns first. I never usually win unless I'm sick with a cold because I get so tired it's as if I stayed up a whole week with a wink of sleep.

Answer 10

I am so very sad to hear about your Grandmother. I see this sort of thing all the time in my work. This is one part of scripture that I get comfort from

Our soul waits for the Lord. He is our help and our shield For oue heart rejoices in His holy name. Let Thy lovingkindness, O Lord be upon me According as we have hoped in Thee
Psalms 33: 20-22