ok, my 4 year old, had head lice that she got from school. I treated, and she no longer has them. My older daughter had them, she watned her head shaved so she could go back to church. I do not go to church, BTW, and so when the bus comes to pick them up, they are forced to sit away from the other children. I am, by nature, an outspoken person, and I am not known to be tactful, Christian, or not when i speak to someone. This last Sunday, my 4 yr old's sunday school teacher placed a bright blue bandanna, way too large, on her head and made her wear it all through this carnival that was going on. The entire church had seen this. The pastor, an elderly man, did not put a stop to it, and when I had tried to call, I was disconnected several times. My daughter, is developmentally delayed, and does not realize what is going on. Her older sister does not want to disrespect her elders by telling them not to do these things, and risk getting in trouble. What can I do legally ? I am VERY angry.
2007-10-01 14:48:06 · 25 answers · asked by Dragonflygirl 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
my 4 year old wants to do everything that her older sis does, and that includes going to church. I do not dump her on the doorstep, nor do i allow her to go very often, but in the few times she did go, she had those things happen to her, and I was just notified by her older sister, who informed me that she didn't want to tell me for fear I would not allow her to go back to church.
2007-10-01 15:04:55 · update #1
I wouldn't worry about legal stuff, I'd get my kids to another church! Real Christians LOVE each other.
2007-10-01 14:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Linni 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I'm friends with the other Catholics that have already answered, Tebone, Tolstoyevsky, Andrew, Eric, ImaCatholic. First this is a very tough call. Theologically, I believe you are correct that you should not attend. It is OK for Catholics to attend a protestant wedding. But if either one of the parties is divorced, then they are instructed not to attend that wedding because they would be promoting adultery. Likewise theologically it would hold that one would not attend a gay wedding. BUT, and this is a big BUT, I'm not sure where the church stands if it is your own child. For the greatest commandment is love and there is no greater love than loving when you would rather not. Here's how I would personally decide. It really depends upon what type of relationship you have with you daughter. 1) If it is already somewhat distant, then not attending the wedding will not change anything, you are already estranged anyway. 2) If however, you are really close, and it would put a strain on the love between the two of you, then attend. The key is the LOVE between the two of you which you don't want to damage. 3) If you are really close, and she wouldn't be offended or not too much, then don't attend. I doubt this is very likely though, since if you are really close it would hurt her for you not to be there. Is there a reception that you could attend instead? Bottom line, I would never risk breaking any love you have between you and your daughter. I would probably attend. Just my opinion, I'm sure some will disagree. Still really tough call.
2016-04-06 23:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know that you can do anything legally, but first of all, I would be thankful that the lice is gone, and then I would try and encourage my children to find another church to attend. For God most certainly has no part in this matter. But may I encourage you to try and start attending church with your children; finding the right one to attend of course. Most importantly, make certain that you have been saved by the blood of Jesus Christ. If you have not been done so, all that you must do is to call upon the Lord Jesus, and ask Him to forgive you for your sins. (1 John 1:9 and Rom. 10:13) You must always set a good example for your children. And the greatest way that you can ever do such, is to try and raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord Jesus.
2007-10-01 14:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by Calvin S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How were they supposed to know the head lice was treated, and whats so wrong about a 4 yr old wearing a bandanna? I don't understand what your mad about and neither will the court. So if you feel like tossing a couple K$ to a lawyer go ahead, but you won't win.
2007-10-01 14:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Marmeladov 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Screw the legal bit. These kind of people have NO business around yours or any other children.
Pull them out and get them to another church. And really, you should go with them, if for no other reason to keep an eye on them. This kind of sh*t could lead so things far worse than a bright head scarf.
2007-10-01 14:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can either go with them to church or take them out of it.
They could also be treated differently because you don't attend with them, and they may think that you are just using the church and sunday school as a free babysitter.
2007-10-01 17:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by contessaharridan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find another church. Forget about going legal on this thing. It would cost you too much. Just let it go and find another church.
If you are not an Xtian, why would you want your kids to be? That part was a little baffling to me. But I'm an atheist.
2007-10-01 16:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by daphne g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest going to the church and asking for an explanation rather than trying to phone. why would you try and do something legally before you even talk to them civilly about it? there might (or might not) be a reasonable explanation for what was happening. try and approach it as a responsible adult without necessarily jumping on them just because they are a church and have more expectations placed on them. im sure if the same situation had happened at school you would go in to speak to your daughters teacher or principal.
2007-10-01 14:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Miss M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would go so far as legal action but I would take my children out of that church and find another one and maybe even go with them. In a world like today be thankful you have children that want to go church.
2007-10-01 14:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by Alliance Kicks Horde Butt 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably nothing. You can't prove that they were discriminating just because they put a bandana on her head. You weren't there and don't know why someone may have thought to do that. You have your perception of the situation and whomever put the bandana on her head has their own viewpoint. It's merely a difference of opinion at this point. Without being present, you don't have much control over what other adults to do your children. Think about it. What you CAN do is go to church with them.
2007-10-01 14:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by *s*t*a*r* *d*u*s*t* 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't have much say if you're sending your daughter to an institution with which you have no affiliation. How you can send your developmentally-delayed child to a place with which you have no connection is beyond me. How could you just dump her on their doorstep and then be rudely outspoken when you don't approve of her treatment? You should forget your legal rights and assume your duties as a mother. Don't dump your kid off and then whine when you don't approve of the treatment she got at the free day-care. If you want the care and concern of a church, you need to be a PART of it and not a parasite sucking off of it. You have the potential to be a good parent, and it's up to you, not the legal system in this case, to ensure the proper treatment of your child.
2007-10-01 14:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by rb29440 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋