Small, intimate wedding that is SUPERfly, or bigger wedding (min. 150 people) that is a little less superfly, and take a very nice vacation to a SUPERfly resort, or save the money? Or, better yet, get married downtown and keep the cash? Or, maybe destination? So many choices ...
2007-10-01 14:39:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh yeah ... and I'm NOT a backyard wedding type, or anything like that. I think it's tacky. Either way, it will be a "black tie invited" event, whether it's large or smaller. When I say smaller, I mean about 75-100 people.
2007-10-01 14:55:22 · update #1
Sorry ... one more comment: the groom will pay for the honeymoon, but still, it's coming out of his pocket, which is techincally my pocket from the "I do" moment, so it's like ... same difference. You know?
2007-10-01 14:56:07 · update #2
I highly endorse the small intimate wedding (husband and I did a $5K Las Vegas wedding for 40 that was ridiculously fun and exactly what we wanted). It's really nice to be able to actually sit and talk to my guests -- particularly since a bunch of them flew cross country to be there. That left plenty of $$ for a honeymoon in Hawaii, a downpayment on a SUPERfly house, renovating the house to make it even more SUPERfly, and SUPER-DUPERfly trips the next two years to South America and Africa. The wedding is one day -- the money you save buys a hella lot of kickass memories of a different kind over the years.
Good luck and congrats!
2007-10-01 15:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the need to spend 25-50 thousand for a wedding. This is what Mother Culture has done to us. Get married in a dress and him a suit at the courthouse. Dinner for family and friends later.
Save the money for the rest of your life together. You are no more "legally " married with a huge expensive wedding.
I really hate to say this but " Your Big Day" will only be noticed by a few people. It will not be a world wide event and to get so caught up in the pageantry and expense is shallow and really kind of wasteful.
Yeah, we did the big wedding too. In a church with the reception there and a 36 hour honeymoon. Total cost for engagement ring, wedding rings, her dress and the honeymoon......$1,900. dollars. Were still married 34 years later but semi retired and no house payment.
2007-10-02 04:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ret. Sgt. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were 100 people at my wedding, which was somewhere between really small and on the bigger side. I would say if you have to chose go for the smaller one, and invite the people that are most important to you. In the long run you will be happier instead of just trying to cram all the people you can at your wedding.
2007-10-02 06:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Backyard weddings are not tacky if done well, my sister in law's home is a huge 5 bedroom house with a gorgeous landscaped garden and inside it looks like a boutique classy hotel, so don't be so quick to judge. My wedding was anything but tacky, yes it was informal, but not all of us want something formal, what suits one person may not suit another person. This decision is really between you and your groom, but I'd rather have something small and done well, with good food than something huge and not such good food.
2007-10-02 05:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is tacky about a backyard wedding? Well i guess if you have your reception in the garage then yeah thats tacky. I love the small tastefull wedding, ceremony was in my backyard flower garden we landscaped our selves, and reception was in a hotel ball room there was 80 - 100 people max we spent was 3,000 and took a 10 day trip to maui and the big island of hawaii. small wedding, great honeymoon/vacation a must......... people really should see it this way....... its the most logical in my opinion
2007-10-01 23:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs ACO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go small and intimate. You can use the money you save on the honeymoon or building your life together. The day of your wedding is just that!... one day of your entire life. It is a special day... but make it special buy creating happy memories with the select friends and family you have.
2007-10-01 21:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by gecko440 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we did small (22 people) closest friends and immediate family only. We found a nice Inn and had a beautiful and cozy dinner and followed into the pub (but classy) for music and dancing.
Then took off to nice honeymoon. Never regretted a moment and it was the time of our lives.
With a large wedding, you cant spend time with anyone - you are too busy making small talk with everyone and it goes by so fast
2007-10-01 21:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by selery222 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Same questions that I am asking myself! Are you paying for the wedding or your parents? If your parents are, ask them. It sounds like you are paying for it since you mention the honeymoon (usually the groom's family pays for that). I would save as much as you can for your future...the wedding is only one day. I would spend more on the honeymoon...
2007-10-01 21:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a smaller wedding (say 70 people) then have a decent honeymoon.
2007-10-02 01:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one am for the smaller, intimate wedding (especially the ceremony).
However, your wedding is something you and your future family (his included) need to decide. Also do not let anyone bully you on this day.
2007-10-05 18:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by chaosfrog81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋