I read that the traditional way was for the male to keep his name going, but then what if the female is the last one in her family with the last name for example? Or maybe it doesn't matter and tradition should still hold in this case, or would you support another decision? What would be your reasons for your choice?
2007-10-01 14:36:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No people I am not getting married, I just wanted to know your thoughts on the matter. Thanks. :-)
2007-10-01 16:09:15 · update #1
So I've gotten answers that said that the traditional way is like an honorary thing and it's bloodline, and one should be happy to change their last name. Just my thoughts-could all that not work as a two way street? It doesn't seem that people see it as 'honorary' or something to be happy about if it were the male changing his name from what I've read on here. Is it simply because she's female, or what? Why all the one sided views? This also goes for the person who said female names don't matter-I'm interested in why they think that.
Note: I'm not trying to come off as feminist-just what's wrong with a two way street (view) regarding 'respect' for a name is all I'm trying to get across.
2007-10-05 14:13:42 · update #2
My boyfriend and I are discussing marriage and he is considering taking my last name. I am willing to take on his name, but we are not sure yet. A few reasons we are looking at: He already has a hyphenated name because his parents got divorced so it is already long, I do not want to add a third name to that so we will not be combining our names like many do, He likes my last name better :) hard to argue with that, It would be easier for my career to keep my last name. So, I am not sure if that helps: one way or another when we get married we will have the same last name, I am just not sure whether I will take his or he will take mine. Personally I think it is pretty neat if a man is willing to take his wife name and is honoring her family by allowing that name to continue. I also know people who use the wife's maiden name as the first or middle name of their child (some names work well for this, others not so much) Traditions can be great, but don't feel that you are required to follow them. What matters most is that you love and respect each other and come to a decision together.
2007-10-05 05:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by gilmts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep your own last name, you won't have to fill out all kinds of pesky forms or stand in line at the Social Security office, but you will also have to explain over and over that you're married. If your family name is important to you, I'd consider that a perfectly good reason to keep it. Hyphenating the names works well, especially if they sound good together, but keep the kids' names short! I've heard of couples who make up a completely new name for themselves, and both change. Anything you decide to do is just fine.
2007-10-01 14:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by shadowbaby4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think whoever wants to should. My sister and I are the end of the family line. I am very traditional and therefore took my husbands name. My sister is quite the opposite, if she actually gets married she will probably keep her name and if she has children she will hyphenate their names.
2007-10-01 14:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got married for the second time... I decided he was going to change his name - I had already done it once. ha! no - I am very traditional in this - the woman changes her name. It's not about the name and keeping it "alive". It's about loving God, living life and your family.
2007-10-01 14:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who's name is used. Either way one of the couple is going to have to go through the hassle of changing their name, or they can both keep their own last names. It isn't a major issue.
2007-10-01 16:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The final call of the new child would be positioned on the beginning certificates after beginning by way of the determine(s). If the mothers and dads are single or married, the final call will extraordinarily much constantly be the final call of the daddy. If the mummy does not be attentive to the call of the daddy, she'll many times make up a final call.
2016-12-14 05:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take his name its the most important thing a man gives a woman. His name is his bloodline if he loves you enough to give you that you should proudly accept. Maybe I'm old fashioned but somethings are sacred.
2007-10-01 14:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by sweetcavebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is up to the individuals in the relationship. I have personally seen a guy takes his wife's name.
You may want to hyphenate the name, if the name is that important. If he truly understands your desire to keep the name, and truly loves you, he will be supportive of the hyphen.
2007-10-01 14:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Boydness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would take my husbands name.
My children have his name even though we arent married.
I just think that its a tradition for the man to give his name to his family.
Kinda like a honory thing.
Weird, when you really think about it, but it works for me.
2007-10-01 14:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman takes her husband's name of course. That's the proper way to go. Doesn't matter about the womans name.
2007-10-01 14:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋