Would you rather be in a bad relationship that makes you act irrational?

Question

Than the fear of being alone is greater than the pain of the relationship?

I am single but I know many people like this that stay in relatioships even married for so many years...kids and all...

Answer 1

I'd rather be alone than be in a bad relationship any day of the week or a year if need be!!

Answer 2

i don't know. i'm still trying to learn relationships as i grow older. but i've been in a bad relationship, before, and from that incident it seems like i was sticking up for the relationship rather really being with the guy. i guess when you're in any kind of relationship that is not platonic, there's always this kind of irrationality. it is greater known that human beings-persons- cannot do away with being alone. no man is an island, they say. so the fear of being alone is more of a human instinct. and some just stay in a bad relationship maybe because there are no alternatives. so i guess being alone is more scary than being in a bad relationshp. take the case of an abused and battered wife -with kids- who cannot get out of the relationship because the fear of being alone- aside from the fear of taking care of their kids alone financially- is greater than any punch she take. this is the most typical scenarion for battered wives. they say that they're better off within a bad relationship rather than in a bad situation of taking care and providing for the children alone.
i don't know. it's different for everyone. but for me, at this stage of my life, the fear of being alone is something i can't handle, rather than the the pain of a relationship of any kind. but one thing i won't allow is for me to act senseless- i can accept irrationality, but senseless no. i'd have to knowe if a relationship that's causing me pain should end. i should know when is the time for me to be better off alone. =)

Answer 3

Too bad your question didn't offer a real alternative to the bad relationship---unless your fragmented comment about fear of being alone was it---hard to tell. Then again, I've known plenty of good relationships where irrationality was a key factor in the togetherness.
On the whole, bad relationships are bad, good relationships are generally good. The fear of being alone can get you into either kind of relationship, and rationality isn't a factor at all.

Answer 4

No. I have too much experience with that. Things are pretty good now, but I would choose being alone over a bad relationship if I were not with my husband and did not have other choices. No matter how much you love someone, if they are impossible and put nothing into the relationship, it's never going to work.

Answer 5

Why would you want to be in a bad relationship which makes you act irrational? And when your friends are all discussing how great their significant other is, how are you going to feel. Wouldn't you want to be in a nice loving relationship where you are happy and you feel good about yourself and your mate. I rather be alone than be in a relationship that is bad and going nowhere.

Answer 6

Could you define what a 'bad relationship' is? I am happy in certain ways and unhappy in others. For me I rather try and salvage a relationship than to lose it. For the cause of my unhappiness is within me. If I don't deal with that first, then no matter how many times I try I will be met with the same kind of relationship. Happiness is never obtained from the other.
Maybe we put too much emphasis on looking outside for our answers. Maybe we should look inside ourselves and find out what truly motivates us. I telling you, this Y/A is forcing me to really dig deep into myself. Something to ponder about......

Thanks for yet another great Q.

Answer 7

No..there are more people out there!! I personally can't deal with complications in relationships..I know there are ups and downs, but constant fighting, blaming, cursing, etc...is bad. It makes you in worse health also!! I would much rather be alone than in a relationship such as that--in fact you are better off on your own if you were dealing with that!!

Answer 8

In general I would rather be alone, but maybe there comes a time when I feel it's now or never and that kind of pushes me toward trying things that otherwise I wouldn't feel the need to.

Answer 9

I like alone, its always the wonderful lovemaking / sex that overrides any logic in my brain and drives me back to a painful relationship.
Thinking with the small head and not the big head has caused myself tons of grief.
At least I can admit this, even to myself..

Answer 10

having been there it`s easy to think that `for the sake of the kids we must stick together`. If you see this logicaly you can see that the atmosphere of an unhappy home just makes everyone unhappy. It is better for all to seek the best solution that will work.