Well, after a relationship breake up, some people might experience low self esteem . Can someone tell me what to do? HELP!!! =(
2007-10-01 14:09:44 · 25 answers · asked by kalishegirl13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to start believing in yourself! You are an amazing and wonderful person just as you are, even without a boyfriend!! You are complete as you are. No one else is needed to complete you, they simply enhance your happiness, but you need to be happy no matter what! You have to believe you are worth the best and do not settle for second best. Do not base your self worth on what others' opinions of you are! If anyone else puts you down it is to make themselves feel better - very selfish! Live you best life everyday and you will attract the best in your life and you will start to feel awesome! don't doubt yourself just cause you broke up with someone. It is THEIR loss, not yours! You are still an awesome person, sometimes things are just not meant to be! Hope that helps! :-)
2007-10-01 14:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Roxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that the break up meant that was not the right person for you for one reason or another. try going out with others who make you feel good about yourself if you can. In the meantime, set yourself little, daily goals and reach them and feel good about yourself when you do. try to find people to associate with who appreciate you for who you are and not for who you are not. There are many who will always work to bring down the self esteem of others and they are the ones to avoid because they either have no self esteem themselves or their self esteem is not based upon reality. good Luck to you!
2007-10-01 21:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To simply say “I love myself!” or “I’m okay!” or “I’m beautiful” is as useless as saying “I am a great driver” when you can’t drive and have never taken a driving lesson. Unless you actually take some action to “love yourself more” or to make yourself prettier or whatever, your life (and your level of self-esteem) will remain pretty much the same. Acquiring a healthy level of self-esteem is more about setting goals and taking action to achieve those goals than it is about chanting mantras.
One of the most rewarding, and most overlooked, ways of building your self-esteem is to set small, achievable goals and work toward that goal with a passion.
Once you’ve reached your first goal, you’ll begin to understand what achievement really means to healthy self-esteem.
2007-10-02 08:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself and know who you are and what you want in life...
Know that everone has beauty and learn to know where it is in you and appresiciate it...
Some day a really good guy is going to both spot and appreciate those things and love and respect you for it too
That said do not try to make changes just to get a guy...yes be flexible but do make drastic changes without good reason...
because changin constantly will make you miss out possibly on the one or ones who could be just right for you
relax and take your time it'll come... might brush up on the non verbal communications skills that all relationships sprout from
Walt
2007-10-01 21:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ronk W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you it took me years to learn this and a lot of books and a lot of friends to tell me, but now I realize every morning I loook in the mirror and I tell my self I am the **** and the jokes I've been with are jokes! Have u ever noticed a big person with a positive ,popular cocky attitude? Or someone ugly who is cocky as heck? It's all a mind thing. Tell ur self u r the bomb and who cares what anyone thinks of you and u'll find someone way better. No one attracts negativity or insecurity
2007-10-01 21:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by stefanie2889 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being alone for a while. Spend some time and do things you enjoy. Don't think about or worry about getting in another relationship right away. Find yourself and make it all about you for a while. Self confidence is very attractive, you'll get it back it's just going to take some time.
2007-10-01 21:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep yourself busy and don't talk with the person who broke your heart that will not help. I would find some people to hang out with, join something you always wanted too and cheer up. Just because he didn't want you doesn't mean that is all guys... there are alot more out there the will think you are perfect for him and he'll treat you way better than this guy ever did. Hang in there and smile!
2007-10-01 21:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by smalltalk4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new hobbies. Take up dance lessons, learn a new language, take up painting or sculpting. Something that will take up all your time and keep your mind focused on YOU.
At the same time, you may end up meeting someone new.
This is a great self-esteem booster.
-Good luck!
2007-10-01 21:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about it till you cant talk about it any more. then give yourself a chance to grieve because you can do that. Its still a loss so take your time. remember that its you and how long you take is just how long you take. break ups hurt so take time out to talk to people you trust, and maybe keep a journal of how you feel. use your thoughts and remember you are human and feeling is one of the many things you do.
its normal to feel lonely, sad and just plain down about it but thats what happens when you invest in someone and its ok. You take the time to heal at your own pace.
2007-10-01 21:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by netta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have low self esteem. Keep your head up and never let anyone tell you what you can do. Make sure you no that you are you and no one can change that.
2007-10-01 21:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋