idk...me and my ex just broke up a couple of weeks ago...you can say that i'm over him. anyways...i met this guy and been talking to him. i really enjoy talking to him and think that maybe it can go somewhere. but with the way, my last relationship ended. there was no closure or what not. so it makes it hard for me to trust other guys. the guy i been talking to been kinda busy lately and we hardly talk. i mistaken it as him ignoring me, or didn't want to talk to me anymore. and he was offended you can say. now, idk what to do. he probably won't talk to me anymore. he is leaving in a few days for work reasons. what can i do or say to fix this?
2007-10-01 13:44:54 · 23 answers · asked by SS3_GrL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly...thx for all your answers...sadly i can't choose all as best answers...
2007-10-03 15:26:32 · update #1
go tlk to him. tell him exactly whats on your mind and be straight up about ti..that always works for me
good luck
2007-10-01 13:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by super_chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just gonna be straight with you. Seems to me you may be carrying some un-necessary baggage from you previous relationship into the next. Plus you never know what kind of girl he was dating in his previous relationship........ Maybe she nagged him all the time about ignoring her. If so I'd be offended if a new girl was to sound similar to a relationship I just ended........ The best move would not be to tell him how your previous relationship ended and why you feel so insecure, unless he asks...... Why? This could be a real turn off, you don't want him to think he has to deal with helping you sort through drama. At least not this early in the relationship. Just tell him that you missed talking with him/ spending time with him..... whatever it is you guys do. Let him know you over reacted. Then start over........... Note: Just because you have a bad experience with one; doesn't mean that all will turn out the same way...... You are dealing with a whole new personally. Good Luck
2007-10-01 14:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by redguy411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way toooo much drama for a new person ,
This is why guys avoid some girls like the plague .
Just call and be friendly , You do NOT know each other well enough for all this drama .
At this stage you may be friends but anything else is disneyland time .
Stop , come back to reality . Call and be friendly .
All that trust , closure and what not would have me booking a flight far far away .
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2007-10-01 13:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to try to talk to him and explain your issues and get them out there in the open. This will not only make you feel better to get it off your chest, but he will most likely reassure you that he is a guy you can trust and make you feel better about things.
He will never know how you feel if you don't tell him. And even if things don't turn out how you want, at least he will know how you feel.
I think though once he realizes how you feel, he won't be upset with you. Just be honest and open. The main thing is, you have to at least try to talk to him. Don't just assume that he probably won't talk to you. Because then it will eat you up inside that you never even tried to talk to him and that will be a whole other issue!
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-01 13:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by starashley46123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call/visit him and explain you didn't mean it like it sounded, you are really stressed at the moment, and you appreciate him. Stress can do a lot of things to people, and he should be able to understand that. But don't rely on that guy for your only support. Go out and try to do other things and see friends, relatives, etc.
2007-10-01 13:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to your ex if your really love him it would be kind of hard to get over him, the new guy you been talking to I think you should take it slow just in case you and him don't work out right.
2007-10-01 13:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by GiA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just act cool treat hm like a friend and not as someone you might be in a relationship in the futer just say hey im sorry for acussing you of things and god luck with work and i'll talk to you when you get back and everything will be cool
2007-10-01 13:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by fongirlz4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have this same situation...trust comes hard due to past failures though a person says they are over things with ex's. i really like this guy too. he persued me, we met up, had great convos in person and on the phone. i'd call him or text him to see what's up...see if he's stil interested and explain why things are hard for you. i hope you get your answer dear, i am badly in need of one too! you are NOT alone!
2007-10-01 13:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by RN81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't talk to you then it is his loss,you have to explain to him what happened in your pass relationship and explain to him that it will take time for you to trust again if he does not understand the oh well so well move on. Take your time sometimes we need to be alone in order to get things together.
2007-10-01 13:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Talithea H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST BE STRAIGHT UP AND TELL HIM WHY U REACTED THE WAY U DID. HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY AND TELL HIM U FELT A LITTLE INSECURE CUZ OF THE LAST LOSER. EVEN THOUGH YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT ALL GUYS ARE NOT THE SAME AND TRUST EACH ONE TIL THEY GIVE U A REASON NOT TO TRUST THEM.......JUST ONE TIME TOO,,MOST OF THEM ARE THE SAME BUT NOT ALL. JUST BE HONEST WITH HIM AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
2007-10-01 13:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by stefanie2889 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k. ......
uh thats a tough one, but the first thing you need to do is make sure you don't have feelings for your ex. .if you don't and you really like this new guy, ask him out. if he says no, that means he does'nt feel the same way, or HE just got out of a bad relationship too!!
2007-10-01 13:52:17 · answer #11 · answered by Lalaland222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋