i am a girl who comes from a pakistani origin and been in this country for 22 years now pretty much i was born here and i am TOTALLY AMERICANIZED!!!now the problem is my parents have been here the same amount as me or even more and still treat me as if were back home ! pretty much im not allowed to go out alot and expect me to be " family oriented" and i do spend most of the time with them. now i have done sum crazy things in the past such as had a bf, a guy came to see me right by my house etc etc... my parents dont trust me and i need permission for every lil thing and im 22! i feel like a 10 yr old infront of them.often i always see other gals go out and chill in nighttime in the city and it upsets me cuz im in my room doin nothin! if i am allowed to go out n im expect me to come back b4 the "sunset" goes down n im not allowed to go to lounges, late night in the city around 7pm- n over -& it is killin me i feel i have no life and i feel suffocated. i really need HELP asap !
2007-10-01 13:43:02 · 8 answers · asked by EpicFail 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yikes! Sounds like college really would be the best thing. Are they waiting for you to get married? Are you the youngest, or maybe the only daughter? I wonder if there's a way for you to get a third party involved, like a councilor of some sort. They're going to make you emotionally stunted if they don't let you live and learn.
2007-10-01 13:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by scout out 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't trust you because you go drinking every weekend. And you are 17. I almost have nothing to say here because I did it too. Except that your parents have every right to be afraid for you. Trust me, they did the same thing that you did, Probably at a younger age. But it was a little less dangerous in thier time. They're just looking out for you.
2016-05-18 07:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and this is a prime example of why immigrants should adapt to the ways of the country they are LIVING in.... but, they are YOUR PARENTS and that is probably the way THEY were brought up in Pakastan....they know of NO OTHER WAY no matter what they see around them with your neighbors or their friend's..... At 22, you SHOULD be out on your own and working and supporting yourself----but not knowing the Pakastani culture, I do NOT know how things work in your country... BUT, maybe you should sit them down and explain that you are old enough to be out on your own and that you will be looking for a job and an apartment if they continue treating you like a child.... you have to talk to them in such a way that it is STILL RESPECTFUL to them as well....it must be VERY hard for children of immigrants to want to be like all their friends who are lets say American or British but their parents are still OLD COUNTRY and are trying to keep the culture from their former country.... thing is, they chose to be Americans, then they should LIVE as Americans... but that doesn't seem to work that way---even though if WE lived in PAKASTAN, we would be EXPECTED to live as a PAKASTANI....
2007-10-01 13:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, forgive my ignorance of your culture. Is it a correct assumption that in your culture, a woman is not allowed to live independently of her family,or is it that you are simply not in a position yet to move out of your parent's house?
I can't imagine how frustrating it must be to be told by one culture that you're an adult and responsible now, and still be (for lack of a better word) dominated different traditions.
I feel for you.
2007-10-01 13:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep it all inside. Ask your parents if you can have a lil chat w/ them. In the chat, tell your parents what about what they do bothers you.
I hope that they apply themselves in the way that you want them to!
2007-10-01 13:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel about what is happening, because i know Pakistan traditions are hard to overcome tall them you feel you have know freedom and you want to be treated like an adult and if that don't work, SCREW them do want you want it your life and once your an adult you should be left to run your own life.
2007-10-01 13:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 22!!!!!! Move out, get a job, then you don't have to answer to them anyways
2007-10-01 16:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go away to college and stay in a dorm and live it up!
2007-10-01 13:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋