my bf of 2 years broke up with me last night over a text message (mature I know). I was shocked since everything seemed great we had even spend an amazing night together the night before. I was so confused. He lives w/his dad (hes 23) who lives next door to my parents, which is how we met in the first place. I was visiting my parents when this all happened, and when I walked outside his ex's car was at his house. He had just recently come back into contact with her (she cheated on him badly) but i never worried since she only came over twice & he always told me & we always hung out right after. he said he loved me it was nothing they were just having "closure" even though i know for a fact she wanted him back (a note i found) well, she spend the night there last night and I tell you that hurt so much. Right now I'm just so lost and can't understand how someone can do that to someone...i need any advice to ease this pain or helpful or encouraging words...thank you
2007-10-01 13:31:29 · 33 answers · asked by bob123456789 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't believe that he just broke up with you over a text. What a coward! My heart goes out to you. I think you were only the rebound girl all this time. His ex-girlfriend may have hurt him, but he wasn't ready to let her go. She knows that she can have him any time she wants him and knows he will come running despite what he told you. The amazing night before was probably his farewell good bye and you didn't notice it.
This guy is very immature and is not ready for a commitment. If he gets his heart broken again and comes knocking at your door, you shouldn't be there to answer the door to pick up the pieces again.
Leave him alone and move on. You deserve honesty, respect, and love. Don't accept anything less than that.
Mean while, find new hobbies or friends to take up your time so that you can get over him. Meet new people. Even though you may not be ready with moving on with dating other people right now, it doesn't hurt to flirt with the idea of going out with other available men who can show you a good time. -You never know, lightning could strike!!!
Keep your head up and know that what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. -God Bless.
2007-10-01 13:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are like toilets, occipied or full of *stuff*
Nothing hurts more than realising he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.
A friend is like a flower,
a rose to be exact,
Or maybe like a brand new gate
that never comes unlatched.
A friend is like an owl,
both beautiful and wise.
Or perhaps a friend is like a ghost,
whose spirit never dies.
A friend is like a heart that goes
strong until the end.
Where would we be in this world
if we didn't have a friend.
(A true friend will always be there for you to love and support you (and through times like you're going through now))
Does it feel like your heart is ripped in two
And your days seem O so blue?
Have you given all your heart
Only to see it torn apart?
Do you feel he or she does not care
As if you were never there?
Do you feel you can't trust again
And left in continual pain?
Do you feel you must face tomorrow
All alone, with so much sorrow?
There is hope my friend for you today
Stop and listen, don't walk away
There's someone who loves you very much
It's not a lie, you'll see as such
There are things you can't change in any way
But you can talk to a friend night or day
Someone will came to heal your broken heart
And they will help you find a brand new start
All I can say is that you deserve someone better. I'm sorry this happened to you and all the best
2007-10-01 14:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in you exact position before, and due to the same reasons as you, we chose to terminate my pregnancy. Even though we were in a loving and stable relationship, we both wanted much more for ourselves than the life that comes along with being teen parents. Up until the actual procedure took place, I was very nervous and scared. However, after everything was said and done, the choice I made was the right one. I don't live with guilt or regrets, only in the sense that I wish we would of never gotten pregnant in the first place. That was almost four years ago. I am proud and happy to say that I married my boyfriend, and I am finishing up my education. Many people will say I am selfish and that I killed a baby, but I don't care. I have the right to want more out of life than becoming a young parent. So my advice to you is to try and relax. Don't let any ones rude or negative comments get to you. As long as you are sure this is exactly what you want, I know you will be okay.
2016-03-19 03:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy wasn't man enough to tell you the truth and instead he hid behind the lame excuse of a text message? His actions do not speak badly of you, but do say a lot about him. He's a coward and just not worth it. Period.
His parents, though not responsible, should have at least asked him to spend the night some place else. The fact that they allowed this person into their house knowing that he had a relationship with you shows their weak moral fiber. What can you expect? They definitely have no class, and neither does the cheater, which is probably a better fit for their son.
I know this hurts, but I hope you can stay put and get past this as soon as possible. Ignore this unworthy character and wipe him out of your life for good! Don't give him the satisfaction of answering his calls or worse: asking for an explanation. Take the higher road and block him off! You deserve a lot better.
2007-10-01 13:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Periwinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw I'm soo sorry! Well, first off, your boyfriend's a d*ck. I mean, a text message? AND letting his ex sleep over? It's best that you just move on. You're better than that and you don't need him. You seriously deserve better.
You'll get through this. He obviously wasn't the right guy for you. I know it's hard, but you seriously don't need this. There's someone out there who WILL treat you right and would never think of hurting you like this.
Best wishes!
2007-10-01 13:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by MassRomantic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I'm so sorry, that really sucks. You are I am guessing (18-23) I would just relax and spend some alone time, and recollect, and after that I would call him so you can have closure because breaking up over a txt is terrible, and he is not a real man if he did that, I believe everything will be ok, even thou it's not ok with that person, I believe you will find someone new, and be just as happy, well I hope I didnt make things worse, and I hope you take care of yourself,
Deep Regards,
Fitz
2007-10-01 13:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Fitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetie, bless your heart!!! I know this is horrible and hard and you feel like you've been sucker-punched...and, in truth, you have been.
I'm so sorry you had to find out this way that he's not really the guy for you. I hope you will find the strength within you to get through this and know that you are better off without him, even though it doesn't seem like it right now.
Please, I know this part might sound cruel, but you might think about being tested for an STD (his old girlfriend...you said "she'd cheated on him badly"...you need to be tested for your safety's sake).
And please, realize, NONE of this was your fault at all!
God bless and heal you.
2007-10-01 13:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, i'm so sorry that happened to you!
But listen, from what you've said in your description, hes a jerk!
Go out a find a guy that WILL appreciate and love you. You dont need some jerk in your life. You might hear it from a lot of people, but you REALLY deserve someone better then that in your life! Hold your head up high and forget him, tomorrow is always a new day, move on and live your life the way you want to :)!
2007-10-01 13:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by marshmellows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation. Go out and do something fun with your friends. Get a new guy and bring him over and rub it in his face, you'll feel better. If you really love him, sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him to please tell you what's going on with the ex, and you won't get mad, but you love him and want to know what's going on. Throw in some sweet stuff. Or you can take a day to cry, eat chocolate, and watch sad movies. But the next day, you gotta suck it up and move on. Don't think about him. Don't look at his house. Find something to take up your time. Breakups hurt SO much, I know. Pull through it and find someone great. Best of luck to you.
2007-10-01 13:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an interresting letter because you didn't actually say why you broke up. I would move on if the guy is this unstable. Proabably not ment to be in the first place. I would start a hobby or do some gardening or something to keep your mind occupied. There will be more men and better relationships. I would not jump right into another relationship either. Take your time, breathe.
2007-10-01 13:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by foofoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋