i have bought my boyfriend lots of stuff i have bought him necklacs and clothes and dinner, and dont get my wrong he has bought me books and ice cream but im usually with him when he does that. and he takes me out to dinner with out me even haveing to ask. but i told him that my birthday was coming up and he said ill take you out to dinner . but he isnt doing anything speical or buyeing me anything. should i be upset or not?
2007-10-01 13:19:58 · 28 answers · asked by focus_e_us360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you should not be upset.
Why are you expecting gifts? That is kind of materialistic.
It's nice he is taking you out for dinner, and I guess that is enough. Should he get you a bouquet of flowers or some other present.. that would be nice of him, but don't be upset if he does not. Not all persons are educated the same way and if you have so many special details and get him stuff.... that is YOU. He might have different ideas and upbringing.
Still he can be more polite and a better man then others who give you lots of candies and plushed animals but fail in the escential things.
Reflect on who you are and what you really need from a man. I am sure it is not perfumes and candies.
good luck
BTW HAPPY BIRTHDAY
2007-10-01 13:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. I'm a guy and I'm married and I have very rarely bought my wife anything even when we were dating. I see it as a waste of money to buy little trinkets. I would rather hang out with her than buy her crap she doesn't need. I don't celebrate any holidays by buying anything, but her birthday is one time when I actually will do something for her or get something for her based on a date. Usually if I get her something special it will be a spur of the moment thing that just really catches my eye or something. Another thing is maybe he's just not saying anything so that whatever he gets you will be a surprise. I actually really hate it when she buys me stuff. It's a nice gesture that she's thinking of me, but it's almost always crap I will never use.
2007-10-01 13:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by PUMA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why isn't him taking you out to dinner considered special? or why don't buying you books and ice cream count??? I wouldn't be upset at all. Don't give and expect something in return.(I say that because you felt the need to say what you have bought him) But really who am I to tell you whether or not you should be upset! You are entitled to your feelings...
2007-10-01 13:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by purplebee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he's not the surprise gift-giving type. some men are like that. Talk to him a bout it. But don't use a harsh tone. Sit him down calmly and ask, " why don't you ever buy me things as surprise like I do to you? I'm not mad but it's a simple question. Whatever you say, I won't get mad. I just want to know. If you're not into that stuff that's ok." or something along the lines of that. Good luck!
2007-10-01 13:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by kellyyy loves dogs!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you get upset, wait to see if he buys anything. He may have a surprise at dinner for you! If not, maybe he doens't feel like he knows you well enough, or you haven't been dating that long. And in the end, if you love each other, what does it matter if he buys you things or not?
2007-10-01 13:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you two been going out together?
If it's like under or around a year probably he is not buying because he wants to see if you are interested in just him or his money.
He would obviously buy small stuff to not to look like a bum.
2007-10-01 13:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Raoul N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste time being upset. Tell him what you want. NOBODY is a mind reader. Let him know that small presents are important to you. If you need big presents to be happy, let him know that too.
Bottom lining it, you'll be able to tell what kind of guy he is. If he tries to give you what you want, excellent. If not, find a man who'll come to you with an open heart and open wallet.
2007-10-01 13:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by greatanotherlongid 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, he is doing some things to show he's gratefull. I think maybe you need to realize everyone's idea of "doing something special" is different. Is he treating you well? Saying he cares about you? Guys have strange ways of showing they care sometimes!
2007-10-01 13:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Telling It Like It Is 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no; don't be a conceited, greedy, *****. I said DON'T be one...cause you're coming on as one.
You shouldn't have to show love by material goods. That's just silly. And, you shouldn't be expecting something in return for your gifts...think about what you're saying...
2007-10-01 13:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by ApolloLorne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude.. stop being so needy....you really want that ugly POS hes gonna buy you? Then you'll have to wear it in front of him... and in front of your friends no matter how ugly it is... and its gonna eat away at you until one day you decide not to wear it... then thats gonna start a fight...
unless you want him to get you a leash... because you have this crazy territorial desire to show everyone that you own him...
2007-10-01 13:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by GamersEye 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋