I was just wondering what some fellow Christians think...how far is too far to go in a relationship? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and although it doesn't sound like long, I am completely in love with him. And I know he feels the same way. I made the decision a long time ago to save myself until marriage and I will absolutely keep that promise to myself and God. My boyfriend is not a virgin but completely supports and respects my decision. He never pressures me to do anything and always makes sure I am comfortable. But my question is...how far can you go without being inappropriate? Is it ok to make out and touch? Again, I can't stress this enough, we are not having sex of any kind. And also, if it matters, I am 23 and he is 29. Thank you in advance for your answers.
2007-10-01 12:55:30 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The best thing we can do is not put ourselves in the position to be tempted. If you do anything that even begins to tempt you to go against what you know to be right. If you do anything that provides the opportunity for sin, it would be best not to continue doing it. It is very easy to go beyond what our intentions are "and get caught up in the moment."
The more time you give to focus on the physical, the less you focus on the spiritual. 3 months is a very short time to be together anyway...use this time to determine if this person is the right one for you to marry, learn about his beliefs/doctrine, about kids, schools, political views, aspirations, his calling, his preferences for entertainment, sports, etc etc..things that would cause you to not marry this person...that is what this time is for...(addition) because if he is not the right one...you can move on and find the right one.
The physical comes when we are married...as a gift to us. There is no other reason for a Christian to date, or to have a relationship than with "the intention" to be married according to God's will. If the goal/intent is not marriage...to find a husband, then there is no point to the relationship.
Take Care and God Bless!
2007-10-01 13:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the purpose of dating?
Is it to pet and get "hot"? Or, is it to test compatibility of Marriage.
You are old enough to know better. If you are petting, kissing, and other, you are going to drive your BF crazy. It would be better not to do anything and keep your witness than to go around the bases.
You did not say if he is Christian. Is he? If so, then he should be a better role model for putting you into this position. If not, you need to get him saved, or else you should break it off.
Remember, you can not change a person after you are married. The small things that bother you will turn into major issues about 3 years after getting married. And if he resents your position, then he will never get over that after you are married.
2007-10-03 16:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋