Mother and Fathers that come on here asking advice about their kids???

Question

Is kinda stupid. I am not saying they are stupid people. They are just making a stupid mistake.

If you are raising a child and you come on here explaining things and asking other poeple what you should do...You dont do that! They are your children and you should know how to handle it. And if you dont...you shouldn't be asking other people how to raise your kids.

Someone women wanted to know if her 17 year old daughter should be allowed to go out on a date....17 for christs sake! I would have let her date when she was 14! Other people were saying "not till she is out of the house".

Asking other people how to raise your child is stupid, and the people that ask questions everyday about how they should handle every little thing....should not be a parent if they cant raise them themselves...

Who agrees?

Answer 1

I am in full agreement with you. What has happened to simple morality, family values, and common sense within America.

Answer 2

I agree with the first answer - that's what this place is for! Some people are open - minded enough to ask for and take advice from others, especially when the others might have gone through it before. And if people don't like the advice they get, they can either stop asking or just ignore it.
In conclusion, I guess the old saying is right - the "best" parent is the one who doesn't have any children. You obviously have no kids of your own, so don't even bother trying to say otherwise or tell other parents not to ask for advice.

Answer 3

No question is stupid except the question that wasn't asked. People who look for answers to questions on this forum are looking for another viewpoint. That doesn't necessarily make them inept. It just makes them curious, concerned and open minded. Sadly children don't come with an instruction mannual attached and no one has all the experiance and wisdom to know what to do in every circumstance. You may feel that the questions that are being asked are stupid, but many people have no one to ask, are embarrased or have had poor role models and don't know what to do. That doesn't make them stupid. As a matter of fact, 14 year olds are rarely equiped to handle all the ramifications of dating at 14. Everyone gets to pick and choose what they think is right or wrong, but don't put down people who are smart enough to know that they need help.

Answer 4

Honestly, I feel bad for your children or your future children if you never ask ANYONE for advice. Thinking you can raise children all on your own and that you know it all as a parent - now THAT is stupid. I am a better mother from all the wonderful advice I've received over the years from my mother, siblings, doctors, friends, etc.

What a truly smart parent does, is ask advice on issues, and then have the ability to choose which advice is good for their child or not.

That said, if you feel this way, then get off the freakin parenting section!

Answer 5

When I come on here asking for advice, it's generally not because I want to hear people tell me how to raise my kids. My child has developmental issues, and I'm dealing with that situation in my own way. People on here don't know my child or his issues, so there's no way they could tell me how to raise him. All kids are different, and all situations are different. There's no way to fully describe problems like my son's problems in the limited space that we're given here. Therefore I don't ask.

What I'm asking for is validation that I'm not the only one out there who feels a certain way about something, or that I'm not the only one going through a certain issue. Sometimes, as parents, we need to know that we're not alone when things go wrong, and that there are other people out there dealing with the same things we are. Hearing how they've successfully come through something gives us hope that we can have a good outcome as well, and it's very encouraging to know that we're not alone.

Answer 6

It takes a village to raise a child, and that being said, what is the difference between asking your sister, mother or friend for parenting advice, but not asking yahoo answers. Sure you will get the occasional smart *ss answer, but for the most part everyone is here to try and help everyone else. Isn't that what this is for.

You apparently don't have any children,a nd if you do, I pity them, as their mother apparently thinks she knows it all.

Answer 7

if you don't like asking for others or giving opinions, you shouldn't be here cuz thats what its for! like you said, every parent raises their child differently so even if you think the mom who asked if she should let her 17 y/o out on a date should have when she was 14, im sure there are plenty others who don't agree with you! they are not asking "how"-like tell me and ill do it-just asking "how do/would you"-like to broaden their options/way of thinking. Don't be ignorant cuz you definately don't know everything!

Answer 8

My first thought is that you have no children yourself, but if that were so, you wouldn't care about this portion of the site...so you must be one of those mothers who let everyone else raise your children for you, you would never admit that of course...but maybe their grandparents have them more than you do, or you have a very supportive husband/baby daddy who does the dirty work. I do however, know that you like to dress them up and take them to get their pictures taken so everyone can tell you how beautiful your children are or to family gatherings, where everyone pours over kids and how they are growing and such...tell me how wrong I am!!!

Answer 9

Well now we know the FANTASTIC parent you're gonna be!!!

Letting your kid date at 14??? Oh yeah, fantastic idea!
#1 Grandma t-shirt is in YOUR future!!

Once you grow up, you will see that adults ask each other advise about all sorts of things including their kids. It does not mean they will do whatever other people answer, they just want to out weight their options. THIS is what makes them good parents and not letting their kids to whatever they want.

Answer 10

What is this place for, if not asking others opinions. I think you are acting all high and mighty and if you don't like it, then don't come to a place that is made for it. Go elsewhere.
Children do not come with a manual and asking other's opinions does not mean you are going to follow them or maybe they just want to vent.
If you don't like it, find another place to spend time on the computer.

Answer 11

How is it different from what you just did. Why do you care what we think? Why don't you stop asking other people and "know how to handle the question" yourself as you've instructed the rest of the world to do.

Get over yourself...the rest of the world isn't perfect, like you.