I have been goin wit this boy for a year off and on and we recently got back together we kept breaking up because he kept cheating I kept taken him back because I love him we broke up and got back together 4 times in a year!!! He broke up with me because I was concern about his grades at school and he hung up in my face cause we had got into a little argument I called him back and he didnt answer so I left him a message and called him a "Dumbazz *****" I was madd but I said I was sorry and he still won't take me back!! How do I get him back??? I really love him...By the way we are both 17..
2007-10-01 10:25:58 · 17 answers · asked by Jessica P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This boy disrespects you by constantly cheating - 4 times in a year! And he doesn't appreciate that you worry about him, his grades, then what are you hanging on to?
This boy has too much growing up to do, he is immature and selfish, and you are being his doormat to accept such bad treatment from him.
Please be good to yourself and let this loser go. You are worth more than that. He will keep using and abusing you, as long as you let him. It will not get any better, and may get a great deal worse.
2007-10-01 10:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well u could probably start off by leaving him a messege tellin him that u 2 need 2 talk an thats it's important that yall need 2 work things out an if that works talk 2 each other bout how u can make the relationship work,and what r u doin that makes him feel the need 2 cheat and how u can make things so that u can have him to ur self, some things u can try not 2 do iz flip out an cause him not 2 bother even tryin 2 figure it out, an try an make things seem that u 2 r ment 2 be 2gether an thats how it should be 4 now on. I 've gone through this situation jus not tha gitten back 2gether part.
(my sayin: if GOD wants yall 2 be 2gether he would have made it so that yall could be 2gether 4 a long period of time and if GOD though it wuzn't gonna work out he split yall up an made so that yall can go yall seprate ways 2 find 2 new people good 4 tha both of u) i kno it may not be agreeable but thats jus how GOD set life out 2 be
2007-10-01 10:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by big booty judy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, why are you messin' around with some dumb a@@ cheatin' tramp like him? Every time you and he got back together, you let him have some booty. That's all he wants, sweetie. He just wants booty.
He doesn't even care about his grades. He doesn't want to let YOU care about his grades (any good gf should care about her bf's grades).
This story has a sad ending, when the good gf gets tied to stupid kid bf for the rest of her life. Bad boy got the good gf preggers. And you will be working at McDonald's trying to make enough money to get by with your baby while stupid over there isn't paying his child support because he's got another honey.
He does not deserve you. You are way too good for him. You really CARE. He doesn't care--not about you, not about your stuff, not about your feelings, and not about his grades. Do you think he's going anywhere in life? No way.
Right now you need to concentrate on a job if you have one (get one), making some money & graduating HS.
Let's get you graduated, before you start a family, and get you some education (college)and a good job. Then you can marry some handsome engineer or architect or doctor--someone who can support you and y'all's family. Mama can work if she wants, if she doesn't, she doesn't have to. She can stay home and take care of the babies. That's the life you deserve, sweetheart. That's the life you're gonna have if you can just grab hold of the dream.
Can you?
TX Mom
2007-10-01 10:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U got the hardest thing out the way already...he's gone & thats a good thing
you might love him and he could be the coolest guy ever but HELLO he's cheating on u
u dont need that drama, u deserve more respect then that and u r too young to even have to deal with that type of BS
"F" him and go do u
There are PLENTY of decent men out there that will be loyal to u, that u will love and they will love u back
Pls dont waste ur time trying to call him and chase after him and PLS dont ask him to come back. He is doing u a favor by not coming back.
"F" all that drama thats all im saying
2007-10-01 10:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shawty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all im sure you hate it when people tell u that ur young, cuz i did, but you are young and u have alot of time right now to have fun. You have to love yourself before u can love anyone else, and u have to love yourself more than anyone else, by loving yourself you should know that ur way to good to be cheated on and he doesnt deserve u! And u werent wrong he is a dumbazz!!! If somehting is meant to be it always will and in the end youll realize why things happen the way they do!!
2007-10-01 10:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the previous writer (Ginger) and take her advice.
Are you crazy or just a glutton for punishment? What is it actually that there is to love about him? Anything you could not find with someone else? This guy has shown his true colors several times. He does not care about you, he only wants to be with you if there is no one else around that he'd rather be with. All that is not going to change, ever! Grow up and realize that you are worth a lot more than that. This may hurt, but look around you and see that there are a lot of guys, many like him, but others more worthy of your affection. The hurt will go away, even if it means being more patient. Anything good is with waiting for. Can you see yourself at 20, or even 30, and still be with this loser?
2007-10-01 10:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Wynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love him? I don't think so, and you shouldn't, either!
You should take a serious look at why you keep going back to this abuser for more abuse, because that's what he's doing to you. Cheating IS a form of abuse.
If you were "in love", the relationship would feel good and be free (or close to free) of drama. You deserve better.
Start working on your self-esteem. It must be pretty bad since you contine to pursue this jerk.
Find someone who will treat you like a valued human being.
2007-10-01 10:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit back and really think about if you are actually happy in this situation.
Love - while at times is painful, shouldn't always be so. The person who deserves your love and admiration is a person who's not going to intentionally hurt you in anyway. We all make mistakes but this guy sounds as if he has no respect for you or your feelings.
I would do your best to move on. Him not taking you back might turn out to be in your best interest. Good luck to you! And don't sell yourself short.
2007-10-01 10:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Arneb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think this boy will keep doing this to you because he knows you will always be there. If you make yourself, less available you leave him wanting you. If he wants you now he will be the one doing the chasing. Make him jealous, let him see you with someone else. When you see him pull out your phone and act like you are talking to someone (make sure the ringer is off lol). When he does call you, don't talk to him long. Tell him you have somewhere to go with a new friend. This will peek his interest. And you will now be the one he is chasing instead of the other way around. My mother always told me Fall in love with a man who loves you more than you love him. That way if it doesn't work out you would not be destroyed.
2007-10-01 10:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_sash_718 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its so easy to see you not been appreciated for being there, and looking out for him... hes just embarrass about his grades and felt that you are just teasing him, and for the cheating part you need to let him know what effect that can have on you, and please dont act like a fool if he cheat once its ok to forgive but 2 more time more than that can be very overdoing.... you need to understand there is a limit for everything and if he love you as he said he do, he wud stop his sh** and take you back, but dont b the one running after him, it will give him an advantage of knowing what your weakness is, and that i can see is been inlove, it happens to many of us(im guilty) but dont let him take the better of you. and its good you tell him off, its time you show him the wild and angry side of you.
2007-10-01 10:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by beautyprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋