It's not that she doesn't want me to have a job but she doesn't want me to have a job working for my bf's dad. It's a simple job of answering the phone in the office of his dad's garage but my mom said no because she doesn't want me to be around him because seh says I already spend too much time with him and if I work with him I'll be spending ALL of my time with him but that's not rue And I think she's being biased because she doesn't like him anyway and she even told me I couldn't see him but changed her mind because of my grandfather But I don't get why she wants me to work at some grease spoon place like McDonalds or Waffle House instead of with him. Does this make sense to you?
2007-10-01 10:20:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 17 and it's my boyfriend not best friend
2007-10-01 10:25:41 · update #1
At 17 it is almost impossible to see all the dangers in the road. Your mother has real concerns that she understands.
You're the one looking at this thing with a biased. You are trying to convince your mother that working where your boy friend is also working isn't going to mean that you two see each other a lot more. You don't really believe that. You know your mother is right.
You said your mother didn't like him but changed her mind. Hey....it sounds like your mother is pretty open minded. Many mothers won't ever change their minds!
I think you should compromise for now. find a different job. Besides, a garage,(I'm guessing auto repair) is not a great place for a young woman to work. I'm not promoting Micky D's or anyplace like that either, but be a little creative. There must be other businesses that would hire a young girl as a trainee or an assistant.
2007-10-01 10:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by nevit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are a teenager, she may be worried about you and your BF getting to serious, she may see something in your BF that she doesn't like (which means that you should take a second look at your BF), or she may just be a little over protective.
However, if you an adult, you mother should have no say in the matter, if you are willing to act like an adult (meaning living on your own etc)
If you live at home, I would suggest that you look for some other job that isn't some kind of " grease spoon place". Then if your mom complains about you not having a job, then you should point out that this was her doing.
2007-10-01 17:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well from the way this sounds, she wants you to have a "real job". I'm sure what your bf's dad is doing is real, but in his garage?? I can kind of see why she would feel uncomfortable letting you do that. And how old are you? It all depends on how old you are.If you're a teen and you already see him enough than maybe you guys should have some space. I'd say take the McDonald's job.
2007-10-01 17:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Aneres 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does make sense to me. Your mother doesn't like your boyfriend. And the only reason a mother doesn't like a boyfriend is if she's worried he's going to hurt her child, or be a bad influence. And if he's a bad influence or could hurt you, then it's best you don't spend too much time with him. It's your mother, her house, her rules. You have to abide by them. You don't have to work at McDonald's. You could try a grocery store or apply with a temp agency to get office experience so you can get into the clerical field. There are many, many more options than McDonald's.
2007-10-01 17:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much of a good thing, is sometimes a bad thing. There could be numerous reasons why she feels the way she does. Maybe she feels they will think they don't have to pay you because you are with the owners son, maybe she doesn't want you to wear out your welcome, or maybe she wants more time with you herself. Anyway moms always know best!
2007-10-01 17:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by helper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because she wants you to be able to have something that does not directly involve your BF. If you revolve everything around him, you will eventually lose the part of you that makes you your own person. Doing too much with him will make you him-and-you, not him and you.
2007-10-01 17:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Maybe your mom sees something that you don't. Parents are weiiiird. Trust me. My parents used to say stuff to me that made absolutely no sense and I went against what they said and learned the hard way. Maybe she's right, don't put up a fight just deal with it and appriciate her looking out for you. Afterall, thats what parents are about
sarah, 19.
2007-10-01 17:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by sbabe52 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom may look at it long term. How long will you and your BF last? Things get rocky between you and your BF, then what happens with your job? Its' best to distance work and personal life.
2007-10-01 17:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by kadisciples 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn`t like him it makes sense to me, but not in a good way. Talk to your mom about how you feel and tell her you`ll spend more time with her.
2007-10-01 17:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sammi♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesnt want you to get hurt and maybe spending too much time with the bf can lead to getting tried of each other and stuff but i dont see i prob
2007-10-01 17:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by <3 ME 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋