Christians, how normal is it to have dowbts after a close loss in the family?

Question

OK, I lost three close to me within six weeks. My grandparents who raised me and a dog I had for 15 years. Also a friend from church died during this time.

It made me really hope what I believe is correct and start to wonder about it and second guess everything.

Is this a normal part of greiving?

It hit me so hard that I'm just not as sure as I used to be. I've never felt like that before. I used to be really 100% sure. There are times now that I just don't know what to think.

Answer 1

Yes, yes, and again I say yes. Remember that your enemy, the devil, roams about seeking whom he may devour. If he can devour you with grief and doubt, he will do just that. The loss of those you love always leaves a terrible gap in your heart, but remember that they didn't die to spite you, it was simply their time to go. God can handle your grief, if you let Him. He can carry you through this and help you get to the other side of this crisis in your life. Father in Heaven, we pray right now for your child. We pray and stand in agreement for complete restoration and healing of their emotions, mind and will. Father, we pray you will give them direction and wrap your loving arms around them during this terrible time.

Its ok to hurt. God never said we wouldnt hurt or suffer. But He is able and willing to heal it all. Be blessed.

Answer 2

Yes is very much a part of greiving. To first feel loss the to even get angry about it. This is how man works through their loss. But as you do you begin to reason it all out and slowly but surely there comes a time when you think of your lost loved ones with a smile.

Answer 3

Hi There!

First, *hugs tight* I think you need a hug. I'm sorry to hear for the lost in your life. I know that the pain in your heart is overpowering and can cause unimaginable grief.

When I was 14, I was thrown into taking care of my mom. She had contracted MRSA and was on the verge of death everyday for a year. Even though she is still with us, I grieved every day during that year. I felt God and Jesus had forsaken me and my family. I won't lie, I was extremely bitter. And who wouldn't be? At 14, I had to watch my mom's form go from healthy and alive to withered and emancipated. She was dependent on bedpans and couldn't leave her bed, had a groshong port, hated the sounds of my younger brother and sister playing, and there was no one to take care of my family but me -- my dad lives on the other side of the country. But God blessing, the Lord found me again.

So, yes, I do believe for some it's alright to question your faith during dire times. We have the right to do so. But from what I've learned, let your grief be directed in a healing way. Here is a prayer I learned that helps me during tough, questionable times:

Lord, may You open my heart
and let Your love shine through
for the darkness inside me is blinding
and Your Glory is unseen
You are the God of all wonders
and Your name rings out in the hearts of many
Yet, my heart only knows pain
and Your name is missing
Holy are You and Holy is Your name
For You are the God of no limitations
Brake these bonds that weaken me
Let Your Glory fill my heart with light everlasting
May Your Name never be far from my lips
And may You anoint and bless me with Your Spirit
For I am Your child and have been lost in darkness
This is my call to You, oh Lord!
That you restore Your Glory and set my eyes upon it
For who's name is like Yours'
and who's Glory as Great?
You are God and Lord of All
with You, there are no limitations at my footsteps
You are God
And Your Love is worthy for worship
Bless You with Your almighty name
~Amen

God Bless you and may you find shelter within His arms. :)

Answer 4

YES. Read CS Lewis' A Grief Observed, which he wrote after losing the love of his life. He wrote The Problem of Pain early on to explain death and grief and loss but when he was cast into teh thick of it he railed against God and those ideas he had written. It's perfectly normal.

Then read The Will of God by Leslie Weatherhead, which deals with this topic in a rather novel manner. Basically, though, God is hurting with you.

Answer 5

Remember Johnny you are very raw emotionally after the death of a loved one and because of this doubts are human, you try to find rhyme and reason to an event that has shattered your world for a period and you find that all you have is your faith to go on and this is sorely tested.
As the shock and pain start to ease with time you find that although you had doubts it was actually your faith that sustained you.
I lost both my parents within 9yrs of each other and I felt devastated and confused almost like concussion, but I have to cling to the belief that they are with God or I would not be able to get on with my life, but the time period is different for each of us.

Answer 6

Its ok to ask God why, but as for doubts I don't know. In the last year I got over a series of doubts and when I asked people about it but one person said that doubts come with weak faith and God doesn't give weak faith so he said that I must not have real faith. This practically tore me apart inside b/c I was like "but i try so hard" but thats not what God wants us to do. So i sat down w/ my bible and prayed to God would forgive me and come into my life, giving me real faith. He did and i havent had doubts since. This past week, one of my friends died and I have complete faith in God that shes in heaven and he knows what hes doing. If I hadn't truely rededicated my life to Christ I know that I would be having doubts now.....
ok sorry thats like uber long, but just wanted to get it all said.
hope it helps.

Answer 7

Grieving is normal, Johnny:

In fact, after John the Baptist was decapitated, Jesus withdrew with His disciples for a while.

We live in a sinful world, and all who live godly in Christ Jesus will undergo persecution. Don't be surprised about your afflictions, and your turn is coming to die, too--it is inescapable.

But hang in there. God is not slack concerning His promises and as surely as Jesus is LORD, He is coming again to resurrect the dead.

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Shalom, peace in Jesus, Ben Yeshua

Answer 8

It's not normal if you don't have doubts. It recently came out that Mother Theresa did, and look what she accomplished in God's name.

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm just an email away if you need to talk. [e-mail].

Answer 9

If religion is part of your life, I would think you it would be normal to have doubts. I'm sorry you lost your grandparents and two companions in such a short time.

Answer 10

I am very, very, very sorry about what you've been through. I hope you will let me council you with these words. it's normal for Satan to whisper in your ear every chance he gets... just study your bible. if you've decided that the Bible is indeed the word of God, then just stick with what it says. God loves you and if you have placed your faith in Jesus and what he did for you and you have recieved eternal life, then he will take you home to live eternally when your body dies.