my boyfriend is way over protective and everytime i talk to a guy he thinks i am flirting? i havent done anything too drastic for him not to trust me, he did worse than i did (he didnt cheat) and he is always on my back for it. He dont even trust me with his bestfriend? it gets soooooooooo annoying we have been dating for almost 11 months.....idk wat to do i love him and im not gunna leave him but how to i get him to lighten up? ne one have the same problem. and he thinks everytime i hang out with my guy freinds, i like them, i flirt with them or im doing suttin im not supposed to or it is unnessecary. he gets me sooo mad sometimes i want to run away or just stop listening! idk wat to do plez be honest and help me out!
thanks
**hugz**
2007-10-01 09:52:10 · 15 answers · asked by gf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys just have to see the light on their own I mean as soon as they realize they cant stop you and you keep reassuring and reassuring and reassuring them they will see the light my best friend is a guy and it took my bf over a year to see that we are just freinds and now hes cool with it
2007-10-01 09:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he as suffered in the past and he is afraid to loose you. He has to learn to trust you because without trust there can't be a serious relationship. Just don't flirt with any of the guys, that would annoy any bf!
2007-10-01 16:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Λиδѓεy™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds possesive. And you are right if you are not going to leave him you have to find a way to deal with it, which will be hard because he is the one with the issues. You have to find some way to assure him that he is "the one" and the only one. Or find out why he accuses you so much. I mean are you the flrty type? If so you need to cut down on it. Hope it works out for you.
2007-10-01 17:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this, he might have other problems besides just being posessive, he could have BiPolar, or OCD, something that makes him paranoid all the time.
You need to sit down with him and say this behavior
is scary to you, and that he is scaring you.
ease his fears of you leaving him, make a pack with him promise him. then tell him you choose to be with him. not anyone else. Hes your world, and you love your world, but you dont love being scared, and you dont want to live in a scary world.
If he continues to be this way, you will have no choice, and it breaks your hart to think of that.
then hug him.
Make time for just him, then him and his friends, then, take time for yourself and your friends. just dont leave him alone, when hes alone he will become parinoid. get him to go with his friends. or something.
10points for you for hanging in there. I hope he works his problems out.
2007-10-01 17:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jamin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who has had the same problem with her bf for 3 years now. he has no confidence and always thinks shes cheating or flirting. come to find out, he is the one cheating on her. she talked to him so many times about that issue. she said she wasnt interested in any1 else other than him and he still didnt understand. but just a week ago she caught him cheating. how ironic. shes dumb, shes still with him because they both have problems but its up to u. u figure out what u want in your life. sneak up on him and find out what hes doing when ur not there. it may surprise u. goodluck
2007-10-01 17:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt obviously trust u nd dat can lead to the break down of d relationship.You must sit him down nd explain things to him,try to make him understand that he is d only one u love nd d other guyz are just friends.
2007-10-01 17:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by Hally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with guys like that there isnt really much to do but to include them in what ur doing with your friends until he learns to lighten up i have this problem too but i just try and take him with me when i go out with friends it helps if u include them in the convo also so he doesnt feel left out
2007-10-01 16:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rubyblood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF HIM...IF HE DOES'NT TRUST YOU AT THIS EARLY STAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIP THERE IS NO POINT THERE IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE TENSION...SOUNDS LIKE HE MIGHT BE VERY OVERPROTECTIVE AND INSECURE BEWARE THIS MIGHT BE A STALKER TYPE DUDE IN THE FUTURE. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY WIFE FOR ALMOST 7 YEARS WE DATED FOR ALMOST 4 YEARS THEN GOT MARRED IN 2006 AND I GO OUT AND DO THE SAME THINGS LIKE PARTYING AND STUFF BUT I RESPECT HER THAT SHE GIVES ME MY ROOM AND I WON'T CHEAT ON HER...TELL HIM TO LAY OFF YOUR DAMN BACK ITS ONLY 11MONTHS AND MAKE SURE YOU DATE 3 TO 4 YEARS BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED.
2007-10-01 16:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by yardydp81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him flat out that if he doesn't back off he will kill the relationship. He sounds like he needs therapy to get over his mistrust.
2007-10-01 16:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. Period.
And since you don't want to leave him, then you have to learn to deal with his personality. Just don't have any kids with this guy, ever.
Personally, I wouldn't stay around for what you described, but it's your choice.
2007-10-01 16:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. RJRG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋