I just asked a question about if its okay to have sex on a desert island if theres no preacher around and a lot of Christians said if you make a committment before God then you are considered married in his eyes.
if this is the case then why do you bother getting married in a civil ceremony that is acknowledged by the government? especially if you say the sanctity of marriage is ruined in our culture? why bother? couldn't you just have sex anyway if you're married in Gods eyes, then why do you say premarital sex is wrong?
2007-10-01 09:48:55 · 32 answers · asked by Smee 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The tax break.
2007-10-01 09:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
why have a civil ceremony?
several reasons:
1 to have al the legal rights, priviledges, and acknowledgments of a recognized marriage
2 to cooperate with the magistrates that God has put over you
3 so that all things are done decently and in order
4 so that puplic respect and testimony are upheld
5 to help govern the definition of when two became married
6 so that there are witnesses to the father giving his daughter
7 so that family on both sides have something to observe
second is the issue of premarital sex. If a father gives his daughter to a man to be his wife (or her next guardian in line if the dad cannot) and pledges are made before her parents and before God, then biblicaly the two are married and biblicaly have the right to all those wonderful pleasures God made available to married couples. Anything outside of these confines is outside of marriage. If niether of the two are married yet, then it is premarital. If one of them was ever married to someone who is still alive, this affair would be extramarital. both are abominable in God's eyes.
2007-10-01 10:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Matthew P (SL) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part, I agree with you. Other than issues like tax breaks and being accepted as a couple in society, a marriage license from the state is nothing more than a scrap of paper. This is why I don't understand why so many Christians are so fixated on the whole "no sex before marriage" thing, especially since other cultures (including those in which the Bible was written) have had a completely different system.
2007-10-01 09:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even a religious marriage ceremony requires sanction from the state, that is, a marriage license, otherwise there is no recognized marriage. An exception to this is the concept of common-law marriage, where a couple holds themselves out to the world as husband and wife without ceremonial marriage or license. Many states still accept this, and it typically requires living together for some period of time, possible use of another name, joint bank accounts, etc., all with the intent of becoming "married." Your desert island example might qualify, if their home states would recognize it.
2007-10-01 09:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by aboukir200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible commands that we obey the law. God obeys the law. There are no rules on deserted islands, and God honors the hearts of the people involved, because he is there to join the marriage.
In America for example, marriage is only performed through a certificate instated by the government. Which God, being just, and also being the one who appoints the Authorities, expects you to do what is right.
Read the book of Judges, it is a book where the theme is "Every man does what is right in his own eyes". If you aren't letting the word of God run your life you are going to be a mess.
2007-10-02 09:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by Adopted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you have a civil ceremony is so that you could prove to the government that you are married. You do it for tax purposes and to add your significant other to your income tax and social security. But if you dont care about that, then in Gods eyes you are married without the civil ceremony.
2007-10-01 09:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by lpogue2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legal considerations, for one thing.
Something for you to consider; there is nothing in all of Scripture that gives ministers the right to perform weddings. So it really does boil down to two people committing themselves to each other, regardless of ceremony. But ceremonies help by involving family and friends, and being witness to the union for legal reasons.
Fifteen, and all ready have everything figured out, including there is no God.
Amazing.
I have seen many your age before you, with this mind-set, and watched them self-desctuct before they were 21.
It's like listening to a broken record.
Would it do any good to tell you exactly what you are going to do, and what will happen to you before you are 21?
Naa.
Tell you what. If I am still here when you turn 21, contact me, and then I'll tell you, and see if it isn't what happens.
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2007-10-01 09:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Hogie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any case OTHER THAN the afforermentioned "Desert Island" scenario, (In other words, daily REAL life) you'd do the civil ceremony because that civil ceremony confers parental rights, inheritance rights, and a whole host of other administrative and civil rights that "In the eyes of god" just doesn't even BEGIN to cover. Render unto Ceaser, and all that.
2007-10-01 09:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Stephen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make a commitment in front of other people. I ask them to the wedding to help me make sure I honor that commitment before God.
If I didn't marry my wife and get it "legalized", she would not be eligible to receive health benefits through my insurance provider, nor could she collect on any policies in the event of my death.
Sex should be with somebody you love. Casual sex leads to hurt feelings, crippled emotions and possible threats to your physical health.
I won't condemn you for having pre-marital sex, but you should do it with only someone whom you love.
Thank you for your question. Issues like this need to be discussed so that today's society can redefine and challenge the beliefs held by people centuries before us. It's the only way we can advance our faith.
Jesus descended to meet us all right where we are. He understands the problems of this world and loves us yet the same.
2007-10-01 09:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by samans442 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is definately a difference between pre-marital sex and having sex when married in God's eyes.
the reason we still have a service is partially out of habit, partially out of culture beliefs, and paritally because every girl wants to have her special day! :-)
Being married in God's eyes still means you have to make the same commitments as a government ceremony, and even more.
you have to promise to uphold your partner through all trials and to keep him or her on God's path
you still make the same commitments, but with the knowledge that divorce is not even an option, because being married in God's eyes is knowing you found the one that He wants for you, so there is no other option
i'm sure what i wrote is really hard to understand, it's hard to explain on this end, but i would encourage you to talk to a local pastor and ask these questions. i'm sure he can explain things better than i can
2007-10-01 09:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Shanoby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People get married in churches and civil unions to carry-on the traditions of men, not of God the Father.
2007-10-01 09:55:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋