O.K so this guy that I am dating right now is pressuring me into having se*. I dont want to and I told him that. He stopped for a while and now hes starting up again. I told him that if he doesnt want to respect my feelings its over. Also he lives down the street and thretend to ra** me. I broke up with him but i am still freaked out. Can you people please give me some advice? please and thank you!
2007-10-01 09:04:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your parents, his parents, and the police. Get a restraining order. this guy is seriously unstable...
And dont go back with him just because he apologizes or says he will change!!
2007-10-01 09:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by sami_sam 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations for having made the right choices.
You have self-respect and can't be bullyed into "giving it up".
The ex is a boorish idiot who probably would have dumped you after he got what he wanted, and called you a ho to boot.
If you are really scared of that creep, contact the police and file a complaint. The Police will at least talk to him and make he understand that he can't legally threaten anyone, and most certainly will have serious legal problem if he rapes or attempts to rape you.
The main thing I would advise you is to do is to stay as far away as possible from this guy. He's no good.
2007-10-01 16:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you broke up with him then you need to stop talking to him and lose any contact that you have with. you did the right thing, he didn't respect you so you broke up with him, but now he's threatening you!!! oh hell no!!!! i will tell someone that you can trust like you parents or you best friend cause you don't know what he will do and being that he lives down the street from you it makes things a little awkward. when you go to sleep at night have a bat next to your bed so you can feel protected! but i would just not talk to him anymore!! good luck!!
2007-10-01 16:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by ~I'm A Keepa ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, good for you for sticking to your decision.
If you are worried about what he said to you, tell someone and get some help to figure out what to do with the situation. It would be sad to find out that he rapes the next person that refuses him.
I hope that if he comes crawling back to you and says sorry, you will not take him back after what he said about rape. What a horrible thing to say.
Anyone that gets pressure to do something they don`t want to, should leave the relationship immediately. Without respect, it won`t work out.
Hopefully this jerk will leave you alone.
2007-10-01 16:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell people that you trust what is going on by all means please break up with him u desrve better but if your afraid hell rape you tell your neghibors (that arnt his friends) so that they know whats going on so they can alert authoritys to whats goinon if something happens.
I know this sounds silly but if he forces u into having sex ask him to use a condom if u can
and always keep a basball bat in the entry way and a can of mace in your pocket,
good luck darlin may God be with you
2007-10-01 16:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Arc_Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i used to have a boyfriend that pressured me and i never ever did it with him...mostly because of that. um im kinda scared for you but if you really think he will do that then make sure you tell some people like your parents um a gaurdian and other people that will protect you. if your really scared then go to the police and get a restraining order! good luck!
2007-10-01 16:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♪ My Angel♪♫♪ I Love You♪♫♪ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you got to do is make sure to keep your doors locked. For now try not to worry about it. Just if he tries to do anything to you now then call the police asap. And tell everyone possible that you trust.
2007-10-01 16:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by koolgang05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Animal Lover Gracie Dear never speak to him again, but tell others near you what he said so they can protect and shelter you !
2007-10-01 16:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always have some back up. dont ever try to go it alone. i think you should let a close , looked up to friend, or your protector in this situation know about this. he is potentially dangerous to you, and you should know that it is sooo dangerous to try to keep this to yourself. good luck,
2007-10-01 16:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by we_are_waiting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in...if this is all he wants, then he isn't your friend either...friends don't "high pressure sale" friends...stick to your guns, and be who you are....
2007-10-01 16:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋