Seems like everyone i know is getting married, having kids, or starting new relationships. I cant seem to find any man i click with. Either they are moving away, we arent compatible, i'm not into them, they're not into me. I'm getting worried...and there's nothing i can do. Im attractive, smart, good job, in shape, in grad school...I'm not a loser..why is it so difficult?
2007-10-01 09:00:07 · 19 answers · asked by meggerpepper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont want to be too picky (i dont think i am) but i also dont want to settle for a weirdo or just some average nice guy...sorry, but i dont. I want someone normal, in shape, has a decent job...i can offer all the same so what is the deal? lol
2007-10-01 09:14:11 · update #1
You wanna settle? Because you can find a man in the blink of an eye if that's what you wanted.
98% of guys really don't have much worth in their souls OR they do things that piss off 70% of the female population.
It'll take a while. Those other chicks are either settling or lucky. No biggie. 33 is when you need to get scared. Just relax and keep your standards the way they are.
Franklin
2007-10-01 09:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your baby boy! It sounds like you may be suffering from severe anxiety. If you haven't discussed this with your doctor yet, I would urge you to do so as you certainly don't need the excess worry and stress now. You note a number of things you have done - probably from worry - to check this babies health; multiple ultrasounds, genetic testing, etc. Your worry isn't confined to your time on the internet at work. Having said that, you know that you have a problem during the day - instead of surfing pregnancy websites start looking at sites covering something else you are interested in - a hobby or exercise you particularly enjoy for instance. Limit your time on pregnancy related websites to only 20 minutes a day at work and try to get that number to zero as you go. Maybe you could ask for an additonal, low stress, assignment at work that would keep you from having so much free time to surf the web while you are there. Good luck!
2016-05-18 03:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I don't think you have anthing to worry about. My mom didn't find the right guy and get married until she was 39! And my fiancee didn't meet me until he was 23, and we weren't engaged until he was 24, so no. You're just one of those "hard-to-catch" girls, I'm guessing. You just haven't found the right guy yet, but trust me...he's out there. You probably have a lot of requirements for the perfect guy. One thing you do have to remember, though, is that the perfect guy won't always be perfect. There will always be something about everyone that you dislike or are irritated from. It all depends on how many things annoy you, and what you could stand for the rest of your life. You'll know you love someone when you can say that you would want to marry him/her even if they wouldn't change. Hope that helped you some. ;)
2007-10-01 09:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by iridescent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dontt know why people assume others are losers when they can't find someone at a certain age, that is so not true and people are different, the ones who are losers are the ones with 1000s of partners. we can't be like each other, this is you, you are not your friends or neighbors, or family members
this is something i learned when i got advice from some very good friends of mine, i was drop dead worried that no man was going to come into my life, (I'm 21 and NEVER been with anybody) and so i finally said to myself that's it I'm done waiting.
but i learned it wasn't my time, and that i wanted to be like everybody else who was getting married at age 20 and 21 to 23. and if i keep being impatient the odds are i wont find him or I'll end up married to the wrong guy and eventually we'll get a divorce, so at 29? no i wouldn't be worried, its just not your time yet, if you really want somebody to spend the rest of your life with, then just wait. don't waste your time sweating when you can just relax and not worried about it. go out alittle more.
2007-10-01 09:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why it's so difficult- but try not to let it bother you. I was in the same position you were in, for many years. I didn't meet my husband until I was 33, and we got married this year (I'm 35 now). Those times when I was alone were hard, but they were worth it. Keep doing what you like, get out as much as you can, and don't focus on it. I am sure you will find the right person!
2007-10-01 09:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 29, I would suggest looking at yourself and evaluating your choices. Most guys that you would consider good at this age range are probably married.
If you really don't wanna settle then go for the guy you like regardless the situation. You need to play dirty and start being the aggressor. If he is shy and you know he's attracted to you, seduce him. If the guy you want is married and you are the superior female, then steal him.
2007-10-01 13:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by darmonx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to get married and I am assuming you are, then you have about 3-4 years before you need to hit the panic button. Sounds like you have unrealistic expectations in men. You are either going to have to settle or go through life asking yourself what's wrong.
2007-10-01 09:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by bettercockster7 c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are still young- dont worry. this is coming from someone is single and 31! But all it is, is that we know what we want or know what we dont want. I truly believe there is someone for everyone. I too am in school and my career is my priority right now. So I know where you are coming from. But I believe that once we get ourselves on the market we will find someone.
2007-10-01 09:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Meli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noo do not worry about it. stop looking and iit will come! believe me.
just have fun, meet new people, and keep your options open. you will find the perfect person for you. just give it time...
but dont feel bad, enjoy! have you try those sites like match.com or eharmony.com? you never know.... you should try...
good luck girl! feel proud of yourself, you have a great job and you r in grad school..... be proud of that! you will find a person as smart and talented as you are!
2007-10-01 09:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by florrr2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex girlfriend has this problem. We are ex's because she couldn't stop talking about marriage. Her family would pressure her. Her friends applied "pressure" (they were getting married and she wasn't). I couldn't handle it. Too much. Calm down. Desperation is a turn off, especially with a divorce rate of greater than 50%.
2007-10-01 09:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by ra.osiris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋