i have been with my boyfriend for neary a year he is a bit older than me (hes 32 am 18) and already has two kids of his own, i am concerned that there wont be a future for me in this relationship hes had a family etc but one day i might want one of my own and from the way he talks i dont think he would want that, its not a definte "i must have it" but is it too much to cut out of my life just for a bloke? i do love him n i wuld be in a state if we were to break up but it could affect me in the future if i wanted more! im not sure what to do, my friends think that he shuld hav considered this we started goin out becos im younger and havnt lived my life, but im i over reactin?
2007-10-01 08:39:46 · 25 answers · asked by xtootsyboopx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go.
2007-10-01 08:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bit older than you? Try, WAY older. You have your life ahead of you, your only 18! He's already made his life, his life is over. You just started yours, the real world for you is now open, get out there and explore. Don't let this old fart drag you down. Your way too young he's just dragging you down, just cut this ball and chain; MOVE ON! You don't see a future so, theres a big red flag, he's 32 yet another red flag, he already lived his life and your just starting yours another big red flag! You have so much potential move on there are plenty of guys out there around your age.
I bet their is plenty of younger guys that would love to date you, like lets say in their 20s who are closer to your age. I think 32 is a little to old in my opinion. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 24.
2007-10-01 15:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Gabri3ll3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having kids a huge part of life if that is the path you want to go down. I don't think you should let a man hold you back from doing that. You might love him, but its sounds like the two of you might not be compatible for that reason. You two are probably not meant to be. I would say move on.
2007-10-01 16:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you being so much younger than him, you should make the decisions here. He has live more of his life than you have lived in yours. If you plan to have kids in the future than thats your womanly decision to. Its not up to him, especially just because he already has kids with someone else. you are not that someone so you go and have your future with someone who will understand you and accept you for who you are and your wishes. Im not saying he's inconsiderate because your not sure as well, but give it some time and see where this goes. Just make sure to use you head in this one and not so much your heart.
2007-10-01 15:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was 32 and got out of a shitty marriage I would jump all over an eighteen year old. Look it is time to move on. You will find another great guy.
2007-10-01 15:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by fairtaxcrusader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go cause this guy is way too old for you and you already stated you want a family and he does not . so you should find someone around your age that wants to marry ,settle down and have a family . this guy is looking for a ready made mom for his kids . it is time to go . good luck .
2007-10-01 15:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO!!!
You are too young to even know what you could possibly want in ten years. You'll have to trust me when I tell you that in ten years you will change so much you will barely remember the girl you are today.
I say go - live your own life and make up your own mind about things in time.
GO!!!
2007-10-01 15:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has been down that road and doesn't want to go back/ You need to start your own life and look ahead and go after what YOU want to do. You are only 18years old. go to college and look toward what life brings you, He has had the family life and apparently didn't work well
2007-10-01 15:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by amberjake1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go--he is holding you back. you need to go after all that you want in life and not settle for someone who will not give you what you truly want to have in your life. you need to be happy and sometimes what makes you happy now may not be what makes you happy in the future especially if your needs may change
2007-10-01 15:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by LMD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more of a future than this man can ever give you. Don't ruin your life for someone who has already lived half of theirs.
2007-10-01 15:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by Somethingtotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you I would GO and leave him behind - he does not want a steady relationship he just wants to play around and waste your time of looking for someone who can really make you happy. Good luck....!!!!
2007-10-01 15:45:45 · answer #11 · answered by concerned in LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋