First a little background info: she fights all the time with her boyfriend, tried to break us up by saying little things that she doesn't like about him, or how he treats me, and she is pretty unstable at times.
Anyway, she calls me this morning to tell me that my boy (lets call him ray), called her and tells her that he loves her, he doesn't want her to move, if it didn't work out with me would she consider going out with him, etc etc etc.
I just called "Ray" at work, and he said he didn't get in until 8:20, he didn't call her, he didn't have time to talk about this at work, he loves me to death (and more than anything) and we will talk about this when we both get home.
he can't talk on the phone at work, so it's understandable why he wouldn't talk now, however, i was crying really hard and i thought he might stay on the phone with me to talk.
my friend can be sneaky at times, but i never thought she'd do anything like this. and i trust him with all my heart, but when i think
2007-10-01 08:35:03 · 9 answers · asked by sparkle7776896969 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
about it, he should have gotten to work a lot earlier than 8:20...
my mom seems to be on his side, and so does my other good friend (both on his side), but i just can't get over this. i don't know what to think. any pointers?
ps we've been together for a year, we live together, we just signed a lease for an apt a week ago together, and he has a beautiful daughter that i am in love with (and she is in love with me too) that lives with us. would a man be stupid enough to throw it all away like that? and we aren't fighting or anything, nothing bad going on in our relationship (in fact, i feel we are at our best right now), and he tells me he loves me 10 times a day and he tells me he is going to marry me in a few years.
2007-10-01 08:35:28 · update #1
She is my best friend, she's always been there for me, but lately she has become a little more erratic. I hate to think that about her, but then again i don't know.
When me and Ray first started going out, i told him i had been cheated on with every man i've ever been with, and he is the only man i fully trust. now it feels like my trust is bruised (not broken) and the bad thing is he probably didn't even do it...but i can't help feeling hurt and unsure. i wish i could make it go away, but there will always be this "wondering" feeling in the back of my mind...i wonder if he really did it, i wonder if i can really trust him.
he always tells me how much he doesn't like her, he doesn't want her over, but at the same time he says she shouldn't be f*cking around with the man that she's f#cking around with. thats one thing she did say to me this morning, that he (supposedly) said she needs a man
2007-10-01 08:35:58 · update #2
like him to be around.
The other thing is, she is moving to Knoxville (about an hour away from us) next week, and she said that he (supposedly) wanted to tell her all this before she left. 2 things go along with that. A) she is only moving there for a month and then coming back, and B) he knows i wouldn't have lost touch with her in that month and i was even planning on taking a trip out there to see her for the day (by myself). It wasn't like a dire need for him to say this to her (he knows he'd see her again someday)...but do you think all this talk of hating her and not wanting her in our house could just be a ploy or mind games?
also, jsut a few nights ago she was over with her boyfriend and me and RAy watching tv together (all 4 of us)...of course her and her boyfriend were fighting and arguing. at the time it made me realize how lucky i am to have Ray, but i don't want to be played a fool either...help!!!!!!!
2007-10-01 08:36:15 · update #3
Sounds like your 'best friend' isn't really a friend at all! Don't let it bother you until you have a chance to talk to him. If you have been together for a year you will be able to read him well enough if he is lying to you (if he says he didn't call her).
2007-10-01 08:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, calm down, and tell all those little scenarios that are spinning themselves out in your head that they can wait until you've had a chance to hear both sides of the story and your boyfriend isn't too busy catching up at work from being late to give you his full attention. If you absolutely have to find some way to keep them busy, ask them to work on why your "friend" would drop this on you over the phone, just as it's going to become difficult for either you or Ray to confront her over this.
2007-10-01 08:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can analyze it all you want, but the bottom line is that you are going to have to make a choice- trust him or trust her. Go with your gut, and stick to it. Going back and forth between them and trying to piece the story together will get you nowhere. Ask him calmly and directly, when he is not at work, if it's true, and tell him that you'd rather know the truth now than find out later. Listen to his answer- really listen, and then follow your gut.
IMO, if someone really wants to play games with you, they will. And if this kind of behavior continues- end the relationship. You teach people how to treat you. If you participate in these dramas, they will continue. Stand up for yourself, and people will be less likely to try this nonsense with you in the future.
2007-10-01 08:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is one great reason why you don't live with someone until you marry them.
You need to invite the friend over and confront both of them, in person together, about this supposed call. You will then have to listen to your gut as to what the truth is. I suggest having your friend come over before you man comes home from work, that way, when he gets home you can immediately start talking about it.
2007-10-01 08:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 09:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by bockoven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this ruin your relationship with your boyfriend, whom you seem to have no reason not to trust. Unless he has given you a reason to find him untrustworthy, trust him. Your friend seems a little loopy.
2007-10-01 08:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by slightlycycho836 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being a woman or a person for that matter we should always move on our instint you should also have trust in a relationship,anyway as for your friend if she is your friend if infact she did have that call she should have put him in his place an respect you an your friendship
2007-10-01 08:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your boyfriend...your friend sounds like a psycho
2007-10-01 08:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by suzie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a hoe!
2007-10-01 08:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by lizeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋