I was walking to school when I saw Jessica and I was like hey Honey, what happened to ur arm, I knew what happened I wanted her to say it, She said I cut myself last night, So I told her that I cut myself and that I want her to stoping cutting now b4 she cant stop later, Her parents do know about this, I don't think they r going to help her, I told her to call me anytime, She said she should just leave school now and take a bottle of pills, I told her please don't kill ur self, I love u ur friends love u and we r here 4 u. So she told me she will not take some pills, How can I help her with cutting I feel like I can't tell her to stop cuz I do it myself, We r both 16. Her parents know she cut herself, They really don't care about her tho.
2007-10-01 08:05:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
This was the frist time
2007-10-01 08:05:44 · update #1
I'm not telling the school am not telling on my girl. I know whow she fells I can't do that to her.
2007-10-01 08:13:56 · update #2
Maybe she cut because you do?
Sometimes i wonder if cutting hasn't become like a fad?
Before everyone knew about cutting, it was determined MOST people who cut or self-injured were children of alcoholics and/or were sexually abused during childhood.
There are a lot of detrimental, long term effects of cutting... and one of the things it can effect is your lymph system.. not pretty. you can also get terrible infections and even die from these cuts.
I think that it might be a good idea to do a yahoo search on SELF INJURY SELF HELP for more information. And looking up LONG TERM EFFECTS OF SELF INJURY might be another idea.
Hon if you are suffering, have problems, then maybe it's time to let your parents know how you're feeling. It's not fair that you are suffering, and there is good help out there. Self-injury isn't a character flaw, it's about emotional trauma.
Take care of yourself, and please get help? Sending hugs.
2007-10-01 09:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky situation. I do think it would be good for her to talk to someone, and for you too since you self harm as well, but I can understand that you don't want to tell someone behind her back. Maybe the two of you could find some helplines or something together? Or maybe use the Internet to find an on line support group or something.
I would be careful not to take too much responsibility for this though. She's your friend and its both natural and right that you care for her, but at the end of the day you can't stop her from doing this and you obviously have your own troubles or you wouldn't self harm either.
As her friend I think the best thing you can do is simply be there to listen if she needs to talk. If there is anything you have found which helps then maybe share that with her, though different things work for different people. Hopefully the two of you can be some support for each other and help one another find a way through this. Be careful though as I have seen friends kinda make each other worse even though they were just trying to help each other.
I do advise that both of you seek help, either together or separately. Maybe this is something the two of you could talk about. Please do consider talking to someone about this as the earlier you receive help for self harm the more likely it is that you Will learn another, better way of coping.
2007-10-01 08:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its really YOUR fault necessarily. Though I dont think your actions and such helped your friend. The best thing I can tell you is you stop cutting first. If your friend did start cutting by your example, then showing your friend you can stop will help. Also just a little advice? Talk openly with her. If shes cutting, shes trying to numb some kind of pain shes keeping inside i think you both need someone to talk to.
2016-04-06 22:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is seriously dealing with this issue...and has a problem with self infliction and doesn't know how to express herself in a healthy way...then i will say yes do talk to the school counselar...people who suffer from this illness can't just quit and be okay the next day...
facts about si:
"Self-injury is found in almost equal numbers in all ethnic groups. Nearly 50% report physical and/or sexual abuse during his or her childhood. Many report that they were discouraged from expressing emotions, particularly, anger, and sadness."
so i am probably guessing she is having trouble expressing herself in the proper manner and finds self harming the best way to cope...so like i said if she continues down that road talk to the school counselor...
2007-10-01 08:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww i'm sorry hun i went through that too
my parents broke up and my whole world crashed
tell her you are there for her, support her, don't put her down.
telling her to !!11OMG sEeK HELPp IMMEDiATLYYYY omg! won't help at all. she does not want to seek help. just try to explain to her when she goes through pain there's other things to let out pain besides cutting yourself.
when i used to get the urge to cut or hurt someone i would scream at the top of my lungs in my pillow and punch my bed really hard.
it sounds weird but it helped and let a lot out. now i don't have problems like that. i count to 10 and take deep breaths. the urge will go away.
good luck and god bless!
2007-10-01 08:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MENTAL ILLNESS is treatable with medications and with therapy! Please do not die young! What you may have is not your fault, or is it a weakness! Get Help!! I would hate to see you die uselessly, when there is so much help! If you love your friend, stick by her!! Do not give up on her!! Call a Crisis Line, Get in a program, but know that you will be alright!
2007-10-01 08:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is very serious. Go to a counsellor or doctor immediately and tell your and her parents. You both really need help.
2007-10-01 10:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a car? drive her to the hospital and force her to get checked in. slip her a benadryl so she won't put up a fight, if you have to.
you KNOW it's not easy to fight this alone, so you've got to do whatever it takes to get her help. she might be upset, but when she realizes she's starting to feel better she'll thank you.
2007-10-01 08:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
care about your friend and care about you. tell your friend it is wrong by showning her you stoped. scar tissue sahcks.
forgive your parents for not caring and move on with your life
2007-10-01 08:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell the school councilor this is very serious!! please take her to get help before it is to late!! tell her she is never alone call a crises hot line!! do something!!!!
2007-10-01 08:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by wendi t 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋