I'm 31 and sinlge?

Question

I'm also very shy as well. I've always had a hard time talking to people that I don't know, especially men.

Answer 1

Welcome to my world. I got the same problem, so clearly I cant provide answers. Good luck to you though

Answer 2

Try to force yourself to open up to people more. Try saying something to someone you don't know at least once a day and pretty soon you'll begin to get more comfortable talking to people you don't know which will in turn offer you more opportunities with people. If men are especially difficult for you, try talking to a woman in the checkout line at the store and work your way up to chatting to a man. Even if it's in the break room around a big "game"....you just open your mouth and say so, did you watch the game this weekend? Start small and work your way up. You need to work on your self esteem and realize that you are unique and people probably would like to get to know you if you just give them a chance. Also, go to the library or book store and get yourself a book or two on overcoming shyness or raising your self esteem. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think Sarah S has some excellent advice. I'm also 31, single, and have been very shy most of my life. Getting more involved in volunteer activities or other things you find interesting will be very good for you. You should be comfortable with your singleness and your life if you expect others to be comfortable around you. I've also found that it has really helped me to be more social as well.

In your case, you're also likely to meet some quality guys that will be interested in you. Shyness won't matter as much since they'll be doing the pursuing. That's one advantage you have over me, in that I'm expected to do the pursuing if I'm interested.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I know what you mean. I am 28 and still single. I think a lot has to do with me being shy a lot also. I don't know what will change it. Once I know people, I will talk their head off. Like you said, the problem is when you first try to get to know people. That is always the hard part.

By the way, go colts! (I love 'em too).

Answer 5

You're a female who likes sports. What's the problem?

You're shy? Everyone is shy and has a hard time talking. Everyone.

Buy a Colts Jersey, go to a sports bar when games are on. Smile. Talk to guys who talk to you.

Then, come back on here, in three months, and ask why do you always meet jerks. . . .

Answer 6

For one thing, I've never considered single-ness a bad thing, necessarily. Alot of it is prospective.
What it does sound like, however, is that you may be feeling as if somehow by your 30s you should be in a relationship of some kind, which I'm not sure there's any merit to. I would recommend that you consider and write out why it is you feel you need to be connected to someone. Whenever I chain myself to a belief, however false or true, I limit my possibilities. Having said that, it might be time to commit yourself beyond your current scope of activities: are you in any volunteer actvities that could bring a sense of purpose to your life? are you in any organizations out side of work that create a sense of meaning in your life? What structures in your life give you purpose? If after looking at these things you're still finding your score card coming up 0 because you're single, you may want to talk to a professional about self esteem issues.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with shyness.....and nothing wrong with be backward.....try and just be a friend with someone in casual conversation let it be about normal everyday things.....you will slowly find out how easy it is to open up about other things once you get comfortable with just the simple facts.....nothing wrong with being single or 31.......or both.....be yourself....and be yourself around everyone...people will learn to appreciate YOu just being You...shy or not.....Be YOU !! And just asking this question is a first step.......

Answer 8

Im 22 and single. Im not shy at all. How do you dress? Do you ever go out to parties, clubs, or get togethers. However, I think if you try being a little more outgoing and flirtacious with someone you find attractive it should help.

Answer 9

I'm 39 and single. You may not see it now, but there are benefits with being single. Enjoy life to the fullest. I once thought I had to have a man and went thru terrible relationships.

Answer 10

I would give the same advise that others here have, try on-line. You can chat with people online, pick and choose people with your similar values, intrests etc. It worked great for me, I was able to date as much or little as I wanted. I met some great people and my fiancee!! Best of luck

Answer 11

31 is still young. Go out to some bars, have a few beers and start chattin'!