why every time i make a dumb mistake my parents want a resaon?

Question

can they just except that i'm an idiot i have i dont care but know they want a logical explanation u know how fustrating that is

Answer 1

I am a mom who asks that question: "Why in the world did you do *that*?" and the other killer: "What did you *think* would happen when you did *that*?"

You may not know why you did X, but if it was something truly stupid and impulsive, you need to get some insight on why you *did* do *that*, so that you do not do *that* and stuff like *that* in the future. The usual real ansers to why you did *that* are already known to we parents:
1. I was bored and did not think ahead to the consequences
2. A whole lot of equally idiotic people were there doing it
3. I was afraid to take the social risk to not participate
4. I was expressing anger in an inappropriate way
5. I let my actions get a few to many steps ahead of my head.
6. I was distracted by (basketball/girls/food) and did not notice that conditions had changed.

The "What did you think would happen?" question is to get you to practice up anticipating. When you get in the *habit* of anticipating the consequences of your actions, and envisioning better choices, then you will be more able to make them. You will be making a lot of new choices all the time for awhile, and some of them will not be well thought out, some will not be thought out at all, and a few you will put off until other people make them for you (usually not a great idea).

The reason it is frustrating for you (and for them) is that it is a new skill... Like juggling. It looks pretty akward for a long time, and even after you get it down mostly, the balls sometimes hit the carpet now and then. The practice is worth it now, while mistakes are cheap.

Your parents want to see you practice making good choices and growing in understanding of yourself, so that you can be a person who rules himself, and owns his own life... rather than blow around like a leaf in the wind. They want you to show and tell this activity in front of them when you have made a bad decision, so they can see that you are growing right. Go ahead and show them - you will both understand each other better.

Winners rule themselves. They hope to teach you to be one.

Answer 2

no, they can't. and if you don't have an answer, it's not because you are an idiot.

a study was done on young adults (ages 13-21) and it showed a higher amount of a hormone that is commonly found at very high levels in people with depression, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, sometimes even at high enough levels to be hospitalized. this hormone blocks the sensors from the left and right brain that determine the logic of a situation. therefore you are often unable to determine the logic of a situation.

the reason for this is to encourage sexual growth and to reduce inhibitions for procreation.

that is why when your parents ask "why did you do this?" your only answer is "i don't know" because you really don't know why you did something stupid.

this isn't really an excuse, but it is something to help you be more aware of when you are not acting logically.

Answer 3

Yes, I do know how frustrating that is and went through it throughout childhood (and still do!).

It's called LOVE. I'm sure they know you aren't an idiot & they're not trying to 'rub it in' that you made a mistake. They're doing what they think is best to help you learn from your mistakes & not repeat them.

Tell them when they ask... I really have to give it some thought. That'll get them of your back for a while & really give you time to think about why you made a 'dumb' mistake.

Answer 4

Don't put yourself down, by calling yourself an idiot, because you're NOT. We all make mistakes, even your parents. Maybe if you put thought into things before you do them, the results will turn out better. Even adults need to do that from time to time. When you make mistakes, learn from them. That's just one of life's lessons.

Answer 5

I think they are trying to figure out what makes you tick. They are trying to understand why you make the decisions that you do. For example, if you did something stupid but had good reasoning...maybe they would see where you are coming from. Hopefully, you are exaggerating and no one thinks that you are an idiot. I'd like to think that you have hope :) And, maybe, just maybe, you'll grow up and do something very important in this world. Good luck.

Answer 6

When they ask you "Why did you do that?" what they are actually doing is trying to make YOU think about what you have done, so that next time, you'll examine your choices BEFORE you choose the bad one. Also, no, your parents will not just accept that you are an idiot and dont care. It is their job to make you smarter and to teach you how to care. You are lucky to have them.

Answer 7

lol, I ask this question to my 9 year old son all the time!!! The funny part is, I remember when my parents used to ask me this I always tried to come up with witty answers and all it got me was grounded. I guess it's not so much the answer that we "parents" want to hear but more that we want you to think about your actions and what prompted you to do the "dumb" things that you did. It's all part of growing up. I know why he does the things he does, he is a 9 year old boy!, but like I said I want him to think about why he did it, also that is why he gets grounded so he has plenty of time to think about it.

Answer 8

why do you say you are an idiot, don't belittle yourself. everybody makes mistakes it part of the learning process. parents ask why you did so they can help not make it twice. it is frustrating though when asked and you are not sure why you did,but there is always a reason even if you dont know it.

Answer 9

If you cant offer a logical explanation. Just tell your parents "i know it was wrong, i wasnt thinking clearly and i know now that it was a bad decision" I think thats all they want to know is that you UNDERSTAND that it was a stupid decision.

Answer 10

Yes it can be frustrating. They just want to know that you are learning from your mistakes. We all make them its learning from them thats the trick. Answering them intelligently will make them realize you have learnt something valuable and they will respect your decisions more if they know you are capable of making good ones.