I have been with a guy for about 2 months now. I am really falling for him hard. I am afraid to tell him though. I feel it will scare him away. He just went through a divorce and I don't want him to feel I am moving to fast. Any advice?
2007-10-01 07:03:03 · 19 answers · asked by Marilyn M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well in this situation it would be nice to know he feels...huh?
Do you have an idea how he feels, has he said anything?
If so and he really likes you as well...I would tel him you really care for him, strong feelings (how ever you wanna put it), but then add some thing like I am not trying to put any pressure on you and I dont want to rush us, but i do want you to know how i feel about you.
I dont know about you but I find it hard to not express my self. So I would talk to him. It can't hurt the realtionship unless he is just really messed up from his divorce. However if you are feeling like this then he probably is also. I mean you have established these feelings some how right? Obviously you guys are connecting.
Good Luck!
2007-10-01 07:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweet girl! I am sorry. He went through a divorce a few years ago, and I am going through one now. We both have kids so that was kinda cool. But I am in the exact same place as you except I told my guy and he felt the same at the time I told him, but then I pushed he showing that he cared before I was out of my current relationship and that made things rocky, so now I have no idea how he feels for me and I don't dare tell him that I still feel the same for him... Any advice for me!? haha... Read my current ? if you can find it and answer it for me please! haha.... But for you,
I would say test the waters.... Dont necessarily tell him flat out but see if you can tell how he feels for you first. It's always best to ease the guy into telling how he feels first before we blow our cover. The only hard thing is most the time guys won't blow their cover before we do. So, see if you can tell at all if he is falling for you.. if it's too soon to tell how he feels.. hold off and wait until you build a friendship/relationship with this guy, then tell him and pray he accepts it well. :) It will be go okay if you do it at the right time!
2007-10-01 07:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by In over my head 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right you will know it, and so will he, he probably feels the same way, but he's scared. The people who are sitting in those big chairs with diplomas on the walls say to wait one year. Even though the divorce is final, his feelings and emotions will be ripped to shreds.Be patient if he's the one for you, he'll still be there in 10 months.
God bless.
ps. Don't have sex with this fellow or you will blow any chance at any long term relationship. Sex to a woman means, all those things like, oh!!!he loves me, I am the one for him, but during this healing he has to go through, it's just sex with a willing body.
Sorry you probably didn't need that last peace but I felt compelled to write it.
2007-10-01 07:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I KNOW how it feels to fall and fall hard, considering your situation, I'm thinking that perhaps you should surpress your feelings just a little bit, so as to not scare him off...he did just get through a divorce afterall. So I'd take some time to think about why you have an interest in this man, and what you want at this point in your life. What does he offer? What do you offer? You could always ask him what he thinks of you without being too forceful. Then you can get a general idea as to how HE feels as well. Then, take it from there...enjoy eachother and see if HE comes around.
2007-10-01 07:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by RN81 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT tell him. The easiest and fastest way to scare a guy off, in my opinion.
Its not that being told you like somebody isnt a nice thing to hear. Its just that it entails so much more responsibility on the other person, because you are officially declaring to him that you have strong feelings for him that he can betray! Before he didnt have to worry about doing you dirty. And the added weight and pressure of a committed relationship as opposed to a dating relationship is not something most guys want. Usually they have to be dating for a long time to feel that sort of bond, 2 mos is not long enough. A girl I was dating a few mos. ago told me that and I ran fast.
2007-10-01 07:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by grind333ing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him how you feel! If it scares him away then let him run! I just got out of a divorce 2 1/2 years ago and i started dating this guy from my work 6 months later. a couple months after he told me he loved me and he has for a while. I had feelings for him but i can't say i loved him right away but i knew right then it was ok to persue my feeling for him. we have been together ever since and i love him madly!
2007-10-01 07:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Dvine21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him how you feel there is no wrong in how you feel but mabey if u tell him he might feel the sme for you but the longer you wait the harder it will be to tell him so just when u 2 get some alone time just tell him.
Good Luck
2007-10-01 07:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite your lip...especially since he just got out of a divorce. That is the last thing he wants to hear right now. Just give it time and make sure this is really what you want.
2007-10-01 07:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep your feeling to yourself right now. You don't have to tell him just because you feel it. Show him but don't tell him. The way to keep a guy is to keep him guessing, and that's not game playing either. No sense in telling him anything yet. And, if it were me, he would tell me first before I unleash my true feelings. Trust me on this now!
2007-10-01 07:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ida T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well since just divorced i would wait. That would be wait until you fall hard enough and hit the pavement then tell him
2007-10-01 07:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋