I just read a question from a girl complaining how she doesn't want to pay for anything in her relationship w/ her boyfriend, and that he should pay for it all...is this what the world is coming to? People wanting to live for nothing? I realize that is considered welfare but since when did a boyfriend/girlfriend husband/wife become the social services handout? My god! These people (my opinion) should be used for guinnea pigs in labs. Agree??
2007-10-01 06:50:17 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her name is gigglebear and the question is under single and dating.. for the person who wanted to read it. p.s. if the guy wants to pay for everything...fine so be it...no agruement here...but for a woman to mooch like that because she just wants to is wrong any which way. Oh, and living off your husband while you're taking care of your kids, going to school what not is not the same and mooching hon and sorry if you were offended.
2007-10-01 07:02:38 · update #1
The girl who is doing that won't last long in a relationship. I know because my last girlfriend was stupid. She wanted things her way or it was the highway. I choose the highway because she was not willingly to work things out. Someone who gets into a relationship just for themselves and not caring about the other person, will lose BIG TIME!!! Regardless of how honest and ethical they may be. That girl needs to know that relationships are a two terminal matter. For her to want her boyfriend to pay for everything etc. yet she doesn't chip in? She's as good as single and that attitude shows that her chances of happieness are extinct from the very start of the relationship. She needs to know this. Hope this helps.
2007-10-01 06:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree..to an extent. If a man asks a woman out, by all means he should pick up the tab. But no, the man shouldn't have to pay all the bills, hair, nails, etc...thats just ridiculous.
Why would any woman want to just give up her right to her own life? My man has told me I can sit at home if I like, he would take care of me...which is really sweet of him and all, but I want to do my OWN thing. I'm in school, and I want a career. She obviously doesn't want to much for herself.
If the man has made it a point to have a succesful enough job for his woman not to work, that is a different story. This doesn't sound like the case though.
PS--Is there anyway you can get that question to me? I want to read it as well as some of the answers!!
2007-10-01 06:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Yuck. The other day a girl i know said 'compromise is when the girl gets her own way'. Ugh.
I think all of us should try to be independent financially, although when it comes to being married/living together there is obviously some degree of codependence incorporating a large degree of trust.
Both sexes should treat thier partner sometimes, but neither should be totally reliant. Love is not about money, and you are still your own person. If you rely on everyone for everything, they will soon tire of this. Then you will have nothing.
So yes, I agree!
2007-10-01 06:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree but i lived off my husband now for a little while when i was finishing up school i felt horriable but now that i have a job im paying for the bills and hes paying for the living so i guess it worked out for us but i cant beilive these people that take everyone (even the government) for granted i hated asking for money and that was from the man i married i cant imagine from just a boyfriend id never be able to
2007-10-01 06:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Miranda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Agree! I think it should be 50/50. Why should he have to front the bill for everything that she probably decides they should do? Unfair, totally! When my husband and I were in our courting phase, he and I would take turns and it was never discussed, I just did it! It was the right thing to do!
2007-10-01 06:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with you. that chick needs a reality check. I pay for stuff for my guy and vice versa. it's only fair. if he paid for everything i'd feel useless. and that's what he tells me too. i doubt her relationship will go very far. When my boyfriend was unemployed i helped pay for gas and food and other stuff. but i wasn't carrying him though, he was out there looking for a job everyday. and i didn't mind it at all. i mean yes there was a strain on my wallet but i know he'd do it for me and that he really was trying. he still hates when i pay for more than like 2 lunches or dinners in a row.
2007-10-01 06:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by million$? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
actually I think we should put all the delinquent child support payers in the military.
I think she was saying that she wanted to be supported by her man, and that any kind of payment on her part would show that her man was not able to do that. Most girls who make these kinds of demands find out very quickly that the way they perceive reality isn't quite how it really is.
2007-10-01 06:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lollipop 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol, the guinea pig part is kind of rash but i totally agree with your opinion. Yeah, i see it at my school everyday. "Can i borrow some money?" "Do you have any money i can borrow?" "Will you buy this for me?" like i know people who literally owe me like 20$ just from today...personally i would be charmed if i guy bought me dinner or something, but i don't expect him to pay for everything!!! i would feel really guilty.
2007-10-01 06:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont agree with the people that actually have money not wanting to spend it and getting un-needed help. But i am all for the poeple that really need help getting. Like myself. working one day a week because cant afford child care nad with two kids, i agree these people need help. But i dont agree with laziness
2007-10-01 06:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by bbhefer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree 100%
2007-10-01 06:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋