parting from someone you love?

Question

so i have been in love and still am with this guy even though we had our differences at times.we have been and off yet now we are on the best terms.the thing is that we are attending the same university and this is his last semester here.i just found out yesterday since he just found out as well.it took me by surprise and i am trying to make the most of it.we have known each other since august 2005 so it is hard to let go.i am trying to spend a lot of time with him and get the heck out of here and graduate since he is willing to wait for me so i have 50 credit hours and am pushing for 15 credit hours in the spring and 3-6 behind my parents back which is unfair since they pay yet i wanna be with him at the same time since i dont know i love him and it will be weird not seeing him at least 3 times a week on campus or having dinner or me spending the night at his place.i am trying to get away for my own sake and have my own life as well.how are we supposed to keep in touch?

i am scared that i do not know how to deal with this because i mean i have dated other guys yet being with this guy is different.i am also scared that if he graduates he willmove on and forget about me or be too busy to actually give me a call or e-mail me or AIM me. he said that cell and e-mail and AIM work but when will we see each other?i am confused and yesterday broke down in tears when i was taking a shower because it is an overwhelming that that i never had to go through and now since i am i do not know how to handle.i can see that he as well is taking this hard and all we do is bury ourselves in homework.i respect his decision if he does not want to see nor hear from me.how do i pretend thet everything is okay when next semester i am having 5-6 classes?

Answer 1

Frist off: LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!!!! IT NEVER WAS, NEVER IS, AND NEVER SHALL BE!!! ITS HOW YOU USE IT!!!!!


Sorry to yell but that up there hunnie is the single most important thing you well ever learn about ANY relationship you ever get into. Your both acting like a butch of day-dreamers, toying with each others emotions hurting yourselves and each other!!! Understand that you, me, everyone LOVES THE SAME!!! Its an emotion, how we love is the kicker and right now NEITHER of you knows HOW to do it right. Ooo you can love, but I heard no PURPOSE to that love story. Why wait? So what? You can get married? That suppose to make you happy? Kids? No thats not going to MAKE you happy ether, you better be happy to start with. All that brow-beating aside, hunnie your crutchin the fella. You in college fixing to be living your own life and instead of seeing your life like that, all you see is him, COPE OUT!!! Don't do that, you better have some sort of purpose to your life or no matter how much love you've got, that hopes going to fall thru. Realize that in this life, if you don't have a purpose, something deep and meaningful, your a lost animal looking for anything that can give you hope. Which is why you love this cat so much, I know, I know you didn't plan running into him, but the fact remains neither one of you is treating the other like ther THE ONE AND ONLY! Neither of you is turning to the other and saying, "You know what, were not going to breck up, its you and me against the world!!!" No your both sitting there waiting on the other to give up. Until you guys take this to that extra level (AND ITS NOT ABOUT LOVING MORE!!!) of FRIENDSHIP, were you stop bs with each other and actually start being honest (ACTUALLY LOVING EACH OTHER) the pain you feel is the relationship failing. You know that, you feel that, I'm just the voice...... so realize this other bit of wisdon, in love there is no such thing as I DON'T KNOW, if you don't, you don't deserve to be in it, sorry those are the facts.