should I invite him over to my apartment?

Question

hmmmm, its date 3...should i invite him over to chill at my apartment? i already chilled with him at his apartment on date 2 after our movie date. do guys care about how apartments look? how do i set a nice intimate mood without being too romantic? will he expect sex? he playfully mentioned "sleeping in my bed" among other sexy flirtacious comments that didn't bother me WHATsoever *wink wink, tho I think I'm not ready to do the do yet. oh AND, should we get drinks and then go to my apt...he's coming from out of town.

oh...and guys, what should I wear??? lol. I'm so pitiful.

correction: guys AND girls...what should i wear. lol.

Answer 1

If you have to ask, then it's probably OK to invite him over. Some guys would expect sex and some guys would not. you just don't know. I think he is probably ready for sex given what he said, but I don't know him so I can't be sure.

Don't be afraid to admit you're ready for sex yourself. Nobody can tell you what to do or judge you, you're your own woman. I think that you want him at your apartment because deep inside you want to have a choice to move things forward if you wish and the mood is right, otherwise you would be going somewhere public. If I am right, that is perfectly OK. If not, that's OK too, so long as you can be true to yourself.

Some guys pay attention to a girl's apartment and some guys don't. I pay attention a lot. If his apartment was neat or at least uniquely styled, then he probably would pay attention to those details. Otherwise, he may not even care.

For mood, smooth music, indirect lights and good smells. A glass of wine can be romantic too. Just do less of it if you want to be subtle rather than overtly romantic, and keep it close to what's your true style. If you are not into incense, then skip that.

Also, remember: Don't get too caught up in planing and thinking stuff like too much. It's supposed to be fun. It's a life experiment and you are going to learn about yourself no matter what.

PS: Pay no attention to guys or girls that prescribe what you should do or not do sexually. When you act in a way to please other people you always loose. You either put out too early and they label you slut or you don't and they label you prude. Those people I like to call the rubber stampers. They think that their opinion is the true mark of how the world should work. What the heck do they know anyway? it's your life!

But when you are true to yourself and don't give a damn for people who are judgmental, then you *always* win!
-arr

Answer 2

Dont invite him over yet. He will expect sex if you invite him over and take drinks. And if you really aren't ready yet and you lead him on things can turn sour. Especially if he's from out of town, he'll be expecting some sex becuase its an excuse for it to happen soon.

if you do decide to let him go to your apartment, arrange plans for the night, make reservations, get tickets, and invite him before you go out. that way you can have two hours of clean alone time then some fun in the city, not in the bedroom

Answer 3

Men don't care too much about how your apartments looks. It should be clean but not too clean and should smell nice.

If you invite him to your apartment and you end up not having sex, he'll be disappointed. I'm just being honest with you. If a man is attracted to a woman, he'd prefer to have sex on the first day and doesn't really see any reason to wait. By the 3rd date, if you are mutually attracted to each other, his expectations are even higher.

Good luck.

Answer 4

you dont have to do anything, even if you do sleep in the same bed. if you are dating, and hes from out of town, theres nothing wrong with doing so.
i think all guys expect sex at all times, date 1 or date 32. same difference, but its ur choice to give it to him or not. dont let him influence you to think different.
and if hes coming from out of town, sure, grab some drinks and chill at home watching movies and stuff.
dont try to change ur apartment, for him. it is what it is.
itll be a good time. but just in case, let one or two of ur friends know that hes coming over, so they can check on u every once in a while, not tryin to scare you, but theres some psychos out there =)

Answer 5

NO, NO, NO.....Don`t let him over for at least 2-4 more weeks! Trust me...He has one thing on his mind, and that is conquering you sexually. I know because I date a lot and I have very little respect for women who put out within the first 10 dates. I understand that you don`t want to have sex yet and I applaud that...however, letting him in (especially after alcohol) is only going to lead him to think he is just that much closer. He is going to love a good challenge and by giving in sooner then you are comfortable with only makes you that much less of a challenge. I personally love it when a women keeps me on my toes so to speak, as well as I do with her. Think about it....Namaste`

Answer 6

Well if you want to invite him over, make sure the place is nice and clean...bed fixed, no trash int he trash cans, dishes cleaned and put away, carpet/floor clean, also make sure the toilet is clean because I always look at the toilet too! Get some drinks and try to light some candles for a nice scent as well. I don't see why you shouldn't want to make it TOO romantic because if it were me, I would make try to make it as romantic and comfortable as possible. If you really like this guy just go for it! Good luck:)

Answer 7

frist of all yes some guys do care about how your place looks. if its all messy and croweded then he might think diferent of you. and no if you dont show him you want sex then he should not go there unless thats all he wants from you. invite him! show him a good time get close to him and show him u are happy. i would not sleep with him today thoe its only your 3rd date with him make him wait and if he stays with you untill ur ready then that means somthin

i really really hope this helps. and i hope your date goes well.

Answer 8

If your not sure about whether you want to do the do with him or not, best to keep it at his apartment.

But no, guys dont really care what your apartment looks like. Most of the time if we are invited to a girls apartment we will be thinking its for some fun time.

Answer 9

LOL...just face it, it's the third date and it seems to me that you all are really into each other. Don't try to fight it because I know you're going to give up that *** when he comes. If you're not ready to have sex then don't do it, but if you're telling yourself "I'm not going to engage into sexual activities because it sounds like the right thing to say and do" then you're not being true to yourself nor him. Everybody is adults so let's start acting like one. I feel like its only fair for him to come to your place this time because he did break the ice by allowing you all to meet at his place first. If you're embarrassed by the appearance of your place then don't worry about it, as long as your residence is clean and odor free he'll still like you no matter what. I say "GO FOR IT!!!"

Answer 10

I would give it a couple more dates, and when the time comes, yes, he will want sex. I would just clean up the place, and maybe light one candle to make it smell good.