dont want to be with him but i want to be with someone else but dont want to cheat
2007-10-01 05:54:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you break up with him...make sure you are leaving for the right reasons. Is it because of the new guy? Do you not like your boyfriend anymore? Does he not satisfy you? Are you comparing the two? Do you want to leave him so you don't cheat?
Ask yourself: Why do I want to leave him?
Please don't be discouraged by your attraction to other people...you are human. Like any and everything you truly want you have to fight for it...fight to make it work. You have to work at bettering yourself...build your will power...especially in relationships....and tempations..
I am not sure if you have a favorite dress and now you see a new one and you want to replace it. Does the new dress fit you as well? Or Better? Or is it just new, and you want it? Hey, can you even afford the new dress?
Make sure you want to leave your boyfriend for the right reason. Because if it just because you found someone new then what happens when the new dress becomes the old dress?
Everything gets old...its just a matter of how do you perserve it? You don't necessarily want to keep it new: That little tear at the both of the dress might remind you of the time you climbed a tree and made it to the top....or that ink spot that won't come out reminds you of the first love letter you wrote...or the mustard stain from the county fair...
See the bumps and bruises are what makes the relationship worth it in the long run...its what makes it your favorite dress...
There is always excitment in new, but comfort in old...not to say that new can't become old...but what you do then is the question.
Anyway, to answer your question:
Be honest with him...tell him why you are leaving...why you want to leave...perhaps he is willing to work on whatever it is he hasn't been doing for you...
But if you just want to leave to be with the new guy then tell him exactly what you are doing...tell him you want to be with someone else...it will hurt...but eventually he will respect your honesty...and tell him why...I know it will be hard for you...but you owe him at least that
Yes, let it be face to face...and don't start off with, "we need to talk"...guys always shut down when they hear that
Don't seem overly excited about leaving...but let him know you are making a sound decision that is in your best interest...he has to respect that
Be prepared to answer questions and most importantly...stick to your guns...if you really want to leave...don't let him persuade you to stay...that only leads to turmoil down the road
You never know...if he tries to fight for your love...you might fall in love with him all over again
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-02 06:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by tamoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 13:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, like you said, don't cheat. That's just going to be baaaad karma for you. Second, just be honest. Tell your boyfriend that you no longer want to see him. Try to be easy on the poor guy if he's really still close to you. Let him know you'll talk to him from time to time and possibly still remain friends later on. What you have to keep in mind is that he WILL find out you're seeing someone else right away anyway. Hope it all works out for you.
2007-10-01 06:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sicilianguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, just find out what he doesnt like and dooo it.An example is if he dreads commitment, you push him towards it. Dont answer his calls as much and talk about giving each other more space. If you were physical with him stop and say you have reconsidered your principles.If you do the last thing, he will feel unloved and will probably move on. Just dont hurt the poor bugger too much...
2007-10-01 06:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by cleo s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell him your feelings have changed. dont lie to him. be brutally honest! its the best way to go about it. sorry to hear about your situation, but youre a good person for not cheating. will be a better person if you just be honest about it all! im sure he'll appreciate the honesty, and fact that you didnt cheat!
2007-10-01 05:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by dayofthephoenix99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him out straight, it'll be hard but a lot kinder in the long run, dont cheat it'll make you feel worse
2007-10-01 05:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by NightOwl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do tell it to him face to face...dont be one of those girls that do text/phone breakup. Or one of the ones that just ignore him so much to the point that he stops calling you and have him trying to figure out the whole time what went wrong
2007-10-01 05:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by raoulduke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somehow, before you know it , you fell out of love in much the same intensity you fall in love with him. but what can you do? Both ways, you were never a liar. you told him the truth, whether in love or out of it. tell him like it is whether it hurts or not. of whether it will hurt you, by not loving him anymore in the end, will affect you. love is strange! you will love him today, later you retract what you say, in the final analysis, its fate which decides!
2007-10-01 06:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun the only thing you can do is talk to him and say I'm sorry but I am not feeling the spark that I used to feel anymore when it comes down to you and me sorry but we need to go our separate ways!
Good Luck!
2007-10-01 05:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by My life is now complete PWK&RJC! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, but not brutally honest. Tell him that you feel that you two want different things out of the relationship.
2007-10-01 05:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋