How do I let her know it upsets me? Thank you.
2007-10-01 05:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by J E 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She knows I'm not invited and yes, I do sometimes wish I was invited. They are women friend events, i.e., book club, small dinners, etc. We are friends outside of the office and the women at these events are all mutual friends, I'm just not on the same financial playing field. I probably am somewhat jealous however, I would never tell her something like that or even discuss it. I would think it would make her uncomfortable.
2007-10-01 06:25:25 · update #1
Since you are too smart to feel bad about missing the event, you can cleverly tell her that you weren't invited and you are not bothered by it. The reason that you aren't bothered is because you don't have time to waste on little people trying to avoid your company.
How do you tell her? I would love to tell her that it doesn't bother you to be left out, but that it bothers you when she keeps telling you all of these little gossip items. Gossip bothers you because it breeds negative relations and breaks trust among friends.
I am assuming that she wants to stay friends with you.
2007-10-01 06:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say..."OoKK... and?" look at her like she just said the dumbest thing possible. Maybe she will get the hint that she is a horrible person. That or plan something and then tell her she is not invited.
2007-10-01 07:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by L A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say, "You know, I get confused when you mention such things. I feel like I am being told, just to make my exclusion hurt me even more deeply. Was that your intent?"
Note the "I' language, and not 'You make me mad when you . . . .'
If here answer is yes, that she means to hurt you, then ask her to keep this information to herself in the future, as you cannot see any useful value in these conversations.
2007-10-01 05:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough, not wanting to alienate your coworker but enduring her constant details about events you sound as if you wished you were invited to attend.
Does she KNOW you weren't invited and KNOW you are hurt/annoyed by mention of them? Let her know.
If she continues, you may need to speak up again and interrupt her, saying, "Thanks, but that's enough."
2007-10-01 06:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they're just trying to be mean. You should respond back by saying you don't care to hear about her social life and just ignore her.
2007-10-01 05:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you upset you're not invited or upset that she tells you useless information?
2007-10-01 05:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would just give her "the look" that says it all and ask her why she's telling you this. "The look" works wonders for me.
2007-10-01 05:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie Queen of All ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How creepy of her.
Tell her to please stop doing that because you're not interested.
2007-10-01 05:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋