My father hates the man I have been dating. I told him I would stop but I haven't. He has hired a PI to follow me so he can find out if I am lying to him or not. I know he has done this because he has told me things he found out, and it is all true.
How can I tell exactly when I am being followed and how? Is there a way to throw the PI off the scent? Please help. Thank you.
2007-10-01 05:45:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Either take your dad's advice or leave.
2007-10-01 05:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lavrenti Beria 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget about trying as ohters have said. It doesn't even take a decent PI to be able to not be seen. Shoot, he doesn't even need to follow you all of the time........ well placed phone calls to his or your work, friends or their parents, where he lives, etc. on various pretenses do most of the the job half the time. If you and your boyfriend goes to a certain bar or club he could find out things easy.
Why would your father go to this length.... PI or not? I assume you live w. your parents otherwise you could just say "I don't care". If you were not being given a roof or some other financial support you would not care. What happens if this goes away? Do you think your boyfriend is going to help you?
How about you? Has your attitude changed? Grades? Coming home on time? Why is your mother not stepping in?Hmm.... let me put it this way. I grew up in the military and have been military myself all of my life. Even I if my daughter was dating a screwup If the boyfreind sat down w. me and had a conversation I would be like "OK, fine my daughter will make her mistakes and I need to rely on how I have taught her". Sure I would make comments but I would wait until the next shoe drops when she is dumped.
Bottom line is family is family. Is this the love of your life that you will be w. forever and be the last man you ever date? Family will always be there. Older people can see things that you don't as well. This is precisely why your Dad should back off. I could type forever but you will do as you will anyway. Then when things get worse and worse at some point you will have to go "Dad, you were right". Hopefully at that point he will be the type just to say "yes, I told you so but it's OK, we just go from here".
2007-10-02 05:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an adult? If so, politely but firmly inform your father that you do not need his approval to date anyone. And stop lying to him...it's none of his business, so there should be no need to lie.
There is little you can do about the PI. So long as your father has money to pay him, and so long as the PI does not engage in harassing or otherwise illegal conduct, he can continue following you. And if he's any good at his job, there is little you can do to "throw him off the trail". If you insist on playing that game, your best bet would be to agree with your boyfriend to temporarily stop dating, during which time you "make a show" of dating other men. Even that's no guarantee, since your father might get suspicious once you get back together with your boyfriend, and re-hire the PI to start following you again.
2007-10-01 05:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by El Jefe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good PI will not loose you. A good PI will not let you know you are being watched or followed.
You don't say how old you are. Still living at home? Then drop the guy. Want to keep dating the guy? Move out. To continue dating a guy your father so obviously dislikes is an insult to the man who shelters and feeds you. You can bet your father is looking out for your interests much more than this guy who is slamming you.
2007-10-01 07:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go get a couple pre-paid cell phones, don't give the numbers to anyone except the two of you and keep them completly secret....communicate by sending text messages when and where to meet ect.
It wouldnt hurt to sabatoge the operation alittle bit too.....cost your dad alot of money so he can't afford the p.i.........realize also you may have a friend or sibling snitching on you. Stay vigilant.
Start 'seeing' another guy. Not really. Just have a guy friend come by and meet your parents. Go to a few very public places with this decoy.
Have your real man meet you at the movies.......go there with the decoy and show up late. That way if the guy following you goes into the theater you will know exactly who it is (its pretty obvious when someone walks in during the movie, but if you and the decoy don't show up late, then he can blend in with the rest of the crowd. Make sure your man is there on time. Say hi and goodbye before you leave the darkend theater. Decoy doesnt even have to sit with you guys ;) )
If you want more info email me, I'll hook you up. Just remember that if your dad is spying on you he may have a keylogger program on your computer and may know exactly what you type. He may even read this response. Just keep your eyes open and stay alert.
Good luck.
2007-10-01 06:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by eric54_20 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure? I used to be a Special Investigator and the cost of a PI is extremely high. Father's can find out things without having to hire a PI you know. I'm one of those too. If you are a cute as your avatar, I really can't blame him if he did hire one. You're his little girl and he wants to protect you and keep you as his little girl or at least to the point of approving of your boyfriend. Maybe you should just sit down and talk with him and smooth things out. He really loves you don't you know.
2007-10-01 05:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that there might be a really excellent reason you father disapproves? My father kept close tabs on my life, even after I was an adult. He was a very intelligent man and I valued his opinion. If he had doubts about someone and I didn't listen, 99% of the time he was right about the guy.
I have no idea how to shake a PI. Sorry.
Best of luck.
2007-10-01 05:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by wait and see 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not really with out knowing who the RI has hired to follow you and if you do find out he/she will just hire somone new. Your best bet is to talk with your father and let him know this is no way to act.
2007-10-01 05:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by bildymooner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is watching you. He never tried to harm you. I think he had unfinished business with your father, maybe to protect you. Since he never harmed you, I think you are fine. Put mantras around 4 corners of the house. I am also buddist. Put them on north, east, south, and west corners. Also, when he is in front of you, pray. If he disappears, he is a demon. If he is still there, than he is not harmful. Put these on around the corners: Amituofo of just put down your own religion prayers :o pray this when he appears Amituofo Amituofo: Ah-mee-twoh-foh
2016-05-18 01:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You used the word "man" you are dating. How old are you? If you are an adult, why are you putting up with being followed?
Move out on you own and live your life. It you are a minor, do what you are told.
2007-10-01 05:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your father should not have to have you followed, you should have enough respect your parents to listen to what they say the first time ! Quit dating the guy and listen to your parents !
2007-10-01 06:00:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋