Ok what if you are having sex with a girl for the first time and you stop because it was hurting her?
and when you asked her to do it again, she said no
Then you called her two days later and she says that she doesnt want it to be just that.
What does that mean???
does it mean that she wasnt impressed
2007-10-01 04:37:46 · 11 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If the girl was under 21, it probably does mean she wasn't impressed. Her body is not mature enough to enjoy intercourse, all it is to someone so young is uncomfortable. I suspect she wants a good deal more out of a relationship than what is to her "uncomfortable" intercourse. Simply because a girl is having periods doesn't mean her body is matured enough to enjoy intercourse. It just means she is capable of being impregnated. Any girl with any intelligence will want a good deal more out of a relationship than that. I suggest if you care about this girl, you be nice to her, be respectful of her feelings and drop the idea of sex until she is older.
2007-10-01 04:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means exactly what she said, she doesn't want the relationship to be just about sex. If you had to stop because it was hurting her she's not going to want to rush back in and try again. Chances are she's feeling very uncomfortable about the whole sex thing right at the minute. Give her time, don't push her and remember that we all like to think we're wanted for more than one thing. Next time you see her take her out and do something fun that doesn't involve sex. When she feels ready then you can talk about sex again but otherwise I wouldn't mention it for a while.
2007-10-01 04:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sian 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it could mean a number of things. It is doubtful that it has anything to do with your performance.
First, perhaps she wasn't aroused enough to become comfortable with the act. If women are not aroused enough it can hurt due to a lack of lubrication. This can also happen if she is so impressed with you that it makes her nervous.
Then, of course, there are other factors that cause pain; swelling due to an allergic reaction to laundry soap or bubble bath, an overly endowed partner, injury to sex organs, hormonal changes, and/or cramps.
Sometimes this experience could be due to an emotional factor. Sometimes when a woman who has been through a traumatic event (i.e. sexual assault) or taught that sex was shameful, she may develop a condition known as vaginismus. It causes painful muscle spasms during intercourse.
Painful sex could be due to any number of physical and/or emotional causes that you have little or no control over.
If you truly want a relationship with this woman. Nurture that first and everything else will fall into place.
Good luck.
2007-10-01 04:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it meant that it HURT her, physically and she just doesn't want to go there again without knowing that she is involved with someone who is willing to slow down and address her needs in foreplay too so it doesn't HURT! Girls take alot longer to get in the mood than guys and if you are on her back about sex everyday, she won't be interested. Why don't you back off and do some social things like movies or ice skating or whatever to take the pressure off the physical side of the relationship and just enjoy her company? If she feels like you want to be with her for more reasons than just needing a sex partner, she'll be more likely to become mentally and physically intimate with you over time, in HER good time. No girl wants be rushed, especially when it comes to sex.
2007-10-01 04:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cat S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe all and sundry else and say she wasn't waiting. additionally you could no longer basically do it. you got to make beneficial she and you're the two waiting and foreplay and all that. Plus you got to do like a rub down down there as a results of fact opens it up greater and makes it much less painful. additionally the greater you do it the fewer and much less it hurts. no be counted what although you will desire to somewhat rub down down there for basically somewhat.
2016-10-10 02:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by zaheer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no... it means that maybe you ju8st need to slow things down a bit, stop bringing the subject f sex up all te time, she's starting to think that sex is all you want. having sex does hurt but just let her go at her won pace and respect her disicion
2007-10-01 04:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Vanity Breanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did not enjoy it and she felt it was just for your pleasure. If you want to keep the relationship, you have to show her how much you love her and how much you care about her (she does not want it to be "just that" meaning just sex).
However judging how you phrase your question, I do not see love, just your fear that you did not perform well. Which is selfish and immature. You have no understanding how women feel, sorry!
2007-10-01 10:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, really?
That sucks!
I have been in a similar boat. If it hurts her - you have to stop.
Chill out for a while, and perhaps she will bring it up again.
IF she does, great!
If not, sorry...
DO NOT BRING IT UP AGAIN UNLESS SHE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT IT!!
I'm serious about that!
I am sure if you keep acting like a gentlemen, you will get that sweet sweet reward.
Peace
2007-10-01 04:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means simply that you did not get her excited enough for intercourse.Penetration can be extremely painful if the vagina isn't lubricated enough.Seems you blew it this time.It will take her awhile to trust you again.Try to steer the relationship to more mental pursuits for a bit,get to know one another better,then and only then will she thaw enough to make love to.
2007-10-01 04:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way would I listen to the first answer. She doesn't even know she can get pregnant when she has sex on her period.
2007-10-02 11:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋