My dad is very ill with cancer. He was not the best father and absent most of our lives, my brothers don't want anything to do with him, leaving me to worry about him by myself. He is a 3 1/2 hour drive away from me. I have a family and life of my own. My dad has one friend that has been helping him. She tells me he is very sick, he doesn't remember to take his meds - making him sicker and she works at night and does what she can to help. The big issue is money...he only gets social security and his bills, rent, insurance, etc just about equal what he takes him leaving him with nothing. Does anyone have suggestions? I think he needs some type of nursing care, but do not have money to pay for it. Thank you!
2007-10-01 03:26:41 · 4 answers · asked by patience 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your are the prodigal son
The Family business has to be taken care of, in m y business i try and hire people as much like you in my communications system (those that come from difficult family situations ) children from broken families that have learn ed from others mistakes appear to be hard and gruff but they always turn out to do the most amazing things without being told to or asked of. when it comes to families.
I would suggest you contact the greater UNITED WAY in your Area, ask them about free services they may be able to give because of your fathers unhealthy and financial condition, people such as hospice, home nursing care, Meals on wheels, and please don't think this is charity it is as old as the hills, The united way always take care of those that cant do it for themselves. good luck
2007-10-01 03:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by t-bone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
Hospice is a "free" service -- medicare and medicaid cover expenses, if your father is near to the end of his life.. it's up to the doctor to assign Hospice but never hurts to ask.
You aren't responsible for your dad's medical care and bills... but if you want to help, perhaps your dad could go to a facility which will provide him all the care he needs and he wouldn't have to worry about paying bills, or insurance anymore...
there are many good nursing home facilities, and a person needs to do their research and find out which ones are suitable.
i can't think of another alternative... but i hope you get some good answers here.
www.hospice.org
2007-10-01 10:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone service to Vonage so you can call him each day without cost. E-mail me what town he is in and maybe I can find you some help for nursing. Do not penalize him for his past mistakes. That happened in my family too. I was willing to forgive, my sisters were not. I feel that I was the fortunate one because I got to know my Dad much better and understood much more why he made the mistakes he did. To forgive someone can never be a bad thing.
Good Luck!
2007-10-01 11:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by B. D Mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have any Long Term Care Policy. The state needs to step in (public aid) a nursing facility or (sounds like) Hospice.
Lots of prayers to ya!
2007-10-01 10:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Numb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋