I'm a bridesmade in my step sister's wedding. She wants everyone to wear there hair up and she's been a big bridezilla about almost everything. I have a pretty big tattoo across the very top of my back that can be covered with my hair if I wear it down. I feel uncomfortable showing my tattoo to my large extended family. I know I should have thought about that before I got it and blah blah. I feel like this is a control thing anyway. I don't know enough about weddings to know if I am being very selfish by wanting to wear it down and feel comfortable at the wedding. My only question is, should I wear it down?
2007-10-01 02:49:45 · 23 answers · asked by pilljills 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's nyour sister's day if she wants your hair up then you have to live with the tat you decided to get and should make her day less stressful.
2007-10-01 11:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by CLM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with any control freak is hard. Harder still when you're dealing with a bride-to-be! The key to any control freak is the presentation of the problem.... you have to make the solution to the problem their idea.
Here's how I'd handle your situation....
Next time you're with your step sister - and maybe the bridal party, too - maybe shopping or some other bridal event, bring up the issue of hair up vs. hair down. Explain your issue and show her the "problem". Remind her that your back and shoulders will be on display while you're on the altar with her and gently ask her if she wants your tatoo to be the focus of some people's attention when they should be focused on her!
But... in answer to your question.... no, I don't think you should wear your hear down without at least trying to convince her first.
2007-10-01 09:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Durga sings the classics 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is to talk to her about it. explain that you are uncomfortable with showing it off. if she really wants you to wear your hair up (for pictures or something) then maybe you can get a tattoo cover-up kit sold at many bridal shops or online. She really shouldn't worry too much about if your hair is up or down but try to please her if you can just so things don't go bad! i was a bridesmaid at a wedding that the bride wanted all the maids to wear their hair up and it turned out really nice in the pictures.
another option- maybe you can wear a shawl/facy scarf that covers the tattoo
2007-10-03 01:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a chat with your step sister about the tattoo. Tell her you are not comfortable with displaying it to the extended family and see what she says.
I'd also talk to your hairstylist, and bring your step sister along. There are plenty of updos that can be done while still leaving some hair to hang down to cover the tattoo.
Good luck!
2007-10-01 11:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your reasoning behind this, they could do you a "half up, half down" style so that some of your hair is up but enough is down to cover your tattoo, I worried a bit about that at my wedding but in the end I decided it's my tattoo, and I love it, so I showed it off rather than covering up.
2007-10-01 09:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple talk to her about it tell her how you feel, if she wants it up just do it and have them coverit up with makeup if she has a good makeup artist there you wont barely be able to see it if she doesnt care because youll be photographed fromthe front not the back then keep it up your not self your actually worried about it for her wedding and are just trying to find a solution. You didnt know your step sister was getting married right so don't regret getting the tattoo
2007-10-02 03:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, go to a theatrical costume shop and buy some body makeup. You can cover your tat for the day and wear your hair up to appease bridezilla and all will be right with the world.
best of luck!
2007-10-01 12:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by ETicket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the posters that asked if she knows about the tattoo and if she cares. You can also get some professional (heavier weight) cover up and cover the part that shows for one event.
I imagine she wants everyone to look relatively the same, and updos can be so elegant.
2007-10-01 10:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your step sister know about the tattoo? If she did, she might think differently. If not, tell her about it and how it would make you very uncomfortable. If she still insists, there are many good 'cover up' creams and make ups that you can use. I was in a play a couple of years ago and they managed to cover mine quite easily. But mine are small...Talk to her, She might change her mind.
2007-10-01 09:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Marc H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your step sister is being a bridezilla because typically brides choose out the bridesmaid dresses and shoes but not their hairstyles. Especially in your situation. I would most definitely talk to her about it. Does she know about your tattoo?
2007-10-01 11:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would you want her to do for you? i know, you probably wouldn't even ask, but in all fairness, you need to consider what you would want from your own bridal party, and go from there. talk to her about it and see if she bends your way or has an idea how to wear your hair up and not see the tattoo. maybe you can come to an agreement. and besides, maybe she could care less if the family sees your art work. they should be looking at her, anyway.
2007-10-01 11:16:27 · answer #11 · answered by bridalgalsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋