I am a stripper, i have a year old son and i don't think there is anything wrong with my job?

Question

I have been working as a stripper and i have a year old son.
I keep comming across people saying things like how could you do that and how could you do that to your son?.

My son has no connexion whatsoever with the work i do or the people i work with. I do not do anything that i dont like and i have never ever felt degraded or cheap in any way whatsoever . If it ever did effect my son when he was older i definately would stop doing it but right now all i get is you should quit. i could take there advice and get another job doing something i hate for low pay because i do not have lots of qualifications i am just not a particuly cleaver person there is nothing i could do different and earn the same ammount .i have a good job and i support my son completely by myself, and im doing it very well and i am a good mother, I am trying to go to classes so i can get some qualifications but right now i am happy with what i do.

Does any one agree with me or is every body against me on this?

I do not take drugs and i never will. I dont know anyone else who i work with that does honestly so its not like its everywhere. I do not like to drink or smoke at all and i only work for two nights a week. When i am working my son stays with my neighbour and her year old son and i pay her very well to help,she works too but she earns next to nothing. I have known her since i was a little girl and its never been any problem with her in what i do

Answer 1

If you need to ask if there's anything wrong with your job I guess the answer is yes. Nontheless, I'm not going to judge you, I just think is great you are trying to go to classes to get out of that life. I know you're probably doing ok and making good money but I'm sure stripping for men everyday is not how you wanna live your life. Just try to get qualified to do a better job. Good luck.

Answer 2

All I can say is that at least you're working and you're not on welfare. I hope you pay taxes like the rest of us. I understand that you make good money, and I think that it may be okay for you to be doing this now, many young women do this in order to get them through college. I would advise that you try to get some schooling done quickly, and then find a "respectable" job. You may not make as much money, but you may find someone to settle down with, since most wouldn't want to do that with a stripper. Being with someone will take some of the load off you, and you can spend more time making a good example for your child. I would hope that you will stop this type of work by the time the child is 5, or by the time they find out what you do and know what it is. People who you know may respect you to your face, but many have big mouths and talk behind your back. Things get around, and your child may overhear something. What will you say to that? Good luck with improving your future, so I hope.

Answer 3

You have to make the decision of whether or not you are going to continue in this job and whether or not you are going to allow your job to affect your son.

Despite what a few have said in response to your question, your son doesn't have to know now or ever that you are or were a stripper. However, this type of job does affect him in one way or another. First of all it's my personal opinion that stripping is not the safest job for you. I understand that you may work in a very secure club however don't underestimate a guy. Hypothetically of course a guy could become obsessed with a particular person, hang out across the street from the club and follow you home. Yes, this could happen anywhere but I would think it's more prevelant in a situation where your job is to "flirt" with guys, essentially messing with there mind think there is a possibility they could have something more then what they are paying for.

Additionally typically this job requires working a lot of late nights. With you coming home about 3 or 4 in the morning, how much are you there for him when he wakes up at 7 or 8 in the morning. Also a lot of women in this line of work drink, smoke or worse. Think of how that affects your child. How safe is it for you to be driving home after a couple drinks at the club. Not to forget about smoking. Whether or not you smoke the club is likely filled with smoke, that smoke is on your hair, skin and clothes, it likely is still there when you get home and pick him up. Essentially he is then breathing in the smoke, and this could cause breathing problems.

You need to do what ever it is that you need to do. I understand you make great $$$ in this job, but $$ isn't everything. I am not judging you, I only urge you to evaluate the lifestyle, don't be blinded by the money and make your own decision.

Answer 4

You have a right and responsibility to take care of your son financially. It shouldn't matter what you do. If you can make more money stripping and give him a good life, go for it. It's better than watching him go hungry because you work for minimum wage at some grocery store or something. To heck with the people that judge you..you only have to look after yourself and your boy. When he's old enough that he could find out what you do and understand it, it may be time for a change. Just like everything else concerning him though..that's your business.
For everyone who judges you- I promise they wouldn't be there to help when you need money. Do what you have to do!

Answer 5

you go for it.... if you feel that you are doing the best job as a mother, then that's all that matters. it probably works out well for you, earning enough money, better working hours than other jobs etc. i am sure you aren't taking your son to the stirp club so what's the big deal???
i think the minute you become a parent (espcially a mother!) everything you do is questioned by someone, then if you did the opposite, someone else would question that. you can't win! so don't even try, just do what you need to do and raise your son well.
i have an 18 month old daughter and i get ppl saying i should go back to work even part time and put her in daycare. but then i have friends who work and they get ppl telling them they should be at home with their kids. i have decided to take on the attitude that i need to do what works for me, and subsequently feel a lot more relaxed, happy and a better mother than if i try and listen to everyone else's opinion.... good luck

Answer 6

The most important thing to remember is that its your life and in the end you are the one who needs to feel comfortable with it. I'm sure you're a nice person and doing what you can to take care of your son, there is no law anywhere that says strippers can't be mums or be good mums at that, give him love and a safe home environment and teach him to aim far and he will go far. The values you give him are the ones he will carry in life and if you teach him to respect women no matter their station in life, he will respect you as well.

and I think getting your education is a great idea, when you have the skills needed to get a better job then leave the one you have because it makes no sense to have no income just so 'certain' other ppl would feel comforatable around you...

cause remember, lots of ppl don't care what you do for a living

Answer 7

In my opinion I think it ok to ask if he can spend $1500 in the titty bar he can spend $600.00 on you hey better yet ask him to buy you a stripping pole an and stripping instructor and have him pay you the $1500 for stripping, $600.00 for loss wages,$35.00 hour for being a house wife an mom and whatever the $5.00 a week thing was, also he can pay the instructor a decent amount for teaching you how to strip. He'll get off from watching then you too can hav fun in the sack when the instructor leaves. Ill take the job lol. At least he is paying you allowance thats nice now you just have to take the stripping job from the strippers just my opinion good luck call me if you are in vegas to be a guest on my show to tell me how it goes and you can always hire me to teach you how to strip You go on with your bad self!

Answer 8

How you raise your son is your choice. I personally don't agree with your job not because you have a child, but because it is so degrading to you. You are probably a very smart girl who just needs some confidance in herself to make the change in your life. Go to school, find another job. Maybe your son does not know what you do for a living now, but he will figure it out in the future. Besides, your body won't stay young forever.

Answer 9

Personally I think stripping is degrading & makes you seem like you have no selfrespect. Don't take that to heart, it's just my opinion.BUT, if you are a single mother sometimes you have to do what it takes to care for your child. As long as you aren't hooking or bringing home strangers I don't see a big problem, since your son is still little. But, you also need to think about when he's in school & people ask or know what you do. I guarantee he'll get teased for mommy being a hooker, kids are cruel. So you may want to think of a new career in the future. You can earn a degree online now, make you own schedule and all. I'm in the process of that now.

Answer 10

I am not going to say whether it's right or wrong for you to be a stripper... that's a personal decision and if you're okay with it, that's all that matters. As long as you aren't being "more" than just a stripper and bringing strange men home around your son, what's the harm. A lot of women do it to make money and help themselves get ahead in life.

I do have to say that I am jealous of you for being able to be a stripper only a year after having a baby... I don't look bad (well, actually I'm pregnant again) but I certainly don't look good enough to do that!

Answer 11

I happen to think your decisions to work as a stripper is perfectly fine,as long as you said it does not effect your child in any way..
In fact I was a stripper as well the first 6 yrs of my oldest sons life,made excellent pay and put myself thru college and solely supported him then and since...(he's now 20 and in college himself)I am a Teacher now and have 3 other children and live a good life...You can make a positive life even though most see your profession as low graded,but then if your like me you know whats best for you and your child,not them so go for it!=)Good luck!