I'm scared it will never be the same. He's gone and moved out with his wife. I'm not sure how to cope with this change. He has lived with us since we were born.
2007-10-01 02:03:32 · 16 answers · asked by CC_Boobcock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You didn't lose a brother you gained a sister in law. Change is hard for everyone. He will be the same brother you love today and the same brother you love tomorrow. It will take a little bit of adjustment thats all. I wish you the very best!
2007-10-01 02:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by ice38034 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will change. Your brother is a grown man who has to make his own way. Instead of seeing it as loosing him, see it as gaining a sister. Luckily they will have kids soon and you will have the joy of loving more people. Look forward to the possibilities and along the way take a step forward for yourself. You will grow up, get married and move away someday too, so take this opportunity to do more things on your own, or with friends. I'm sure he won't "forget" you but you have to be strong and learn to deal with the fact that he has a new life in which you are not as big of a focus as you once were.
2007-10-01 02:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by L H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't look at it like you are losing him, you aren't, he only moved out, not died. I know you are used to having him around but you had to accept that he was going to move out one day, especially when you knew he was getting married. He has a different life now but that doesn't mean you can't be or aren't, a part of it. He still loves you just the same. When you miss him being around, call him up to say hi or visit him when you can. You can still have your relationship. Remember, when you need him, he is just a phone call away. He will always be glad to hear from you do don't think you can't call up just because he got married and moved out. You are still, and always will be, his sister, and he will always be your brother.
2007-10-01 02:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not losing anyone. He's still your brother and as far as I know, nothing can change that. Maybe you're a little upset at not being able to spend as much time with him now that he's not living at home anymore. Use email or the pick up the phone and don't lose touch with him. It sounds as if the two of you are close.
2007-10-01 02:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by niceguyharvey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I felt the same way when my favourite brother got married. Even though he was living away from home I was definitely resentful of his new wife, though I never showed it, I felt it.
My brother just celebrated his 20th anniversary. His wife is one of my most trusted friends, she's a great mother to their children and he is sooo lucky to have her. It took some time for me to feel this way. The more I got to know her and realize the great choice my brother made the better things got. Just give things time and welcome his wife into your family.
My family is spread out all over but we keep in touch by phone and email on a regular basis. These things happen in life but even though distance seperates us we are all still very close.
By the way I just sent my bro a long email this morning, it's his Birthday.
2007-10-01 02:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Choqs 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow - how old are you? Get over it. When I first saw the question I was confused. I thought your brother died and you were having trouble planning your wedding because of it. You now have a sister in law and have to learn that it is all part of growing up. You can still see and talk to him.
2007-10-01 08:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not losing a brother, you're gaining a sister-in-law. Then when she gets pregnant you'll have a niece or nephew.
Be glad that he found a wife and is happy. Think of the good stuff not the bad. It's not like he died or something.
2007-10-01 02:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by suzie 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 04:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by walpole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on with his life and the answer is for you to move on too. No, it won't ever be the same. You two are adults now and will live adult lives.
I have seen this several times, sisters who were resentful of their brother's wives. It is a very little known complex.
"Losing" a brother? tell that to the girls who lose brothers in wars. Geez.
One thing not to do is inundate them with phone calls and visits. Don't make a pest of yourself. Or your sister in law will be looking for advice about getting rid of her husband's clingy sister who can't grow up and get on with her life.
2007-10-01 02:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Just look at it as if you now have a sister and be happy for him. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because he has gone on with his life. You will also do the same thing too. Just be happy for him.
2007-10-01 02:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Volsfan 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋