My husband wont stand up to his family and tell them to **** the hell off, because they make my life miserable...
My mother in law is a two faced bith and her daughter is a ******* moron who makes me want to kill someone!!!
Why cant he see Im frustrated and feel unloved and do something???
2007-10-01 01:00:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Dear,
I know how it feels to be mistreated by someone or people who are your relatives. One thing i have to let you know is that never allow the bitterness and anger you feel now swallow you up and cause you to become aggressive to yourself, husband, kids or any other person.
What i do if anyone annoys me in that manner, I console myself by telling me that they can't do it forever, and men i just react the opposite way: they sadists, am happy, they frustrated, am positive, i don't allow anything take my joy away. I know it may not be easy at first, but men it becomes so as you believe in what you do. I am a christian, so i pray, listen to positive talks, hang wit my good friends, behold the beauty of the night, allow the cool breeze to blow through my skin, my hair. I play with my kids. Surprise your husband with a candle lit dinner, sit on his lap, kiss him with passion, don't burden him with the characters of those or things that annoy you, tell him sweet things both of you love to hear and anticipate for.
Live for now Dear, life is too short to feel too frustrated.
Hope this helps.
All the best. Let me know how it worked...
2007-10-02 10:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by nneka a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your in-laws, but you can change the way you feel towards them. You don't have to like them, but you can train yourself to feel NOTHING towards them. Avoid talking to them directly for now, just to keep the peace. Once you have cooled down and you need to put a message across to your in-laws, relay it through your husband. Let him deal with his family.
Try to understand your husband (I am not saying that he is right). Right now, he probably feels torn between you (his wife) and his family of origin.
I hope things will get better for you in time. Good luck.
2007-10-01 01:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by B L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
I'm sorry you feel your inlaws mistreat you. If they do, you don't have to associate with them.
I'm sure you have better things to do than to allow them to control your feelings and emotions. Sometimes people can't mind their own business, are cruel and we LET them control our mood from a distance.
Maybe control your own mood, move on and realize it's not worth the frustration and anger you feel when dealing with them. I'm sure there are other people in your life, ones who do care. Just stick with them... and ignore the inlaws.
Makes life easier.
2007-10-01 02:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can't get past your anger. You cannot control someone else, only your own behavior. Work on that, and there won't be a need for your husband to have to choose between his wife and his mother.
2007-10-01 01:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to give you advice on how to destroy your husband's relationships...that's horrible!
Try going thru the work it takes to make new friends. You are also an "in-law".
2007-10-01 01:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stand up to them and him yourself.
2007-10-01 01:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋