ok i know this is hard to believe, but what you are about to read is 100% true! NONE of this is blown out of proportion.
my mom for about a year now has really turned into my worst nightmare, ever since my parents got divorced she always screams and curses me off for no reason, she tells me i'm a slob, a pig, and a rotten spoiled brat ( i am none of those), the worst part is, is that i dont do anythig to even start her on her rampage, she just walks up to me and does it . . . NO reason.
Today she really drew the line, i missed my buss and was kindly asking her to drive me to school, but instead she snaps and says no to bad, you shouldn't have missed your bus! she didn't take me cause she was way to lazy, she doesn't even do anything all day she just sits on her butt on my-space or j-date.
Then she insulted my dad bad, she called him a loser, which i took great offense to cause i love my dad, he's what a great parent is, and never did anything to deserve her remarks!
Please help me!
2007-10-01 00:59:55 · 14 answers · asked by zeke4300 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello there. Wow! it sure sound like your going through alot with your parents and their divorce. It must be a very difficult time for you and i am glad to see you are looking for advice and help. It sounds like your mother's aggression is being fueled from the pain of going through a separation. When people are hurting they tend to become slightly self absorbed and forget about the people around them and how their actions effect people. i am sure she dosn't realise how her of the cuff comments are effecting you or making you feel. That is not to say she has ANY right to call you those things or treat you the way she has. My suggestion is that you try to talk to your mother. Ask her "Mum? (Mom?) i know your hurting because you have lost your husband.... but i have lost alot too and i really need my mum right now. when you say mean things its makes me feel like you dont love me anymore." try talk to her. If you think this is impossible and she is too aggressive or agitated to iniciate a conversation i suggest you speak to a close family member (prob not your dad only because they are already on unfriendly terms) maybe and aunt or and uncle? or if your at school a school councillor might be able to help you approach this situation. Just know that your mother isn't speaking from her heart or even her head and that you deserve to be treated with respect from both your parents. its not your choice or fault that they decided for a divorce. take care of yourself and god bless.
2007-10-01 01:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by sirrena_lives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is major stressed, maybe even depressed. And she may have a computer addiction. However, I've never known a teenage who was completely innocent. Why did you miss your bus? Who's fault was that and why should your mom have to rescue you? Perhaps she was trying to teach you a lesson about personal responsibility. I agree that badmouthing your father is a hurtful thing and she shouldn't be doing it. However they are divorced for a reason and it doesn't sound like she has a b/f. And if your dad is such a great parent, why aren't you living with him?
Your mom is in pain. People sometimes never get over a divorce, especially if the spouse cheated on them and left them for someone else. You need to clean up your own act and have some compassion.
2007-10-01 08:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her problems are bigger than you missing the bus -
For a bit, try to step up and be forgiving of both parents and find a friend you can trust, talk to and share with, divorce is
harsh, final and child-unfriendly. It's scary and hard to deal with.
Try to tell yourself, even though you're involved, it's not about you - good luck!
2007-10-01 08:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is depressed and extremeley angry.
someimes adults take things out on their kids. they shouldnt, and your mum shouldnt. but she does not know how to handle how she is feeling. honestly she is very down, you can try and talk to her or if you cant go to another member of family to ask her if everything is ok, cos she is affecting you in a big way.also give her a big hug and kiss tell her u love her, ask her if theres anything you can do, try not to bite or snap when she is being horrid, she cant help it (im not making allowences) but she needs to know you are breaking point too. divorce is a horrid thing my parents went through it and my dad was in a bad way. try and help her as much as u can.
nothing worst than heartbreak (apart fom death)
2007-10-01 08:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by rachie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t believe your mom hates you, sounds like she is bitter and depressed. She is probably stressed out because of the divorce and she is wrongly taking it out on you. You need to sit down and talk to her about this if she is unwilling to listen then you need to talk to your dad or an adult relative you can trust.
Like I said she is probably depressed over the divorce and is looking for a way to escape, depression will leave you with a lack of motivation to do anything in life. And it is wrong of her to put down your father in front of you even if she is bitter because it is not her place to make your decision about your father.
2007-10-01 08:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you remind her of your dad,I mean her EX so basically it means your mum is taking this divorce really bad,she doesnt wanna know it but her divorce turned her into a luny,emotionally disturbed,frustrated and VERY LONELY desperate housewife and mother,maybe you could show her some support,I know its tough her being a real dragon but Im sure if you could see her from inside you would see a big damaged heart so help out a bit ok and tell your mum you love her and you are there for her,TRY ok
2007-10-01 08:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by ajal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is not hating you. She appears badly frustrated due to divorce. Her anger is redirected towards you as there is no alternative and she is aware of your affection to dad.It is said that time is the best healer of all wounds.With passage of time,the behavior of mom will normalize. In the meantime ,you have to bear her with all grace and sympathy. You should never make any reference of dad in moms presence.A time will come when you will become a dear one to mom and she will treat you as a friend.
2007-10-01 08:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well even if u r convinced with this idea i am pretty sure ur mom doesnt hate u!she is just in a REALLY bad phase after divorce and she cant handle things the right way.maybe she also just blames it all on ur father for their divorce that she cant stand anything around her also "his" daughter!
next time just talk abt it with her and try to help her out of it if it doesnt help then just stay away from her till she calms down!
2007-10-01 08:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
man your mum is so bitter, and because she can't take it out on your dad, she is using you to vent her frustration.. she is still going through the anger stage instead of getting help to deal with it ... she is just holding on to it... hon you should go with your dad for a week and when she asks why, then you can tell her....you hate what she has become.... if you don't it will only get worse she needs a shock to bring her back to reality..............
2007-10-01 08:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom doesnt hate you...
She sad and bitter and wants someone else to be as miserable as she is at the moment...
Talk to your dad and explain to him why you cant stay with your mom,maybe he can help you out...You could also contact social welfare and ask to be placed with a foster family untill your mom is over her "griev"...
2007-10-01 08:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by jancoetzee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋