Long story short, I'm 16 years old and I have this gorgeous BF that I LOVE so much. He's really funny and sweet and I just LOVE him. I mean, I've never felt that way towards a boy before! It's just like a total new feeling. Anyway, that's not the point. He has a brother (which, I have to admit is totally cute). He's bro is 15 (almost 16) & he's 17 (almost 18). So yeah, he's bro has a HUGE crush on me. But my BF doesn't know! His other brother who is 19 knows about this and he told his little bro to cut it out cause I'm his bro's GF! But I swear he wouldn't stop staring at me and stuff. He says that he can't.. he just CANT help it. Oh & the bigger problem is that I think I'm falling for him! WHAT THE HECK?! I love my BF and I know that but I dunno what's wrong with me. Everytime I look at his bro I feel so... I dunno, this feeling just comes to me and... AHHH! Can't explain anymore. Please help me? Do you think it's possible to fall in love with 2 guys at the same time?
2007-10-01 00:27:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that I should know better and try to forget about his bro but I CANT !! I dunno why I swear. My BF still doesnt know about this cause if he knew I swear he's relationship with he's younger bro will be ruined ! They're get along great now their like each other's best friends and I'm stared that I'm gonna ruin that for them ! I love my BF so much and I dont want to break his heart cause I know that I dont like his bro but I still kinda like him !
SORRY THIS IS EXREMELY confusing but I really need help to help save this relationship. Please help me !!! Thanks in advance =)
2007-10-01 00:31:04 · update #1
No you can't be in love with two people at the same time, atleast not that kind of love. If you are starting to "have feelings" for the brother then you are not really in love with your bf. Sorry it might not be what you wanted to hear but its the truth!
2007-10-01 00:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are falling in love with two people at the same time. I think that you might not know what love is yet. I think that you don't/ can't love your boyfriend if you are busy thinking about his brother and even asking yourself questions like this. I think you should tell your boyfriend that you just want to be friends and maybe hang out with him once in a while. That would free you to hang with the other brother too. get to know yourself first and then some other people. You have your life ahead of you...slow down!!!
2007-10-01 00:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by redshawnee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright, girl, you've got to stop!!! you can't love to boys at the same time and if they are brothers you are mixing up a recipe for disaster...not only with you and your current b/f, but you could change these brothers relationship forever!!! i think you need to talk to the lil bro, tell him that you are with his brother and that is what you want...that it is flattering that he likes you, but you don't want your relationship to end with his brother or worse the relationship between bros to be strained, he needs to back off. If you think that you are falling for him then your feelings about his brother are not what you think they are....or you are spending too much time with his family or sumthin....if you really really don't know what you want then you need to give yourself a timeout and stay away from both of them until you get your feeling sorted out.
2007-10-01 00:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Denise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Emzz
I have to admit in my mind there can be so many good things i can think of other then confusing thoughts. You are 16 and you are like any one of us your hormones are driving you nuts. So your b.f and you are in love, but you are lusting for him brother./ Cool i can say and i wish my g.f had a sister who liked me i know i can have fun. So as i see it you can be cool and not do anything (NOT TELL YOUR B/F Either) and enjoy the flirting and looks or go for it and ask him to keep it discreet. There ar emany reason to fall in love with two guys or girls in my case, i have had a few g.f at one time. Most dont seem to mind and try to win you over, but in this case they live in the same house. Forget the older brother and lets try to sort out the first problem. you like them both and you know the 15 yea rodl wants you and your bod. His brotehr is 18 and mosat likely you are his first (U KNOW WHAT). Ask yourself if you can see them both if the younger brotehrs willing to be discreet. You live with your parents and they are not always home, select a good time to see what the younger brotehr wants for your self. You might schoose you like him more or at least ...Well that another story ./
Good Luck
2007-10-01 01:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 and your hormones take the better of you. trust me (im 19 and know where you're comming from). I bet more than anything that you're not falling for him, just really really flattered at all the attention he gives you. And i'm sure your boyfriend notices it, but he probably see the 15yr old as a little kid sometimes. Love is fleeting for girls our age. You'll find out what real love is later on.
2007-10-01 00:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is possible,i still loved my ex when i got 2geva with my current boyfriend and i love him!!
But whateva you do dont react to it. You will end up losing your boyfriend and then his brother would feel guilty for stealing his brothers gilfriend and you will end up tearing the family apart which isnt fair. You should let your feelings for your boyfriends brother rest and concentrate on your feelings for your boyfriend. Try to keep away from your boyfriends brother and go out away from him when you two spend time together to allow his brother to stop his feelings.
If you cant help the way you feel i suggest you break up with your boyfriend before somone ends up getting hurt and that person will most likely be you!!
2007-10-01 00:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by xkissxkasx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't stop thinking about the little brother, your relationship with him will be ruined. It is a no no to date brothers or friends of you BF, even after you have split!!
2007-10-01 00:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just like the idea that he likes you somtimes i think i'm falling for someone but only cause i know he likes me. and thats a good feeling. i'm 17 and have a boyfriend of 2 yrs and sometimes feel the same way you are but you get over you love him thats what matters
2007-10-01 00:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by chey_shizzle_shazza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ure in love with ure bf ... u dunt want to be around the yunger one ... so dunt go round their place or places u myt see him.. its just attraction .. cuz u know if u had a huge fight with ure bf u wudnt give 2 cows bout the yunger one .. ignore him .. beter off wothout the brother in ure life .. :) .. hope i helped
2007-10-01 00:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a little boy. Grow up! If your eyes are not for your boyfriend only, then time you let him go.
2007-10-01 00:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by whitequeenshirley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋