My sister and I are homeowners paying about 1,500 monthly. Living with us are my parents and my brother. My parents help us with 500 dollars, while my brother pays nothing. He has his own "business", is in major debt, and living with us for about two years.We tried to help him out for a few months, while he sorted his life out. My sister and I are at a point where we cannot afford living there, with taxes increasing yearly. My parents plan to retire in mexico. We have to dig up an extra 400 montly We figured if we keep the house we will have to work extra jobs to keep it. My sister and I have decided to rent. We were thinking about asking my brother to help us with rent, but we have already tried twice to charge him rent. He pays the first 2 months, but then he says he will pay us "later". Well, I also want to go back to school. We told my brother the news. My mother is worried about his future. I want him to learn we are not his crutch. Did we do right? Should he tag along?
2007-10-01 00:20:03 · 8 answers · asked by MR. Curioius 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Obviously your brother is old enough to be handling his own problems... You have helped hi out for 2 years already, i thin k he needs to learn what it's like to sort your own problems out... You and your sister shouldn't have to stop what you want to do an d get yourself in debt just because your bro is having proems....
You did the right thing, don't worry!
2007-10-01 01:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have allowed yourself to be much more than your brother's "crutch". You have long been his "featherbed".
You have made it easy for him to lack motivation and a sense of responsibility. Once your parents retire to Mexico why not rent out their space to regular tenants who will pay you more than $500. If the house isn't a "two-family" and doesn't allow for the proper privacy maybe it can be converted into one for very little expense.
Whatever the options one thing is clear- you need to give your brother the boot or he will be a professional bum his entire life. It might be too late already, but at least it shouldn't be your problem.
2007-10-01 13:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by nevit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your sister need to develop a plan and stick with it together if you want to change your freeloading brother.
What I would do is this -
give your brother a choice:
1. He pays $400/month each and EVERY month, or
2. He does enough chores (make sure you have a list and stick with it), ie cutting the grass, doing the laundry, washing the floors, etc. and pays $150./month - or whatever you agree on.
Tell him straight out that he has to contribute one way or the other and there is no choice. If he isn't going to, he HAS to move.
Your brother is getting a free ride and he is taking advantage of you and your sister.
You need to stick together and put an end to it.
2007-10-01 07:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by tak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for your brother. If the agreement is that he pay his part, then when he stops, he has to leave. If you stopped paying your part, who would pick up the slack? Him?
Your mother can worry about his future all she wants, but unless she is willing to pay his way, she has nothing else to say.
Where is your father in all this? Talk to him and ask him to intercede. Your brother is a grown man, who is living off the back of his sisters. That's completely disrespectful.
2007-10-01 08:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is everyone worrying about his future. he is the person who has the free ride all this time. he should have been able to save up something - if he refuses to pay the rent and you sisters wants to make a move, then move. your parents are moving to mexico for retirement. they have made their choice in life. your brother is not you responsibility, you have already helped him, and, by helping him you have made his life easy to the point where he doesn't know responsibility. it's time he starts to learn. he needs to learn to grow to face life.
2007-10-01 07:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with free angel.
You shoul;d each get your own place and not worry about the other...
Your brother is big enough to look after himself,you shouldnt have to!!!
2007-10-01 08:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by jancoetzee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent your own place and don't let anyone else live with you.
2007-10-01 07:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a grown adult. Don't worry about him. Say " No, not later, you have _____ days to give me the rent or ___________". Don't feel bad about it.
2007-10-01 08:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋