I've been with my guy for about 3 months now. We've known each other for over 4 years, been on and off, and just this year got really serious. We've been through ups and downs and had some trust issues here and there, but got ourselves on track, cut certain people out of our lives, stopped drinking and have set our sights on our future.
We USED to have a crazy sex life. But the problem was our crazy sex was always when we were drunk and when we were NOT together, but just hanging out as friends. I've always had a huge attraction to him, but ever since we got serious my libido went out the window. I've also taken on a LOT of responsibilities (hard classes at school, more demanding job....etc.) Not to mention I still live with the P's so I feel uncomfortable doing it at home, and thats where we are the majority of the time..... what on EARTH has made me lose my sex drive?
I was diagnosed as anemic two years ago, but have been taking iron since then.
I take birth control.....
2007-10-01 00:12:27 · 3 answers · asked by Katia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've seriously taken all these factors in and sat and tried to figure it out. I just don't FEEL like having sex lately. I've been really tired, really stressed and so has he, but he always makes comments about how we never have sex, and I know it bothers him.
I personally think it's because I was so use to the drunken stuff that now being sober, and the prospect of it all makes me feel like a little 15 year old who's still a virgin, I clam up, I get nervous, I feel like he'd scrutinize everything as we were doing it. I've NEVER felt like this til now. Where is this coming from?????
Why can't I just feel sexy and feel the urge to get it on.
Does anyone know of any pills that increase a womens sex drive that WORK?????
Or just ANY suggestions would be great!
2007-10-01 00:15:06 · update #1
You don't love him, and you're too busy buitlding a life for yourself. Maybe it's over between you two, and you're just not attracted to him anymore.
My own libido is highly situational and specific. It kicks in in high gear when it wants to and goes away completely when I am otherwise distracted. I count it as a great blessing not to
be driven by it. Instead, I am in almost complete control of sexial inclinations, which gives me lots of confidence and serenity.
Eat iron rich foods and add more vitamin c to your diet since iron supplements can add too much iron sometimes, or the opposite, iron that is unavailable to your system, and don't worry about your libido. You've certainly got one, and it will show up whenever you need it.
2007-10-01 00:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two will have to form a sober friendship and get to know each other all over again. Give yourself some time. You are okay. It is normal. You need a lot more cuddle time and a lot more fun time. Maybe he is not so easy to be with sober? Stress, as you mentioned is a big one for killing sex drive. Fatigue will do it too. Hang in there. You don't need a pill. You need love and understanding and patience from yourself and from him. That is all. You have a lot of catching up to do emotionally now that you are sober. Go slow and cut yourself some slack.
2007-10-01 07:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
birth controll can ruin a woman's libido... so investigate in that...
however you need to make time for yourself and your partner, leave all problems at the door for a while and have fun with your partner... if all fails seek help with your pill... good luck
2007-10-01 07:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋