What should i do and how should i handle sex.........i dont know anything about it and i think i found the right guy but im scared i mess up and its not good and he doesnt like me anymore.How can i do it to keep him happy?
2007-10-01 00:06:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's a first time for everything. Think about your ancestors, who for a hundred thousand generations before you managed just fine.
2007-10-01 00:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can tell already that u definately arent ready!! That last line... "how can I do it to keep him happy"......honey, no way!!!
And if you think he might leave you coz weren't some sort of sex siren on your first time then he isn't worth giving away your first time too!!
But if you insist on going for it just do as much as you can to make urself comfortable.... get sorted out protection wise so thats a load of your mind, wear some nice underwear and pamper yourselve so your feeling sexy and confident!
And remember... a bad first time isnt the end of the world! it takes time to learn how to be great at anything and that includes sex! And trust me...... its a new skill which is fantastic fun to learn with the right person!
2007-10-01 00:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by juicy_satsuma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time and the setting are right. When your heart, body, and spirit are REALLY ready to have sex, then you won't have to worry. Nature is pretty strong when it comes to this kind of thing. If he cares about you and you care about him, there should be no problem. Every couple is different. I've kissed and had sex differently with every lady I have ever been with.
Part of the joy is the exploration and learning how to please your partner and how to be pleased.
One bit of advice. Know your own body. If you have not learned how to pleasure yourself how can you tell him how to please you? Make sure that he brings you to orgasm with hands or mouth first before doing the deed.
Even better yet, you should bring him to orgasm at least once, preferably with your mouth. If you can't bring yourself to do that, then maybe you don't love him that much after all and you should stop there.
If you give him at least one orgasm, then later when he is erect and ready again, he might last long enough to please you. If he brings you to orgasm first, before penetration, then you will be lubricated and relaxed, and able to have a much more enjoyable experience.
When you are ready to do IT, you get on top and kneel above him, and slowly lower yourself onto him. This way you are in control and can lessen the potential for pain to some degree.
2007-10-01 00:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you're not ready for it. Especially if you know nothing about it and you're scared about it. If you're ready for it you shouldn't be scared! I think if you do it now you will be doing it for all the wrong reasons. Worrying about how much he'll like you for doing it or just doing it to make him happy are not reasons to have sex. Whenever you find the right guy you will not question anything about it... For your sake wait, you'll just end up getting hurt.
2007-10-01 00:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex it not something to do to make a guy like you.
Sex is not something to do when you are worried about messing up
Sex is not something to do when you know nothing about it.
Have a talk with your mum, your GP, about birth control and safe sex.
have a talk about it with the guy, and see if he understands your nervousness about it.
If he doesn't ,he is not the right person for you.
The right person should understand your nervousness, and be willing to wait for you to be fully ready.
Sex is about love, and intimacy ,and sharing. It is not about proving any kind of prowess to him, or anybody for that matter.
Most importantly ,you cannot use sex to make anybody happy. It does not work like that.
Happiness is something you share with people, you don't make it for them.
I would say wait until you are more emotionally ready, and knowledgeable about Sex, and all its ramifications
Good luck
2007-10-01 00:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by robacrossdpond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't THINK you've found the right guy, be SURE it's the right guy. You don't want to give him your innocence, then have him skip out on you. Besides, if it IS the guy you're going to marry, and he cares about you, anything you do will be fine with him. Just be absolutely sure that you are ready. You DO have something to lose, he doesn't (unless he's a virgin, hopefully).
2007-10-01 00:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry him first.
Seriously, don't have sex with this guy. You're extremely concerned about him, and I don't detect enough concern about yourself. You could feel a big letdown--especially if he's not concerned enough about you and your feelings.
Sex is not primarily about giving someone else a good time in the sack. Save your first time for a better opportunity to make a good memory.
2007-10-01 00:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. You want to have sex with someone who is your good friend, in love, and who you love. Then it will be easy because you will be able to talk about it, feel comfortable with it, and not worry so. Do not worry about keeping him happy. Enjoy yourself and he will enjoy you too.
2007-10-01 00:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im kinda in the same boat myself but it shouldnt be up to him on how it will feel for him. it should be up to you. i mean if he isnt a virgin then ask him to teach you a thing or two. voice your opinion about the matter sex is not only for his pleasure you know
2007-10-01 00:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by sad&depressed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound to me like your ready yet dear... hold out until YOU are SURE. Then relax and everything will be ok...
2007-10-01 00:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by awjandbjj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋