In public, I've noticed this more and more. I have been shy, let's just say, but I am oozing more confidence, more and more in my life. Girls are noticing. One even came up and slapped my butt with a towel at the gym last night. Twice this week I started talking to girls. The first time, all the men just gravitated over to where I was talking to the girl. I almost felt threatened actually. It was like she was their girl or something. Another time, I'm talking to a girl, and the men have to crowd in and join into the conversation that I'm having with the girl. These men definitely can't compete with me physically usually, but I still get wary. I'm coming out of a real shy background, and this bastards are throwing monkey wrenches in my girl-meeting. I'm not up for competition. And I'm just talking anyway. At one time, I wouldn't even do that. Now I have a bunch of apes trying to wait till I drop my coconut, so that they can steal it from under me. What gives?
2007-10-01 00:03:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they are too chicken to approach her themselves so they figure they'd talk to her since you were & they want her for themselves
2007-10-01 00:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Death Girl Am 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head!
Watch what they do. They will engage in limited contact with a girl in front of others so as not to 'give away' that they've found a good coconut, so to speak.
Then they'll make arrangements to meet her over coffee, or take a short walk before or after gym, or other slightly more exclusive activity that doesn't invite 'horning in' by other coconut-seekers.
I suggest you work on developing similar strategies. It can't help but continue to improve your confidence and success with talking productively to the opposite sex.
2007-10-01 00:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for making conversation with her. As for the other guys, either they have an interest in her, too, or they think it's just a general conversation. Try to monopolize the conversation and give the guys a look that says, "back off".
2007-10-01 05:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by compendious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were not brave enough to approach her until you did. Good job on coming out of your shell. Just be you and walk the girl off to the side in the future. She will see those guys as intrusive too. Hang in there.
2007-10-01 00:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the girl ur talking to is the girl the guys likes duh! and if ur not into them y dnt u just talk w/ them... is it supposed to be a private convo or somethin?
2007-10-01 00:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't want to see you enjoying
2007-10-01 02:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋