Howdy Folks,
My b/f has asked me to move in with him (we've been together a year and a half). He has his own place as he's a little older than me but I still live with my parents as I'm 22 and have just graduated.
So the problem is that he used to share his house with his ex for about 4 years and that really creeps me out. Am I being a weirdo? I really hate the thot of sleeping in the bed he used to share with her and watching telly on the counch they bought together and stuff. Is that unreasonable???
I'm not asking him to up and leave and buy a new house with me right this second. But I'd rather live separatly for a while until we could buy our very own place together instead of living in his (and his exes) house. I won't be offended if you all tell me I'm a complete freak! x
2007-09-30 23:47:36 · 5 answers · asked by juicy_satsuma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you'd benefit from having your own place as your first step when leaving home. I did. I remember fondly my own little first apartment, where I got to express my new-found grown up ideas and sensitivities and got to discover a lot of things about myself.
It's quite gracious of him to offer to share his home, but it makes sense to decline the offer and continue living apart for now so that you can have this once-in-a-lifetime luxury of starting out on your own.
2007-10-01 00:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl,
I think that's probably the best descision you have made and respect you for that. Your story is so personal and touchy....
In a relationship there's communication and you need to tell him of your feelings. If he really loves you he will respect and honour your wishes... Because chances of him trying to use you on his memory lane with her ex through you are so high..
I say speak out and be heard "sister"
Hope you find all necessary answers and gudluck!!!!!!
2007-10-01 00:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by lady"P" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea not to move in with him...get your own place. In another year get engaged then married then move into your new digs together (or at least buy all new furniture for his place).
2007-09-30 23:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to live there then don't, tell him that you want to wait and buy a house together, simple as that.
2007-09-30 23:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're normal. Tell him how you feel, he should understand if the tables were turned.
2007-09-30 23:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋