Why do stay-at-home mothers think their job is the hardest?

Question

No offense, but I think single mothers who work full time, and raise their kids alone work much harder....I created another thread about stay at home moms and they said "their job is the hardest.'

Yeah right, try being a brain surgeon or a lawyer who works 80 hour weeks WHILE being a parent.

Honestly, how can you say it's the hardest job ever....try being a surgeon and a mother. Try going to graduate school and getting a PhD, MD or JD while being a parent.

That is the most irritating response ever: "being a stay at home mom is the hardest job ever"

Yeah....right

say what you want....it's true , women who work professional jobs AND are mothers work harder and their jobs are harder

Answer 1

it would be a violation to say what i want to say to you. thanx for the 2 pts tho.

Answer 2

I think you are taking the comment out of a specific context and arguing that it does not apply in every context. In that you are correct.

However, how hard it is to be a 'stay-at-home' mom depends on several factors. How many children are there. How well, or badly behaved are they. What is their living environment like? Is there a big yard they go out and play in, or are they confined to an apartment in the city? Many factors come into play here.

The thing is that with most jobs, at some point in the day, let's say 5 in the afternoon a person's "job" is done. They can go home and do something else until it's time to come back to work in the morning. If they have the weekends off, that's even better. Not so with the stay-at-home mom. She never punches out, seven days a week 24 hours a day. If, by chance, she's married to a guy who has a somewhat normal job(not a brain surgeon) and he comes home thinking he's put in his 8 hours and now he's just going to relax that makes the situation much worse. The husband who comes home and chips in, maybe folding some laundry or helping prepare dinner, or cleaning up the kitchen after dinner makes everything more tolerable.

So, the bottom line is this: sometimes, in some family situations, the stay-at-home mom's job is much much harder than the partners. Other times it may not be.

Answer 3

I want to say I have heard at least one person say it but I can't recall the person or when exactly so I'm going to have to say no on the record. I'm also a sahm/wife and I know my job isn't the hardest all the time. I became a sahm almost 3 years ago when my daughter was 9 months old. It was a big adjustment, going from being a full time working mom for 6+ years to being a sahm but I have no regrets. I liked working but the stress of getting to the daycare on time after work, calling off when a kid's sick, paying $800/month in daycare, etc. wasn't worth me missing out on their childhood. Maybe if I had 3 kids under 3 years old I would feel differently, that it was "the hardest there is out there", but I don't. I have a 9 year old, a 3 year old and one on the way. Besides, I don't think of being a sahm or a parent in general is a job. (You didn't say that either, just saying.) It is a responsibility we choose to have so you sign up for the good times and bad...the 2am puke clean ups and the baseball tournament championships.

Answer 4

First off - I wouldn't go as far as to speak for ALL STAY AT HOME MOMS and claim we say "it's the hardest job in the world" How can anyone make that statement about any job. There is not one person on earth that has work EVERY job there is to be able to make that claim. With that said - I do believe being a stay at home mom is a very hard job. It's a constant demand that never stops day or night! There's also nothing better than to be able to spend all that time with your children and watch them grow, because all the money in the world can't bring that back!

Answer 5

Because stay at home Moms are just that "stay at home Moms". They don't get out to mingle with other adults the same way a working Mom would and being around children all day long, has to be the hardest job ever. I love my daughters dearly and when they were young, I thanked my God each and every day for Day Care Centers, Schools and my job, because if I had to spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, every month, every year with those three, I would have had to be committed, um, don't get me wrong, they weren't bad girls but I just needed an out and juggling home and work is hard, but staying at home would have been harder. God Bless.

Answer 6

I stay home with my boys, and homeschool them, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done! That being said, it is definitely NOT the hardest job out there. The hardest part about it, (in my opinion) is coming to terms with being a 'housewife'! It's taken me years to be ok with not bringing in an income, and to be happy with my choice. It is hard, and I frequently question my choice, but you are so right-it's not the most difficult job. It is the most rewarding, as far as I'm concerned, and I'm so glad that I have the opportunity to be with the boys....except when they're pounding on each other! But I also think that people should realize that everything's relative. Every job has some level of difficulty, some level of reward. The thing to do is look for the best in whatever situation you are in.

Answer 7

Stay at home mom to me job is harder. I can not stay at home and not work. Yes it is hard working and taking care of children. But me going to work is when I get away. That to me is the piece of cake. Stay at home moms have a little more on their plate. That is the real ladies, not the ones sitting on their butts waiting fo someone to take care of them.

It does not really matter what you job is. Stay at home mom, Doctor, store clerk, self employed, working is working. A mom is a mom 24 hours a day.
Don't judge until you walk those shoes.

Answer 8

Who made this a contest? If you want a pat on the back, just say so. Thank you for working hard at both a profession and as a parent.


Once piece of advice. Get some counseling before you explode. You are obviously on the edge if you seriously believe that any of this matters.

Answer 9

i guest you are someone who works ...its difficult because even on week end the workof a mother is the same as for some one who has a job outside the house can relax after leaving the office but its not the case of a mum at home .especially when kids fell ill at night its the mother who look after the child .try to do it .morning wake up .take a bath then bath the kids and prepare them for school ,prepare their lunch for school,leave them in the bus or van for school,clean the house ,wash the dishes ,put the machine to wash the clothes,then put it in the sun to let it dry,go to the market,iron the clothes ,take back the kids from school,help them with home work,give them tea or something to drink after school,prepare dinner,give them their bath get the dry clothes .if this is not a hard day working then tell me what it is....

Answer 10

its true, working and being a single is harder than a stay at home mom. It doesnt matter what your job is, you work all day long and have to come home and take care of kid(s), believe me stay at home moms have it alot easier then single parents who have no choice but to work.

Answer 11

I THINK U NEED HELP AND HAVE ISSUES...now that being said. a full time moms work isnt so say the hardest but it never ends. even a mom that works 80 hrs a week gets a break from her home life. now go take ur meds....lol