My sister is getting married and because they've got everything they possibly need - they don't want gifts, they prefer cash donations towards their Fiji honeymoon.
Can you think of a poem that is funny, not greedy, and romantic that I can attach to the wedding invitations?
I'll jump through the computer and kiss you if you come up with the right one! Please help!
2007-09-30 22:35:24 · 16 answers · asked by Raquel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't bother with the poem just get them to talk to their travel agent and set up a honeymoon registry for the rest of the costs. It's easy to do and because people see it as a registry rather then outright asking for money they usually don't think it is too greedy.
Having said that even if a couple has registered at a regular store I tend to give them money anyway simply because you know it is a present they will definately use and appreciate (what young couple doesn't need money?). So no matter what they do it is likely they will get some money anyway even without asking.
2007-09-30 22:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't do this. To tell people that an event is happening on a certain day, tell that they are welcome to attend, and simultaneously indicate that compensation is expected -- well, that isn't issuing invitations at all, it's selling tickets. Kind of like those "free" concerts where you're required to donate a new, still in the wrapper toy and they turn you away if the toy doesn't meet their standards.
This sort of thing wasn't a problem before The Wedding Industry invented those cute but mostly useless (not to mention time consuming and costly to put stamps on) little RSVP cards. The old fashioned way to handle RSVP was putting a phone number beside or beneath the RSVP. The return calls could be made by family and friends so it didn't involve too much work for any one person.
During these phone calls, people would ASK what sort of gift the couple might enjoy or find useful. If they ASK, then it's OK to tell them. Just make sure that your telling isn't too restrictive. A bare "They're registered at Neimann-Marcus" or "They want cash" is too much like ordering your guests about. Be prepared to give an answer with several alternatives, like "They're registered at Neimann-Marcus; they both love classic movies on DVD, and I know they are saving up for the honeymoon would appreciate contribtions."
The switch from phone RSVP from those cute little cards has created two other problems. First, people ignore the "Will two, one, or none of these guests be attending?" question is crossed out and "five" written in; on the phone this sort of presumption can be nipped in the bud. Second, you pay for printing the silly cards (isn't that the motivation for everything The Wedding Industry does? to get money out of you?), pay for a stamp for each one, and sit there for an hour putting the stamps on.
Use that hour to be become slightly familiear with MS Excel and you will keep track of your guests much better than with cards. Congrats & best wishes.
2007-10-01 01:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there is no cute way even with a poem to ask for money. It is understandable that this is 2007, not 1967, so many brides and grooms have everything. But the old fashioned etiquette never goes out of style, and this is simply that NO MENTION of gifts AT ALL is to be included in the invitation. This would be the same rule even if they were registering somewhere.
What they can do, though, is simply not register anywhere. Once people find out that they are not registered, most will just put some money in a card. People do not give their guests enough credit....people WILL figure it out! But, pleeeeeeeeeeeese.....don't attach it to the invitation!
2007-10-01 15:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tacky, tacky, tacky. You NEVER mention gifts in an invitation (unless it's a shower, the sole purpose of which is to give gifts--the you can give registry information, or have a gift-giving theme). The bride and groom should be sure to tell all members of the bridal party, parents and siblings that they'd prefer cash gifts so that if anyone asks any of them for a gift suggestion, they can pass along that the couple would appreciate money to put towards their honeymoon. That's as forward as you can get.
2007-10-01 02:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your question is about wedding gifts that is not material but instead a "cash" present. my brod during the nuptial day, some gave material gifts and some were cash. it depends on the giver!
but you are asking here of a poem that you want to attach for the wedding invitation on how to write it that will not sense "greedy". would it sound greedy or not, the person who will receive your invitation, i guess, would have a second thought and might have the possibility to reject the invitation instead. even if it sounds funny, as long he/she is not naive, your point is to let them bring on the wedding day the cash and not the gifts. i doubt this kind of wedding of party is only for close friends/normal friends and not inviting government officials, lawyers, teachers and the like coz you will never see one of them if that will be the kind of your invitation.
<>at any rate, congratulations!!!
2007-09-30 23:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by ~o0o~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, this is a huge etiquette rule breaker. I don't care if each person that comes to the wedding ends up buying them the same toaster, don't ask for or even hint at cash for a wedding. It's tacky and rude, and there is not cute little poem in the world that will make it seem otherwise.
2007-10-01 03:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by L H 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't write anything. I believe they have honeymoon registries now. Plus any mention of money or gifts or registries in the wedding invite is very tacky.
2007-10-01 08:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't need presents, just some cents
We're happy to have you at this time of joy
Come and join us, we don't need any toys
For you we'll always have room
All we need is donations for our honeymoon!
If you want us to be happy
Don't give us anything crappy!!
Ok but seriously, there is no real good way to ask for money, if you wanted to tell people outside of the invitation, like if they call and ask what they need, then tell them! Otherwise, it does sound weird and greedy, no matter how you put it on an invitation.
2007-09-30 23:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not a good idea. No matter how cutesy you make it, it can only come off as rude and greedy. If they can't afford the honeymoon, they should delay it or scale back. It's not up to their guests to send them on one!
2007-10-01 01:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
how many times, and how many ways, are you going to ask this question???????????? you've asked it several times in different categories! get a life!
meanwhile its rude, its tacky and its just plain white trash ignorant to ask for a gift and especially to ask for money
if you want honesty then heres what you say:
piggy bride and greedy groom
only want cash for their honeymoon
if you've bought a gift we don't want it
take it back and give us cash!
2007-10-04 15:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by itsjustyouandmebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋